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Anonymous wrote:Yes you’re being unreasonable. I IF as well and don’t expect others to follow the same eating window as I do. Especially kids. Make their lunch while you prepare yours and set it aside for them.

Ok, then how do I explain to my manager why I'm not at my computer?

What do you mean? How much time does it take to make their lunch?

10-15 minutes, but I miss a lot of emails in that amount of time.

Get a nanny or use daycare. You are working.

This is the crux of the whole problem.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes you’re being unreasonable. I IF as well and don’t expect others to follow the same eating window as I do. Especially kids. Make their lunch while you prepare yours and set it aside for them.

Ok, then how do I explain to my manager why I'm not at my computer?

You didn't mention this issue in your original post

I do IF. I can definitely wait an extra 30 minutes to eat. Drink water.

Anonymous wrote:The issue is that we eat leftovers, so once I heat stuff up, I can't leave it sitting out.

That’s your issue. Let them have something else.

My son was 5 years old when he made peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, added chips to the plate and poured their drinks. His sister was 3 and I was on the couch with a migraine and DH was working. OP, be flexible about what they eat and teach them how to make a sandwich. Or buy lunchables.
You’re being the stubborn one here.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes you’re being unreasonable. I IF as well and don’t expect others to follow the same eating window as I do. Especially kids. Make their lunch while you prepare yours and set it aside for them.

Ok, then how do I explain to my manager why I'm not at my computer?

What do you mean? How much time does it take to make their lunch?

10-15 minutes, but I miss a lot of emails in that amount of time.

Get a nanny or use daycare. You are working.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. As an employer, it is unreasonable for you to have two lunch breaks because of your lack of child care and unreasonably rigid meal schedule that you chose.

Yes it is unreasonable for your children to eat when they are not hungry yet. You are an adult and if anyone in this scenario needs to adjust, it’s you. It will not kill you to eat at 12 instead of 11:30.

Yes it is unreasonable that your children cannot make their own lunch at their current ages. If they are truly so helpless, pack them a lunch in the morning and they can take it out of the lunchbox or fridge when they are ready.

What kind of jobs are you people working in where someone would even notice you were gone for 15 minutes?

Typical DCUM privilege.

OP is WFH, so it’s a valid question.

Why do moms believe that their kids desires should always override their own needs?

Sexist and anti feminist backlash. Read The Mommy Myth.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s unreasonable to force kids to eat when they aren’t hungry just because that’s your own preference. Why can’t you wait longer to eat? Because you prefer to eat when you’re hungry? Goes both ways.

Because I'm starving and can't snack like they all morning.

Why don't you have a 12 oz glass of water and some carrots, celery and cucumber while you wait 20-30 minutes until you can all eat together at 12:00.

You can have a pre-lunch snack, one that will take the edge off your hunger and allow you to wait 20-30 minutes longer for a meal.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes you’re being unreasonable. I IF as well and don’t expect others to follow the same eating window as I do. Especially kids. Make their lunch while you prepare yours and set it aside for them.

Ok, then how do I explain to my manager why I'm not at my computer?

You need the hire childcare, obviously. Just because you are working from home does mean you don’t need childcare.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. As an employer, it is unreasonable for you to have two lunch breaks because of your lack of child care and unreasonably rigid meal schedule that you chose.

Yes it is unreasonable for your children to eat when they are not hungry yet. You are an adult and if anyone in this scenario needs to adjust, it’s you. It will not kill you to eat at 12 instead of 11:30.

Yes it is unreasonable that your children cannot make their own lunch at their current ages. If they are truly so helpless, pack them a lunch in the morning and they can take it out of the lunchbox or fridge when they are ready.

What kind of jobs are you people working in where someone would even notice you were gone for 15 minutes?

In a prior role I managed a help desk. When people leave their desk, they have to mark themselves unavailable so calls are not routed to them. I currently manage a team the processes a queue of requests with a quick turnaround. I need them to stagger lunches because when no one accepts a requests, angry execs start calling my boss to complain.

What about a mandatory water break for the kids during your lunch break? They can sit at the table and have a glass of water, and practice being good company. Schools and camps do water breaks, so why not at home?

If you have the space and budget, a separate mini-fridge (beverage fridge, repurposed wine fridge, etc) is great for organizing snacks and the cold lunch items. Each kid can have a shelf (or shelves) with their names on it or on a tray, and sections for AM vs PM snacks. Morning snacks might be lighter fare, so the kids stand a chance of becoming hungry by noon. If the morning snacks have been light, and they are sitting there watching OP eat (while drinking water) and then smell the hot lunch on their plates there is a good chance they will eat at that moment. Then they can go to their labeled tray in the mini-fridge when ready for afternoon snack.

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s perfectly reasonable to have lunch at 11:30. Just like during the school year, children don’t set the times for lunch.

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:Yes because who wants to eat when they aren't hungry! It is not reasonable to expect someone to eat when their body is telling them they don't need to.

But just make their lunch at the same time as yours and put the plates in the fridge -- when they are hungry, they can pull them out.

Better yet, teach your kids to make a sandwich and grab some fruit from the fridge on their own.

The bolded is correct and you are being selfish. They should learn to eat when they're hungry, not when it's convenient for mommy.

Uh, Mommy is/wasovr 300lbs. I don't think listening to her body (or DCUM consensus) is in her wheelhouse.

oh baloney. you make all the lunches at the same time. if they don't want to eat, just plate it and heat it up when they are ready. or make them finger foods that they can graze on.

it's not that hard.