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Anonymous wrote:Hard not to imagine this from the other perspective.

“Guy at the gym keeps harassing me; how do I get him to stop?”

What’s the answer?

I mean, how hard is it to say “hi”? There’s an annoyingly gregarious guy at my gym who comes up to familiar faces and says “Hi! Working out triceps today?” He just wants to be acknowledged. It takes me two seconds to say “hi” and “yep” back. I have more unwarranted interaction with strangers at the grocery store. The guy is just intentionally jerky, imo.

I think someone was pointing out that if a man did what OP is doing in a gym or any place it would be seen as toxic masculinity?

I get that. But I’m just pointing out that saying hello back to someone isn’t hard. You probably do it more than you realize when you’re out and about. Why this guy has always been cold towards OP though? Who knows.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hard not to imagine this from the other perspective.

“Guy at the gym keeps harassing me; how do I get him to stop?”

What’s the answer?

I mean, how hard is it to say “hi”? There’s an annoyingly gregarious guy at my gym who comes up to familiar faces and says “Hi! Working out triceps today?” He just wants to be acknowledged. It takes me two seconds to say “hi” and “yep” back. I have more unwarranted interaction with strangers at the grocery store. The guy is just intentionally jerky, imo.

I think someone was pointing out that if a man did what OP is doing in a gym or any place it would be seen as toxic masculinity?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hard not to imagine this from the other perspective.

“Guy at the gym keeps harassing me; how do I get him to stop?”

What’s the answer?

I mean, how hard is it to say “hi”? There’s an annoyingly gregarious guy at my gym who comes up to familiar faces and says “Hi! Working out triceps today?” He just wants to be acknowledged. It takes me two seconds to say “hi” and “yep” back. I have more unwarranted interaction with strangers at the grocery store. The guy is just intentionally jerky, imo.

Anonymous wrote:Hard not to imagine this from the other perspective.

“Guy at the gym keeps harassing me; how do I get him to stop?”

What’s the answer?

You're annoying him, OP. He's trying to ignore you and you are going out of your way to make him notice you. You are like the guys that say to women "Smile". He's pointedly ignoring you, so just give up and stop trying to get his attention.

Hard not to imagine this from the other perspective.

“Guy at the gym keeps harassing me; how do I get him to stop?”

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a ghost and he cannot see you.

Woah, she’s been dead for the whole movie

Stop saying hello to him and waving. For whatever reason, he has indicated that he doesn't even desire to have this causal level of interaction with you. Respect that.

Since he’s young, the easiest answer to come up with is he’s likely a happily married newlywed and doesn’t want to give anyone the wrong impression. Maybe his wife knows people there, too, who would tell her. Why is that so hard for you to consider?

After a year, take his no for an answer! You should’ve stopped after the first or second time. The fact that you haven’t by now makes it seem like there’s something off about you.

Op, you need to walk on him changing in the locker room and then see what he is hiding. That's the only way to find out.

Maybe he doesn't find you "generally attractive", and he's only interested in talking to women who are friends or are "generally attractive" to him.

So, maybe his eyesight is not good and he just doesn’t see you waving at him.

OP, maybe it's because you don't know how to wipe down after yourself the right way.

OP, you are a ghost and he cannot see you.

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Anonymous wrote:Question, OP. If you were a regular who wasn’t “generally attractive,” would you think you were less entitled to this man’s attention?

I don’t think I’m entitled to anyone’s attention, but I think it’s odd to blankly stare at someone you see on the daily when they say hello to you. I guess I just wonder what his issue is with me that he doesn’t have with other people, men and women, who he interacts with. It comes off as rude and maybe this makes me insecure, also a little hurtful. When I started working out over a year ago I was dealing with a lot of body image stuff and an eating disorder, so this just stings a little, and I can’t explain why.

You say you have been waiving at him and smiling at him for one entire year st least once a week and he has never responded in kind. He is probably staring at you thinking if he needs to punch you in the face to make you understand that he does not want to have any social interaction with you. Why is irrelevant. Just ignore him from now on and move on with your life. If I say hi to stranger at the gym twice snd he looks at me with a blank stare and I am going to ignore him from the third time on. It is just beyond ridiculous that you still wave at him. I wonder if he has a bet on with other people in the gym how long you will keep waiving. Just stop. The why is irrelevant. This is not a novel where he is Darcy who one day will reveal himself madly in love with you