Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 08:14     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
Anonymous wrote:Preschool is to give mom/dad a break. Or it was for me. A breather from the constant two kids needing attention and touch. They don't need to LEARN anything academic. They are learning all of the time. The interaction is good - if they like it. But you can have interactions at home, at the grocery store, at the library, at the park. I liked a half-day nursery school b/c I got some exercise (Walking hem there in the double stroller was work!!) and I got a chance to not have them clinging to me all the time, and I met some awesome parents who had the best kids.

But. A housekeeper could fulfill what your wife needs/wants.



All of this.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 08:13     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
Preschool is to give mom/dad a break. Or it was for me. A breather from the constant two kids needing attention and touch. They don't need to LEARN anything academic. They are learning all of the time. The interaction is good - if they like it. But you can have interactions at home, at the grocery store, at the library, at the park. I liked a half-day nursery school b/c I got some exercise (Walking hem there in the double stroller was work!!) and I got a chance to not have them clinging to me all the time, and I met some awesome parents who had the best kids.

But. A housekeeper could fulfill what your wife needs/wants.

Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 08:04     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
Anonymous wrote:Half day church-based preschools are not very expensive. If you can, go every other week with the housecleaner and put your child in a 3-5 day program depending on the cost.


Maybe they don't like church based programs.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 08:02     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
Half day church-based preschools are not very expensive. If you can, go every other week with the housecleaner and put your child in a 3-5 day program depending on the cost.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 07:48     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
What a preschool kid needs is some learning activities, some playtime, some outdoor activities, some social interaction and lots of love. Attending a full time school is only a necessity if parents are physically or emotionally present to take care of them.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 07:45     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
If having a cleaner helps her focus better on family then it’s worth keeping the cleaner, child is getting plenty of socializing and activities at YMCA. She can spend more time teaching/ playing with him and also arrange some 101 play dates.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 07:43     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't cool with getting rid of weekly house cleaning so we can pay for preschool. She has a part-time job on the weekends as a concierge. She's been a stay-at-home mom since our oldest was born. I am on board with her working or not working. Our first child was invited to public preschool because he was in an early intervention program. The second child's preschool won't be free. He goes to the YMCA at least four times a week for two hours a day, and they swim for another hour. My wife thinks gym childcare can provide a preschool experience.


Cool flex bro but obviously you don’t make enough money for her not to work or you could afford preschool.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 07:38     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't cool with getting rid of weekly house cleaning so we can pay for preschool. She has a part-time job on the weekends as a concierge. She's been a stay-at-home mom since our oldest was born. I am on board with her working or not working. Our first child was invited to public preschool because he was in an early intervention program. The second child's preschool won't be free. He goes to the YMCA at least four times a week for two hours a day, and they swim for another hour. My wife thinks gym childcare can provide a preschool experience.


If she is reading and playing with him, he is getting social interaction and activities at YMCA and with school going sibling, he is fine. Preschool isn’t necessary in this case.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 07:33     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would DH clean when he works full-time, and DW doesn’t and has been given the option not to?


Because he is a part of the family and contributes to the messes.


She’s home more often than he is. The gym is not replacing preschool. If nothing else preschool will get him ready for structured class and given him interactions with his peers.

Sad to miss out on that because mom doesn’t want to clean her own home herself on occasion.


The play based preschools fo little to prepare kids. It’s good enough except if they go to a more structured one with academics.


Wow, are people really this ignorant? All the child development experts agree that play-based preschools are the gold standard for preschool.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 07:30     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So she takes care of the kids all week and then comes home to your weekend messes after work? She probably works to afford help!


One of the kids is in school for most of the day… She also was given the option to not work …


One of her kids is also special needs.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 07:23     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
Give her both. Happy wife, happy life, and all.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 07:13     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you willing to help clean?


What a strange question considering *she* isn't.


Who do you think does the daily cleaning? Washing the dishes and such? Plenty of stay-at-home parents has help. It could be a nanny, meal prep, or cleaning. It's not a big deal.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 07:07     Subject: Re:Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
So clean the house yourself should she’s working. That’s what you expect her to do while you’re working, right? Wy do you think you’re above housecleaning but she is not?
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 07:06     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
Anonymous wrote:Are you willing to help clean?


What a strange question considering *she* isn't.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2022 06:51     Subject: Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool
Anonymous wrote:I agree with you Op. she seems lazy and has her priorities backwards. - mother


Same.