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Anonymous wrote:Women consider intercourse different because it has the possibility of pregnancy.

THIS! Plus much greater risk of STDs for the woman.

Hopefully he doesn’t get cold sores…

Anonymous wrote:Women consider intercourse different because it has the possibility of pregnancy.

THIS! Plus much greater risk of STDs for the woman.

Women consider intercourse different because it has the possibility of pregnancy.

You’re already doing sexual things with him so why hold out on the P in V? It just doesn’t make sense to me

Also, if he hasn’t chosen you after three months, I don’t think he will.

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Anonymous wrote:Oral sex is sex. OP’s subject line makes no sense - she’s already given up the goods without the commitment.

Lots of (most?) people don’t mean that when they say sex, captain obtuse. In any case, context clues make it obvious that op doesn’t mean that.

DP here. They might not mean that when they say sex, but in reality it is sex, whether they mean it or not. Any penetration of a person’s body with a P is sex.
Have you never heard the phrase, “penetration, no matter how slight”?

Ok, incel.

Um, no, I’m a woman who knows what sex is. I came of age before people started talking about oral sex as “not sex” and made decisions about how much I wanted to do with guys with a pretty good idea of what constituted having sex and made my decisions accordingly.

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Anonymous wrote:Oral sex is sex. OP’s subject line makes no sense - she’s already given up the goods without the commitment.

Lots of (most?) people don’t mean that when they say sex, captain obtuse. In any case, context clues make it obvious that op doesn’t mean that.

Sorry Grandma, but oral is sex. And yes, most people absolutely think oral = sex. It’s 2022. Get with the times.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oral sex is sex. OP’s subject line makes no sense - she’s already given up the goods without the commitment.

Lots of (most?) people don’t mean that when they say sex, captain obtuse. In any case, context clues make it obvious that op doesn’t mean that.

DP here. They might not mean that when they say sex, but in reality it is sex, whether they mean it or not. Any penetration of a person’s body with a P is sex.
Have you never heard the phrase, “penetration, no matter how slight”?

Ok, incel.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oral sex is sex. OP’s subject line makes no sense - she’s already given up the goods without the commitment.

Lots of (most?) people don’t mean that when they say sex, captain obtuse. In any case, context clues make it obvious that op doesn’t mean that.

DP here. They might not mean that when they say sex, but in reality it is sex, whether they mean it or not. Any penetration of a person’s body with a P is sex.
Have you never heard the phrase, “penetration, no matter how slight”?

Anonymous wrote:Oral sex is sex. OP’s subject line makes no sense - she’s already given up the goods without the commitment.

Lots of (most?) people don’t mean that when they say sex, captain obtuse. In any case, context clues make it obvious that op doesn’t mean that.

Oral sex is sex. OP’s subject line makes no sense - she’s already given up the goods without the commitment.

Anonymous wrote:So you can give and receive oral, fingers, etc but PIV is too intimate when you regularly spend hours in bed doing everything else. none of this makes sense

Don’t be a creep. You sound like someone trying to convince a reluctant partner not wanting to try an@l they’re being prudish. People are allowed to have preferences and boundaries and it’s really behind the times to try to shame them about it.

Having said that, op it’s clear this isn’t a good match and you guys should just break up-he clearly doesn’t want a relationship which is his prerogative.

So you can give and receive oral, fingers, etc but PIV is too intimate when you regularly spend hours in bed doing everything else. none of this makes sense

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Anonymous wrote:He sounds like an asshole. Don't let him do anything/ Bye!

Why does he sound like an asshole?

After 3 months if he doesn’t know if he wants a relationship- the answer is that he doesn’t want a relationship. No answer is your answer. Either he’s lying about not seeing other people or he’s lying about being into you and stringing you along.

Yes, this 100%, sorry OP.

Anonymous wrote:No ring, no fling.

Ring? For a woman who I don’t already enjoy having sex with?

Anonymous wrote:He’s not that into you. So much easier to be honest with yourself and move on. Ignore the weirdos who act like you are a freak for not wanting sex without a relationship, though. Drop him and move on.

Give me a break. OP is sexually active with this guy. She’s just making a childish distinction between intercourse and “everything but”. If it was so important to OP to have a commitment before sex, she wouldn’t be spending three hours in bed with him.

It’s unusual for adults to want a committed relationship before sex but not freakish. If that’s what OP wants, fine. But going on about their amazing sexual chemistry while he’s putting the d everywhere else and at the same time wanting a commitment before PIV is just so high school.