Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This woman is gestating your kid's cousin, and your husband's niece/nephew, so a bit of kindness is probably in order.

Do better,OP.

And OP was gestation their niece%nephew, etc . . .

I don't think you are making the point that you think you are making.

If it was wrong for SIL to not acknowledge OP's pregnancy, it would also be wrong for OP to not acknowledge SIL's pregnancy.

You know that whole "two wrongs don't make a right" thing?

Anonymous wrote:This woman is gestating your kid's cousin, and your husband's niece/nephew, so a bit of kindness is probably in order.

Do better,OP.

And OP was gestation their niece%nephew, etc . . .

Anonymous wrote:When people show you who they are, believe them.

They don’t GAF about you. That’s fine. Now you know not to expect too much.

And they should not expect too much either.

When people show you who they are, believe them.

They don’t GAF about you. That’s fine. Now you know not to expect too much.

I would give a simple reply every other week.

You could use this as an opportunity for forgivness and to improve the connection between the two families.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she said “I can’t believe I’m pregnant” that points to she either had a miscarriage or had a very hard time getting pregnant the second time. The fact that you failed to imagine this scenario speaks volumes about you.

Haven’t you also figured out by now that no one cares as much as you do about your pregnancies/babies, especially after the first time around?

Oh, she didn’t write that. I didn’t write her text out verbatim. It was like a paragraph.

Did it or did it not include the words “I can’t believe I’m pregnant”? What other parts of this story are you lying about or exaggerating?

Yeah, op leaving out details doesn't help you here. If the text, paragraph long or not, had a "I can't believe I'm pregnant" in all caps tone, then it's likely they struggled with infertility or loss.

And maybe you did too. Remember different people handle it differently.

My sil never congratulated me for one of my pregnancies. We were close-she was my MOH in my wedding . I was really hurt at that time. Then I found out she was fighting cervical cancer and, well, that explained that.

Something else is behind their behavior. It hurt you, but whatever it is/was hurts them more. Try to find the grace to wish them well and enjoy your life.