Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An affair partner or girlfriend getting pregnant on purpose to get him to commit.

In a bad marriage to try to turn it around or prevent the constant “when are you going to work” for a SAHM whose kids are now in school and doesn’t want to work.

I'm a working mom of a one-and-done so this is not about myself, but I've heard this argument about SAHMs before and don't get it. What's the difference between "has another baby because she loves being a mom and wants to do it again" and "doesn't want to go to a paid job"? They are two sides of the same coin. Some women really love being home with their kids longterm. I think that's great for them if they can work it out with their partner and financially. Having another baby in that situation isn't a "trap". It's pursuing what you want.

This is just such a derogatory and cynical way to talk about women and motherhood.

Did you miss the part where they didn’t “work it out with their partner?”

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was a post about music...

You're thinking of the VON Trapps.

Nope. Trap music. Fetty Wap

It. Was.A. Joke.

Are you always this obtuse?

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my friended. Their marriage was on the rocks and How oldest was 10 and moving onto middle school. She did not want to go back to work so she had another child. The baby is adorable but that marriage is miserable.

Wow. Disgusting. The lengths grown-ass adults will go to in order to avoid getting a job.

I’m a trap baby. Parents have been married 52 years.

My Mom is from another country. My Dad is a Military Officer and good Catholic boy (who believes in premarital sec but not abortion). She never used BC. She says my Dad knew and he was dumb enough to not wear a condom. She got pregnant several times (that he’s unaware of) that ended in MC early in pregnancy. Then I stuck. So being the good catholic boy, he married her (after she threatened to go back to her country to have an abortion).

But being married 52 years doesn’t make it a success story. They had a horrible marriage. They both loved me, but could never figure out how to be married. So they fought the first 25 years all the time (more like my Mom yelled at my Dad while he silently seethed and later acted out passive aggressively). Then the second 25+ years, they’ve figured out how to be roommates that depend on each other, but don’t really like each other.

And it really damaged me. I spent most of my 20’s-30’s in therapy undoing all the damage. Luckily got married at 40 and am happy. But not without a lot of work.

I do wish my parents got a divorce.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I started dating after my divorce, I didn't tell all my partners I had a vasectomy. I dated 3 different women who I swear were trying to get pregnant by me. It's such a common thing and I've warned my son about 100 times. When a woman wants to get pregnant, she does. BC doesn't fail in nearly the numbers claimed by women.

If men don't want kids, they need to take responsibility. Some women may try to "baby trap" but other times contraception pills just fail, especially if you are sick or have stomach issues. Take more responsibility guys and you won't have this problem.

I'm from a military area, and one of my cousins baby trapped a guy for Tricare.

Yes, they do. That's why I've warned my son. Unless he takes control, she Will get pregnant. A young man is foolish to leave BC to the woman. I was foolish, learned the hard way as have many of my friends. If only a man could get a 100% reversable vasectomy at age 15 or so then turn it back on when he and his partner wanted kids.

I disagree about BC pills. They rarely fail when taken as prescribed. The issues where they don't work, like with anti biotic are well known. They always fail when a woman want them to fail

Oh please. Try taking a pill at the exact same time everyday for a month. You’ve never overslept? (If you take them in the morning) OR You’ve never gotten busy with work and lost track of time? Or literally any other little thing that gets in the way? The thing with birth control pills is that you can be perfect 999 out of 1000 and still end up pregnant. All it takes is one day where you forget.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An affair partner or girlfriend getting pregnant on purpose to get him to commit.

In a bad marriage to try to turn it around or prevent the constant “when are you going to work” for a SAHM whose kids are now in school and doesn’t want to work.

I'm a working mom of a one-and-done so this is not about myself, but I've heard this argument about SAHMs before and don't get it. What's the difference between "has another baby because she loves being a mom and wants to do it again" and "doesn't want to go to a paid job"? They are two sides of the same coin. Some women really love being home with their kids longterm. I think that's great for them if they can work it out with their partner and financially. Having another baby in that situation isn't a "trap". It's pursuing what you want.

