I find it hard to keep the love alive after he mistreated our first child, mistreated my mother, mistreated me, and denied the mistreatment.

The term is hypergamous. Lots of men on YouTube claiming to be "coaches" on how to date claim that all women are hypergamous, and that it's just "your turn" when you date her. She's destined and preprogrammed to leave you for someone higher status than you.

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Anonymous wrote:Men are not loved unconditionally is the answer. Not like women and children are. Even the best examples here the woman would lose attraction if the guy started acting whiny or had a mental health crisis or some other thing.

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Women typically love their children unconditionally, but not there husbands

As opposed to men who don't love their children unconditionally?? The fact many men dump their wives or stop having sex with them for whatever reason surely means men don't love women unconditionally.

They don’t, and shouldn’t. But women are more likely than men to think they should be loved unconditionally.

What do you mean by this?

Anonymous wrote:Can a man really love a woman independent of what she brings to the table?

Not if she eats everything on the table.

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Anonymous wrote:Men are not loved unconditionally is the answer. Not like women and children are. Even the best examples here the woman would lose attraction if the guy started acting whiny or had a mental health crisis or some other thing.

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Women typically love their children unconditionally, but not there husbands

As opposed to men who don't love their children unconditionally?? The fact many men dump their wives or stop having sex with them for whatever reason surely means men don't love women unconditionally.

They don’t, and shouldn’t. But women are more likely than men to think they should be loved unconditionally.

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible for a woman to love a man independent of his status or wealth or what he brings to the table?

Of course, you sound misogynistic.

(Is it possible for a man to love a woman with no regard to her appearance??)

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible for a woman to love a man independent of his status or wealth or what he brings to the table?

It's more rare for a man to love a woman for who she is. They'd bolt if they have a disabled wife or one who got cancer. There was one who made a kid Edward something in politics cheated on his wife Elizabeth with an ugg faced ho. One man said taking care of his disabled wife was too much for him and he killed himself. So either suicide or pick another woman.

Can a man really love a woman independent of what she brings to the table?

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Anonymous wrote:No, no they can not love a man in the way the man believe he should be loved. In other words, the man will never be loved "unconditionally."
Men are objectified as success objects.

No one should be loved "unconditionally." Your behavior, commitment, etc. determines how you will be loved. It has conditions.

A mans success is part of who he is. You can't separate that. A woman or mans ambition or lack there of. Their education or lack there of is a part of their personality and women judge men on that.

I feel like this same poster has posted a bunch of threads lately. You really need to get over your husband not being as successful as you hoped.

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Anonymous wrote:Men are not loved unconditionally is the answer. Not like women and children are. Even the best examples here the woman would lose attraction if the guy started acting whiny or had a mental health crisis or some other thing.

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Women typically love their children unconditionally, but not there husbands

As opposed to men who don't love their children unconditionally?? The fact many men dump their wives or stop having sex with them for whatever reason surely means men don't love women unconditionally.

Anonymous wrote:Yes! I met my husband when we were both just out of college and had no money of our own, had starter low paying jobs, etc. He was amazing and we fell in love and then managed life together as we became more successful, had kids, etc.

Let me guess, he now makes seven figures and you just had the miraculous foresight to see “his potential.” This same story gets repeated on DCUM daily.

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible for a woman to love a man independent of his status or wealth or what he brings to the table?

There are things someone can bring to the table other than wealth and status. Whenever I read a guy on the internet ask this question, he has nothing going on. Not employed. Not in training. Not in school. Poor social skills. Often, poor hygiene. And he blames his lack of a partner on women being mercenary.

Clearly a case of women are wicked when you’re unwanted.

Anonymous wrote:No, no they can not love a man in the way the man believe he should be loved. In other words, the man will never be loved "unconditionally."
Men are objectified as success objects.

No one should be loved "unconditionally." Your behavior, commitment, etc. determines how you will be loved. It has conditions.

A mans success is part of who he is. You can't separate that. A woman or mans ambition or lack there of. Their education or lack there of is a part of their personality and women judge men on that.

I work in criminal justice. There are a ton of guys incarcerated for decades to life who have girlfriends/wives that love them to the moon. These men have absolutely zero prospects because they are rotting in prison, and yet, there is often a woman who calls, writes, puts money in their prison account on a regular basis.

I think this is strong proof that women can love men without a superficial financial motive

Anonymous wrote:If in your early 20’s it’s all about potential. If In your early 40’s……….

So true, in our early 20’s my DH didn’t have two nickels to rub together but he was well educated, ambitious and a real sweetheart. My parents were concerned because he didn’t have a career underway. 30 years later he is hugely successful and still a sweetheart. But if I was 40 I’d want to see more than just potential.