Anonymous
08/15/2022 18:05
Subject: 24 year old DD angry at her dad post-divorce
You left your husband and destroyed family because you got different hobbies? LAME
Anonymous
08/15/2022 18:02
Subject: 24 year old DD angry at her dad post-divorce
You need to tell her the truth so she can be mad at the right person.
Anonymous
08/02/2022 10:59
Subject: 24 year old DD angry at her dad post-divorce
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She’s jealous. It’s Oedipal. This is why if I date a divorced man, I only date men who have sons. No daughters. Even grown daughters can cause problems.
And sometimes it's the new lady is his life who causes the problems--sometimes even with the sons.
My divorced dad also took up with someone new as I left for college; my brother was in high school. New gal was super kind to me (and my brother!) until the ring went on the finger. Bye-bye you pesky "children from the first marriage." No need to play nice any longer. The cracks in the parent relationship started and here we are decades later, surprisingly not in contact with either.
You mean the day they married is the day stepmom became wicked? FWIW I've also seen situations where SM was nice, kept trying to be nice but kids never accepted her. Kids remained unfriendly and dismissive for decades, well into their adulthood. Dropping the rope was about the only option.
Getting remarried seems to be turning point. It's OK for girlfriends/boyfriends but when legal marriage takes place, questions about assets and inheritance are bound to crop up from older kids. Many times prompted by the other parent.
Anonymous
08/02/2022 09:11
Subject: 24 year old DD angry at her dad post-divorce
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She’s jealous. It’s Oedipal. This is why if I date a divorced man, I only date men who have sons. No daughters. Even grown daughters can cause problems.
And sometimes it's the new lady is his life who causes the problems--sometimes even with the sons.
My divorced dad also took up with someone new as I left for college; my brother was in high school. New gal was super kind to me (and my brother!) until the ring went on the finger. Bye-bye you pesky "children from the first marriage." No need to play nice any longer. The cracks in the parent relationship started and here we are decades later, surprisingly not in contact with either.
You mean the day they married is the day stepmom became wicked? FWIW I've also seen situations where SM was nice, kept trying to be nice but kids never accepted her. Kids remained unfriendly and dismissive for decades, well into their adulthood. Dropping the rope was about the only option.
Anonymous
08/01/2022 18:41
Subject: 24 year old DD angry at her dad post-divorce
Anonymous wrote:She’s jealous. It’s Oedipal. This is why if I date a divorced man, I only date men who have sons. No daughters. Even grown daughters can cause problems.
And sometimes it's the new lady is his life who causes the problems--sometimes even with the sons.
My divorced dad also took up with someone new as I left for college; my brother was in high school. New gal was super kind to me (and my brother!) until the ring went on the finger. Bye-bye you pesky "children from the first marriage." No need to play nice any longer. The cracks in the parent relationship started and here we are decades later, surprisingly not in contact with either.
Anonymous
08/01/2022 18:40
Subject: 24 year old DD angry at her dad post-divorce
You need to tell her the truth OP. That's the right thing to do.
Anonymous
08/01/2022 18:17
Subject: 24 year old DD angry at her dad post-divorce
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd tell him it was your idea to divorce. This isn't fair. I have a hunch that while you may have told her it was a joint decision, she's pinning it on him.
This. She may even think he was having an affair. Tell her it was your idea. Why wouldn’t you tell her the truth?
What if he was having an affair and was relieved when OP asked for divorce. What if he was wishing for a divorce when OP happened to ask? Does that change the story. Maybe he has a good reason why he wants these things to be left alone.
What if the OP was having an affair? She already wanted a divorce.
That is why it's between OP and her ex. This is what her ex wants, and until he changes his mind, OP should keep quiet.
This is just so dishonest and manipulative.
Anonymous
08/01/2022 18:12
Subject: 24 year old DD angry at her dad post-divorce
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd tell him it was your idea to divorce. This isn't fair. I have a hunch that while you may have told her it was a joint decision, she's pinning it on him.
This. She may even think he was having an affair. Tell her it was your idea. Why wouldn’t you tell her the truth?
What if he was having an affair and was relieved when OP asked for divorce. What if he was wishing for a divorce when OP happened to ask? Does that change the story. Maybe he has a good reason why he wants these things to be left alone.
What if the OP was having an affair? She already wanted a divorce.
That is why it's between OP and her ex. This is what her ex wants, and until he changes his mind, OP should keep quiet.
Anonymous
08/01/2022 16:27
Subject: 24 year old DD angry at her dad post-divorce
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd tell him it was your idea to divorce. This isn't fair. I have a hunch that while you may have told her it was a joint decision, she's pinning it on him.
This. She may even think he was having an affair. Tell her it was your idea. Why wouldn’t you tell her the truth?
What if he was having an affair and was relieved when OP asked for divorce. What if he was wishing for a divorce when OP happened to ask? Does that change the story. Maybe he has a good reason why he wants these things to be left alone.
What if the OP was having an affair? She already wanted a divorce.
Anonymous
08/01/2022 16:24
Subject: 24 year old DD angry at her dad post-divorce
Tell her, but don't expect it to fix all of her issues with your ex. My parents tried to explain their divorce was a "joint decision." I was pretty pissed at my mom for a while over it (can't remember why) until I found out (from another family member) that it was really my dad that had caused the divorce. Then I was pissed at both of them for lying to me. It's all good now, but the deception caused a bunch of unnecessary drama and hard feelings.