This is just such a derogatory and cynical way to talk about women and motherhood.

It’s absolutely a trap if the husband wants the wife back at work and doesn’t want more kids.

All she has to do is…not go back to work. That’s much easier than having a baby. What her husband wants does not dictate her choices.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was a post about music...

You're thinking of the VON Trapps.

No, I am thinking about trap music...

I was thinking trap houses and I was like no way anyone on dcum is having babies in a trap house

We're a bunch of crack hos. I mean crackas.

I haven't heard that term in a while and with such flair... crackas.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was a post about music...

You're thinking of the VON Trapps.

No, I am thinking about trap music...

I was thinking trap houses and I was like no way anyone on dcum is having babies in a trap house

We're a bunch of crack hos. I mean crackas.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was a post about music...

You're thinking of the VON Trapps.

No, I am thinking about trap music...

I was thinking trap houses and I was like no way anyone on dcum is having babies in a trap house

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An affair partner or girlfriend getting pregnant on purpose to get him to commit.

In a bad marriage to try to turn it around or prevent the constant “when are you going to work” for a SAHM whose kids are now in school and doesn’t want to work.

I'm a working mom of a one-and-done so this is not about myself, but I've heard this argument about SAHMs before and don't get it. What's the difference between "has another baby because she loves being a mom and wants to do it again" and "doesn't want to go to a paid job"? They are two sides of the same coin. Some women really love being home with their kids longterm. I think that's great for them if they can work it out with their partner and financially. Having another baby in that situation isn't a "trap". It's pursuing what you want.

This is just such a derogatory and cynical way to talk about women and motherhood.

It’s absolutely a trap if the husband wants the wife back at work and doesn’t want more kids.

+1. I posted upthread about somebody I know who stopped taking BC without her husband’s knowledge or agreement because she didn’t want to go back to work. I think it behooves any man in the dating game to take responsibility for preventing pregnancy, but one should be able to trust his own spouse.

She my trap queen, let her hit the bando🎼

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I started dating after my divorce, I didn't tell all my partners I had a vasectomy. I dated 3 different women who I swear were trying to get pregnant by me. It's such a common thing and I've warned my son about 100 times. When a woman wants to get pregnant, she does. BC doesn't fail in nearly the numbers claimed by women.

How did you know?

(And no, I’m not trying to baby trap a man. I’m done having kids and my shop is closed for business).

They wanted me to finish in them when I knew they weren't on BC saying, oh it's OK, nothing to worry about.

Are you rich?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An affair partner or girlfriend getting pregnant on purpose to get him to commit.

In a bad marriage to try to turn it around or prevent the constant “when are you going to work” for a SAHM whose kids are now in school and doesn’t want to work.

I'm a working mom of a one-and-done so this is not about myself, but I've heard this argument about SAHMs before and don't get it. What's the difference between "has another baby because she loves being a mom and wants to do it again" and "doesn't want to go to a paid job"? They are two sides of the same coin. Some women really love being home with their kids longterm. I think that's great for them if they can work it out with their partner and financially. Having another baby in that situation isn't a "trap". It's pursuing what you want.

This is just such a derogatory and cynical way to talk about women and motherhood.

It’s absolutely a trap if the husband wants the wife back at work and doesn’t want more kids.

He really didn’t want to use condoms and I was a stupid teen.

He told me he couldn’t get anyone pregnant, that he was sterile. He also promised to pull out, if it would make me feel better. We had sex three times.

I got pregnant.

How’d it go? He decided it was too hard to handle and ghosted me. It was awful. I had an abortion. That was awful, too. I was very depressed for years. I tried to kill myself.

I found out later he’s gotten another girl pregnant a year before me. Years later he found me and wrote me a letter about how he fantasized about me showing up on his doorstep with his kid one day.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was a post about music...

You're thinking of the VON Trapps.

No, I am thinking about trap music...