Anonymous
Post 04/10/2022 21:09     Subject: Re:Busy as a mark of superiority
Anonymous wrote:Tale as old as time, and so, so dull.

We’re all busy. Bragging or competing about it is just a sign of insecurity (‘look at me! I’m busy/Aka ‘needed’).

Ignore, dismiss, and find people who measure their own worth in ways beyond what they can trumpet to other people.


I have 3 kids and a Dh with a demanding job with inflexible hours.

My kids often have conflicts and we are busy. I don’t necessarily think each of my kids alone is busy. I feel busy juggling the 3 kids. We often have conflicts or overlaps.

Who brags about being busy? I am just busy. Who would I go tell about my busy day? Anyone with more than 2 kids knows it is hard to juggle sports and activities.

I think some people feel insecure because they don’t do a lot with their kids. It is not busy people trying to brag about their business because they are insecure.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2022 20:39     Subject: Re:Busy as a mark of superiority
Anonymous wrote:Outside of the parenting, this carries over into the workplace. The "I'm so busy" people are sometimes not the busiest, but like to hear themselves say it. I think it's a societal issue that unless we're so busy we can't breathe we don't feel like we're doing enough. We don't value downtime, so hence we always have to say we're busy.
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When my kids were younger and I was lonely, often the people I reached out to said they were so busy. I was thinking "I'm not". I wasn't sure if they just always said they were busy, or didn't like me.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2022 11:18     Subject: Busy as a mark of superiority
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Like pps mentioned, they're probably scrolling social media even if too "busy" for books/TV.


Well sure, some people have a quick few minutes to catch up on instagram in between kid chores and laundry, but not a whole chunk of time to watch Love is Blind.


They should use the tracker built into their device to see how many minutes that “quick few minutes” adds up to multiple times during the day (hint: a LOT).

And that’s fine if that’s how you choose to spend your time, but then spare us the sob story about how you’re soooooooo buuuuuusy.


Fun fact: I use screen time to track this because I worry about that kind of thing. I spend less than an hour on social media every day including this site. So even if I was willing to watch a show in 7 minute chunks (which sounds super unappealing by the way), I still wouldn’t get in a whole episode a day. I listen to a lot of nonfiction podcasts for my entertainment these days because I find them easier to dip in and out of.


It’s not bad. I use a breast pump once or twice a day, 10-15 minutes each time, and watch Netflix while I pump and at no other time. So it takes me forever to get through a series, but I do it, and it’s fun! It helps that many series these days are only 5-10 episodes long instead of 20+
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2022 10:28     Subject: Busy as a mark of superiority
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Like pps mentioned, they're probably scrolling social media even if too "busy" for books/TV.


Well sure, some people have a quick few minutes to catch up on instagram in between kid chores and laundry, but not a whole chunk of time to watch Love is Blind.


They should use the tracker built into their device to see how many minutes that “quick few minutes” adds up to multiple times during the day (hint: a LOT).

And that’s fine if that’s how you choose to spend your time, but then spare us the sob story about how you’re soooooooo buuuuuusy.


Fun fact: I use screen time to track this because I worry about that kind of thing. I spend less than an hour on social media every day including this site. So even if I was willing to watch a show in 7 minute chunks (which sounds super unappealing by the way), I still wouldn’t get in a whole episode a day. I listen to a lot of nonfiction podcasts for my entertainment these days because I find them easier to dip in and out of.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2022 10:12     Subject: Busy as a mark of superiority
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Like pps mentioned, they're probably scrolling social media even if too "busy" for books/TV.


Well sure, some people have a quick few minutes to catch up on instagram in between kid chores and laundry, but not a whole chunk of time to watch Love is Blind.


They should use the tracker built into their device to see how many minutes that “quick few minutes” adds up to multiple times during the day (hint: a LOT).

And that’s fine if that’s how you choose to spend your time, but then spare us the sob story about how you’re soooooooo buuuuuusy.


Two things can be true at the same time. You can only have enough idle time to snatch it up in small chunks throughout the day - and it adds up. It’s still not enough time to watch an entire show.

Reading is a hard one when you have this type of schedule because it’s hard to keep up with a book when you can only read it in short bursts. This is actually one reason I switched to audio books - easier to mop, wipe countertops and fold laundry while listening to a book.


Most people aren’t that conscious of how they spend nonwork time.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2022 10:11     Subject: Busy as a mark of superiority
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Like pps mentioned, they're probably scrolling social media even if too "busy" for books/TV.


Well sure, some people have a quick few minutes to catch up on instagram in between kid chores and laundry, but not a whole chunk of time to watch Love is Blind.


They should use the tracker built into their device to see how many minutes that “quick few minutes” adds up to multiple times during the day (hint: a LOT).

And that’s fine if that’s how you choose to spend your time, but then spare us the sob story about how you’re soooooooo buuuuuusy.


iPhone screen time should help.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2022 06:55     Subject: Busy as a mark of superiority
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Like pps mentioned, they're probably scrolling social media even if too "busy" for books/TV.


Well sure, some people have a quick few minutes to catch up on instagram in between kid chores and laundry, but not a whole chunk of time to watch Love is Blind.


They should use the tracker built into their device to see how many minutes that “quick few minutes” adds up to multiple times during the day (hint: a LOT).

And that’s fine if that’s how you choose to spend your time, but then spare us the sob story about how you’re soooooooo buuuuuusy.


Two things can be true at the same time. You can only have enough idle time to snatch it up in small chunks throughout the day - and it adds up. It’s still not enough time to watch an entire show.

Reading is a hard one when you have this type of schedule because it’s hard to keep up with a book when you can only read it in short bursts. This is actually one reason I switched to audio books - easier to mop, wipe countertops and fold laundry while listening to a book.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2022 00:00     Subject: Re:Busy as a mark of superiority
Tale as old as time, and so, so dull.

We’re all busy. Bragging or competing about it is just a sign of insecurity (‘look at me! I’m busy/Aka ‘needed’).

Ignore, dismiss, and find people who measure their own worth in ways beyond what they can trumpet to other people.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2022 23:28     Subject: Busy as a mark of superiority
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Like pps mentioned, they're probably scrolling social media even if too "busy" for books/TV.


Well sure, some people have a quick few minutes to catch up on instagram in between kid chores and laundry, but not a whole chunk of time to watch Love is Blind.


They should use the tracker built into their device to see how many minutes that “quick few minutes” adds up to multiple times during the day (hint: a LOT).

And that’s fine if that’s how you choose to spend your time, but then spare us the sob story about how you’re soooooooo buuuuuusy.