Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 15:59     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
What I don't get is...you guys want to bring your kids to a wedding? I'd rather have a night to just enjoy myself with DH while my kid is happy at home (or even in a hotel room) with a sitter. I don't want to be wrangling my kid the whole time.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 15:59     Subject: Re:No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Question for Dc: I’m in an out of town wedding this summer for a childhood friend who does not have kids. I have three young kids. My husband and mom are also invited and attending. We’re all staying at the hotel. She has grudgingly allowed us to have the kids at the ceremony and cocktail hour. Is it rude of me to take her up on it? If they don’t attend, my husband will skip the ceremony and skulk around with them at the hotel (they won’t be dressed up so they can’t really just be around the common areas to watch). If they are half invited, at least I can get them proper outfits and they will probably only hang out for an hour or so before bedtime (ceremony is at 6:30).


I would have just declined the invitation, but that's harder for you to do now that you asked to bring your kids and she said yes.


I’m in the wedding so I can’t decline.


If not bringing your kids was a huge deal I’d ask about it before I agreed to be in the wedding party.


Give me a break. I’m one of two bridesmaids and have known the bride since we were two. I offered to keep the whole family home in DC and come on my own but got grief about not having my husband attend. So I can’t win. Besides, we didn’t discuss her policy on kids when she asked me to be in the wedding. It wasn’t foremost in anyone’s mind.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 15:58     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:The kids in the wedding party are the normal exception. That apparently goes for little dogs, too. Just attended a wedding where a pair of chihuahuas carried the rings. Doesn’t mean everyone else was welcome to bring their fur babies.


Yes, this, OP. I have seen dogs as ring bearers. If you attended such a wedding, would you be pissed your dog was not invited?
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 15:57     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:No kids weddings mean they don't want you there. They just want your gift.

/hard pass


No, it just means they don't want to be in charge of an paying for your child care.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 15:56     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
No kids weddings mean they don't want you there. They just want your gift.

/hard pass
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 15:54     Subject: Re:No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:I understand why it felt frustrating but this is verrrry normal. Of course nieces and nephews usually still come. But it may still be no kids because for some weddings especially if you get married older you could potentially have like 30 kids. It’s ok for a bride and groom to not want that. One rule of weddings is it’s ok for the bride and groom to make choices for the event they want and you are an adult and it’s also ok if you say that is too difficult for me and don’t go, everyone gets a choice. So personally while I understand the feeling of woof that was a lot getting our kids here and watched etc., no I don’t think you can be peeved because you knew the constraints and decided it was important for you to be there


This. We had kids that were blood relatives of the bride and groom--maybe 5 or 6 total--but I was 32 when we got married. If all of our friends brought their kids, it would have added probably 40 kids between the ages of 1 and 8. That would have completely changed the whole tone of the wedding.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 15:54     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:We went way out of our way to go to a wedding, brought the kids because there is no where to leave them, found a babysitter in the wedding town and arrive to see tons of kids at the wedding. They were all "in the wedding party" but still I was really pet peeved to see that they basically allowed the entire grooms family to bring their kids and no one else.

Is that normal? I thought no kids meant 0 kids not even in the wedding party.


Yes, that’s the norm. I’m surprised you haven’t encountered this many times before as it is typical for weddings.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 15:50     Subject: Re:No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Question for Dc: I’m in an out of town wedding this summer for a childhood friend who does not have kids. I have three young kids. My husband and mom are also invited and attending. We’re all staying at the hotel. She has grudgingly allowed us to have the kids at the ceremony and cocktail hour. Is it rude of me to take her up on it? If they don’t attend, my husband will skip the ceremony and skulk around with them at the hotel (they won’t be dressed up so they can’t really just be around the common areas to watch). If they are half invited, at least I can get them proper outfits and they will probably only hang out for an hour or so before bedtime (ceremony is at 6:30).


I would have just declined the invitation, but that's harder for you to do now that you asked to bring your kids and she said yes.


I’m in the wedding so I can’t decline.


If not bringing your kids was a huge deal I’d ask about it before I agreed to be in the wedding party.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 15:47     Subject: No kids wedding...except there were kids.
This is completely and totally normal. Almost every wedding I’ve attended has had this type of arrangement; often family can bring kids or kids in the wedding party/of people in the wedding party are invited. This doesn’t mean the bride and groom are obligated to invite the entire family of every guest.

If you don’t want to figure out childcare leave your spouse with the kids or decline the invite.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 15:47     Subject: Re:No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Question for Dc: I’m in an out of town wedding this summer for a childhood friend who does not have kids. I have three young kids. My husband and mom are also invited and attending. We’re all staying at the hotel. She has grudgingly allowed us to have the kids at the ceremony and cocktail hour. Is it rude of me to take her up on it? If they don’t attend, my husband will skip the ceremony and skulk around with them at the hotel (they won’t be dressed up so they can’t really just be around the common areas to watch). If they are half invited, at least I can get them proper outfits and they will probably only hang out for an hour or so before bedtime (ceremony is at 6:30).


I would have just declined the invitation, but that's harder for you to do now that you asked to bring your kids and she said yes.


I’m in the wedding so I can’t decline.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 15:36     Subject: Re:No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:Question for Dc: I’m in an out of town wedding this summer for a childhood friend who does not have kids. I have three young kids. My husband and mom are also invited and attending. We’re all staying at the hotel. She has grudgingly allowed us to have the kids at the ceremony and cocktail hour. Is it rude of me to take her up on it? If they don’t attend, my husband will skip the ceremony and skulk around with them at the hotel (they won’t be dressed up so they can’t really just be around the common areas to watch). If they are half invited, at least I can get them proper outfits and they will probably only hang out for an hour or so before bedtime (ceremony is at 6:30).


I would have just declined the invitation, but that's harder for you to do now that you asked to bring your kids and she said yes.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 15:23     Subject: Re:No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Question for Dc: I’m in an out of town wedding this summer for a childhood friend who does not have kids. I have three young kids. My husband and mom are also invited and attending. We’re all staying at the hotel. She has grudgingly allowed us to have the kids at the ceremony and cocktail hour. Is it rude of me to take her up on it? If they don’t attend, my husband will skip the ceremony and skulk around with them at the hotel (they won’t be dressed up so they can’t really just be around the common areas to watch). If they are half invited, at least I can get them proper outfits and they will probably only hang out for an hour or so before bedtime (ceremony is at 6:30).
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 13:55     Subject: Re:No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Anonymous wrote:That is why I only go to no kid weddings of very close friends and family members.


Do you really bring your kids to weddings of not so close friends? This seems so odd.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 13:33     Subject: Re:No kids wedding...except there were kids.
That is why I only go to no kid weddings of very close friends and family members.
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2022 13:09     Subject: Re:No kids wedding...except there were kids.
Normal, family is family and kids are family. Adult friends are adult friends and there is no need to include them.