Anonymous wrote:Most men do care about how much money a woman makes, because most men are not high earners. The top 5% in the DC metro region make $250k+. For the 95% of men who make less than $250k, they need a spouse that makes a salary. At this income level, life is noticeably better when you have two solid incomes vs one income or an income that is low.
Wishful thinking on your part. I’d rather lust after a poorly paid wife than not lust after one whose salary brings us more stuff.
Anonymous wrote:I think this is hard for many women to accept. But good sex is really the most important quality in a wife. A man will stay in a marriage if the sex is good, even if a lot other things are lacking. But once the sex is lacking, a man will be thinking about heading for the exit every day even if his wife is educated/successful and a nice person.
Anonymous wrote:How true is it that men would rather marry a hot woman with no career of her own than marry an average woman with a career that matched his?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm a dad and have a group of dad friends like me who are professionals but make around $125 - $175K - so government, in-house attorneys for small business, manager, consultant, medical sales, etc.. We have wives who make more than we do (doctors and lawyers) and are generally attractive - but I wouldn't say smoking, since we are all in our 50s. We like to consider ourselves trophy husbands (despite our dad bods).
I knew my profession would not make me a fortune, so I was looking for a professional who could make what I make. Just a bonus that she was attractive and makes 3X what I make. I do the heavy lifting at the house with the kids and their activities and I could work from home when Covid hit and we had all the kids at home doing virtual school.
This is not the norm, though. In most couples, men still make more than the women. And men don't like it.
https://www.cnbc.com/2019/11/20/study-men-get-more-stressed-when-their-wives-make-more-money.html
https://www.marketwatch.com/story/can-american-men-ever-be-happy-if-their-wives-earn-more-than-they-do-2019-04-29
Anonymous wrote:I'm a dad and have a group of dad friends like me who are professionals but make around $125 - $175K - so government, in-house attorneys for small business, manager, consultant, medical sales, etc.. We have wives who make more than we do (doctors and lawyers) and are generally attractive - but I wouldn't say smoking, since we are all in our 50s. We like to consider ourselves trophy husbands (despite our dad bods).
I knew my profession would not make me a fortune, so I was looking for a professional who could make what I make. Just a bonus that she was attractive and makes 3X what I make. I do the heavy lifting at the house with the kids and their activities and I could work from home when Covid hit and we had all the kids at home doing virtual school.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In my circle women’s college and profession matters but once married, it’s usually her decision if she wants to work or stay home after kids, men are okay with both choices. Men with high IQ tend to enjoy beauty but they crave intelligence.
Same.
This is what I've noticed. Career accomplishments optional, education not.
All things said "education"/ "intelligence"/ "success" is shorthand for other capacities and character traits that may come in handy when building a life with someone.
No. Educated men generally marry educated women because they meet them in school or in the same social circles. But education is not a must-have criteria. Most men would trade in an educated woman whose looks had declined for a hot, kind, great-in-bed woman. In fact, high status men often do just that after divorcing their first wife.
I guess they don't care if they have dumb children. Mother's education/intelligence greatly impacts the child's intelligence.
Umm they do care. They usually have children with wife #1 and divorce around 50 when his wife has already done all the hard work of parenting and right as he’s reaching his career peak. Wife #2 is for him to feel like a big shot with a younger woman and convince himself he’s still young.
Okay, the one couple I know that fits this description - 49yo married 33yo, and yes, she's hot, but she was also working in big law when they got married and a T20 law school graduate. She's barely working part time now and they have young kids and they seem as happy as any other family. I don't know how important earnings are, but pretty much all of the guys in my circle married women who are intellectually compatible, even the aforementioned outlier who remarried after his first marriage failed.
ok, but clearly she's not dumb. That's the point. A mother's intelligence impacts the child's intelligence.
Most men do care about how much money a woman makes, because most men are not high earners. The top 5% in the DC metro region make $250k+. For the 95% of men who make less than $250k, they need a spouse that makes a salary. At this income level, life is noticeably better when you have two solid incomes vs one income or an income that is low.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In my circle women’s college and profession matters but once married, it’s usually her decision if she wants to work or stay home after kids, men are okay with both choices. Men with high IQ tend to enjoy beauty but they crave intelligence.
Same.
This is what I've noticed. Career accomplishments optional, education not.
All things said "education"/ "intelligence"/ "success" is shorthand for other capacities and character traits that may come in handy when building a life with someone.
No. Educated men generally marry educated women because they meet them in school or in the same social circles. But education is not a must-have criteria. Most men would trade in an educated woman whose looks had declined for a hot, kind, great-in-bed woman. In fact, high status men often do just that after divorcing their first wife.
I guess they don't care if they have dumb children. Mother's education/intelligence greatly impacts the child's intelligence.
Umm they do care. They usually have children with wife #1 and divorce around 50 when his wife has already done all the hard work of parenting and right as he’s reaching his career peak. Wife #2 is for him to feel like a big shot with a younger woman and convince himself he’s still young.
Okay, the one couple I know that fits this description - 49yo married 33yo, and yes, she's hot, but she was also working in big law when they got married and a T20 law school graduate. She's barely working part time now and they have young kids and they seem as happy as any other family. I don't know how important earnings are, but pretty much all of the guys in my circle married women who are intellectually compatible, even the aforementioned outlier who remarried after his first marriage failed.
Anonymous wrote:I think this is hard for many women to accept. But good sex is really the most important quality in a wife. A man will stay in a marriage if the sex is good, even if a lot other things are lacking. But once the sex is lacking, a man will be thinking about heading for the exit every day even if his wife is educated/successful and a nice person.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In my circle women’s college and profession matters but once married, it’s usually her decision if she wants to work or stay home after kids, men are okay with both choices. Men with high IQ tend to enjoy beauty but they crave intelligence.
Same.
This is what I've noticed. Career accomplishments optional, education not.
All things said "education"/ "intelligence"/ "success" is shorthand for other capacities and character traits that may come in handy when building a life with someone.
No. Educated men generally marry educated women because they meet them in school or in the same social circles. But education is not a must-have criteria. Most men would trade in an educated woman whose looks had declined for a hot, kind, great-in-bed woman. In fact, high status men often do just that after divorcing their first wife.
I guess they don't care if they have dumb children. Mother's education/intelligence greatly impacts the child's intelligence.
Umm they do care. They usually have children with wife #1 and divorce around 50 when his wife has already done all the hard work of parenting and right as he’s reaching his career peak. Wife #2 is for him to feel like a big shot with a younger woman and convince himself he’s still young.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:To marry a woman who is both hot and high earning, usually the man has to be both hot and high earning. What about men who are high earning but not hot? What kinds of women do those men go for? Think a guy who is 5’6 balding in his early 30’s and makes 500k+
See: other thread about Russian mail order brides. 😀
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In my circle women’s college and profession matters but once married, it’s usually her decision if she wants to work or stay home after kids, men are okay with both choices. Men with high IQ tend to enjoy beauty but they crave intelligence.
Same.
This is what I've noticed. Career accomplishments optional, education not.
All things said "education"/ "intelligence"/ "success" is shorthand for other capacities and character traits that may come in handy when building a life with someone.
No. Educated men generally marry educated women because they meet them in school or in the same social circles. But education is not a must-have criteria. Most men would trade in an educated woman whose looks had declined for a hot, kind, great-in-bed woman. In fact, high status men often do just that after divorcing their first wife.
I guess they don't care if they have dumb children. Mother's education/intelligence greatly impacts the child's intelligence.