Anonymous wrote:Why are people so offended by this post? Is it bc you feel judged?

I saw families eating dinner at the park last week and I honestly would have never thought to do that unless I saw it.

DCUM is a place where you can ask questions but you all get so offended when questions are asked!

I think people are getting offended because of the way the OP worded the post. It came off as her judging people. She was talking about putting kids to bed sweaty. She clearly had an air of being better than. Follow up posts, she was covering.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

Daily showering is definitely not just an Asian thing. It is a cross cultural habit for those of us who like to be clean.

I am a mom to my two daughters. They have to bathe or shower everyday. It's good hygiene.

I'm surprised other parents do not have their daughter bathe /shower everyday. I understand it's not necessary for a son.

This is sexist garbage

+1. That has to be a troll. Who tf thinks like that? Girls should always smell like sugar and spice and everything nice?!

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

No. People on this forum act like bathing an average child is a herculean task.

I grew up not bathing daily as a little kid. A couple of times a week, more often in the summer. But not daily. Preteens, sure, they get sweaty and smelly. But it's not about effort, it's just about what you think is normal, and obviously different people have different ideas.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

Your mom raised you right! I’m south Asian born in the us and my mom tried to enforce the same rules, but we got sloppy as older kids and didn’t always follow. Now I’ve married a non Asaian and I’ve long since given up on no shoes. We mostly take them off at the door, but actually often walk from the front door to the back door with the, on. No midroom, no foyer, what can you do? Also, I gave up on daily baths for my kids at some point. They are tweens and mostly shower every other day— older one is daily.

Why are people so offended by this post? Is it bc you feel judged?

I saw families eating dinner at the park last week and I honestly would have never thought to do that unless I saw it.

DCUM is a place where you can ask questions but you all get so offended when questions are asked!

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

Or maybe you want to remove the dust and germs and dirt from their little bodies?


OP we are a family that is at the park late. My kiddo goes to bed at 930. Our kids do not go to bed at 6 or 7. That has always seemed unnatural to me.

How old are your kids? What time do they have to wake up for school?

My kids need A LOT of sleep. They are young (2, 5 and 7) and go to be at 7pm for the youngest and 8:15pm for the older two. They are up around 7/7:30am every morning. School bus picks up at 8:30am.

My child isn't in school yet, younger than 2. I am sure when he starts school our schedule will have to change. But for now I just go with the flow.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

No. People on this forum act like bathing an average child is a herculean task.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

Or maybe you want to remove the dust and germs and dirt from their little bodies?


OP we are a family that is at the park late. My kiddo goes to bed at 930. Our kids do not go to bed at 6 or 7. That has always seemed unnatural to me.

How old are your kids? What time do they have to wake up for school?

My kids need A LOT of sleep. They are young (2, 5 and 7) and go to be at 7pm for the youngest and 8:15pm for the older two. They are up around 7/7:30am every morning. School bus picks up at 8:30am.

We start our bedtime at 7 because loudoun county starts schools at the crack of dawn and my kids hate waking up. I can’t believe it’s going to be at 7:15 next year.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

Or maybe you want to remove the dust and germs and dirt from their little bodies?


OP we are a family that is at the park late. My kiddo goes to bed at 930. Our kids do not go to bed at 6 or 7. That has always seemed unnatural to me.

I have 3 kids and we are the early family. We wake up early, eat early (5-6pm) and go to bed early (8pm). We start getting ready for bed at 8 most nights. We are the early family. No one we know goes to bed at 6-7.

I do have one friend who starts bedtime at 7. She wants her evening alone time so she puts the kids to bed early but I don’t think they actually go to bed until 8.

Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

Or maybe you want to remove the dust and germs and dirt from their little bodies?


OP we are a family that is at the park late. My kiddo goes to bed at 930. Our kids do not go to bed at 6 or 7. That has always seemed unnatural to me.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

I am Eastern European and I am the same way

My kids also shower every night no exception. Their allergist told me I can't let them go to sleep with pollen on them and some of my kids are prepubescent and stink. I posted earlier.

Dcum. A group of people confused others don't follow their lifestyle and habits.