Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 20:20     Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails


I guess I find the optics of a thermos a little tacky, a little desperate housewife soccer mom on the bleachers. Why not just purchase cocktail ingredients and bring them? Someone else might enjoy a different drink and it doesn’t look quite so clandestine. If you have special dietary needs, bring a dish to share. No one likes the keto weirdo guest who starts unpacking their own personal Tupperware at a dinner party.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 20:05     Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
I stock diet tonic just for my SIL.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 19:58     Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:I hate G&Ts a lot. I think they are gross. I love wine.

My BIL loves G&Ts -- not even a headache thing that's just his drink of choice. Before they come over I make sure I have tonic water, his fav gin brand and nice fresh limes. And I text my SIL to see what she would like bc she doesn't have a signature cocktail like he does.

That's called being a considerate, caring hostess.


Agree.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 19:58     Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is this weird? My family are wine drinkers. If we all hang out together, usually there is beer or wine. We had a Memorial Day barbecue weekend last night and she brought a thermos of her own premixed gin and tonic. She says wine and beer give her a headache. Wouldn't you just not drink in this case, instead of BYO to a family gathering where it isn't offered?? I wonder about saying something to my brother just to check in. Like why would you travel with your own booze thermos??!


I think it’s weird your family hasn’t accommodated her tastes. I can’t imagine not having what makes my SIL feel included available for her. Especially if it’s as simple as gin & tonic.


+1 It feels rude that you know she likes g&t yet you don't provide it. She's found a solution that works for her and yet here you are questioning it. You seem more of the weirdo than your SIL, OP.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 19:46     Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Someone who does this has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and needs to drink and/or get drunk to have a good time.


Ha, I don’t drink and I do this. Well, I don’t bring G & T, although sometimes I bring AF G & T, but I make myself delicious mocktails. Most people have sucky AF options and I’m not drinking plain water or seltzer when everyone else is having delicious beer and wine. So I come packing my own. If I’m with a group of jerks, I’d use an excuse like SIL. If I’m with normal human beings, I just tell them what I brought. Sometimes I bring extra so people can try how great AF options can be, without the hangover.


I'd be interested in your AF drink recipes. Please consider an AMA in the Food forum!
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 19:12     Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Friend was on a several day road trip and traveled w/charcuterie board items in a cooler and bottles of wine. I thought it was unusual and I wondered if, about the wine, I should be concerned. I think the Op's quesiton is reasonable.


Does your friend need a travel companion? She/he sounds like she knows how to make a road trip fun.


+1
I mean, no kidding.


+1

Now I’m going to plan a road trip around wine & a charcuterie board.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 18:50     Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:OP to be clear she does not show other indications of being a problem drinker, but this seemed like a red flag to me.


Are you incredibly bored with your life? That’s the only explanation.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 18:46     Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Friend was on a several day road trip and traveled w/charcuterie board items in a cooler and bottles of wine. I thought it was unusual and I wondered if, about the wine, I should be concerned. I think the Op's quesiton is reasonable.

Why would this concern you? Do you never enjoy wine and charcuterie at home?

I like a drink and some nuts, olives, or cheese during the cocktail hour. I bring them with me when I’m on a road trip because it’s easier than sourcing them on the road for an Airbnb, and much cheaper than room service at a hotel. I also travel with coffee and an Aeropress and cream and sugar. Should I be concerned that I have a coffee problem?
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 18:40     Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
I hate G&Ts a lot. I think they are gross. I love wine.

My BIL loves G&Ts -- not even a headache thing that's just his drink of choice. Before they come over I make sure I have tonic water, his fav gin brand and nice fresh limes. And I text my SIL to see what she would like bc she doesn't have a signature cocktail like he does.

That's called being a considerate, caring hostess.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 17:41     Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Friend was on a several day road trip and traveled w/charcuterie board items in a cooler and bottles of wine. I thought it was unusual and I wondered if, about the wine, I should be concerned. I think the Op's quesiton is reasonable.


Does your friend need a travel companion? She/he sounds like she knows how to make a road trip fun.


+1
I mean, no kidding.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 17:41     Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
So, OP, SIL should drink plain water at a BBQ where everyone else is having beer and wine because you dislike her and are a bad host?
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 17:37     Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Friend was on a several day road trip and traveled w/charcuterie board items in a cooler and bottles of wine. I thought it was unusual and I wondered if, about the wine, I should be concerned. I think the Op's quesiton is reasonable.


Does your friend need a travel companion? She/he sounds like she knows how to make a road trip fun.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 17:30     Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Someone who does this has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and needs to drink and/or get drunk to have a good time.


Ha, I don’t drink and I do this. Well, I don’t bring G & T, although sometimes I bring AF G & T, but I make myself delicious mocktails. Most people have sucky AF options and I’m not drinking plain water or seltzer when everyone else is having delicious beer and wine. So I come packing my own. If I’m with a group of jerks, I’d use an excuse like SIL. If I’m with normal human beings, I just tell them what I brought. Sometimes I bring extra so people can try how great AF options can be, without the hangover.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 16:23     Subject: SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:Friend was on a several day road trip and traveled w/charcuterie board items in a cooler and bottles of wine. I thought it was unusual and I wondered if, about the wine, I should be concerned. I think the Op's quesiton is reasonable.


I mean, was she drinking a bottle a night or something? Was she drinking while driving? Or was she enjoying a glass of wine and some charcuterie? Do you…not get the difference?
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2022 16:22     Subject: Re:SIL travels with her own cocktails
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Someone who does this has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and needs to drink and/or get drunk to have a good time.



OP on disguise 🥸.


LOL! Seriously. Why is it that OP and her family members aren’t alcoholics even though they “need to drink to have a good time” with beer and wine at these BBQs?