Anonymous wrote:Has this thread turned into a contest on who's the oldest first time mom? Because that's not a game I'd want to win.
Anonymous wrote:I think for men, the upper limit should be 65, and no older.
Anonymous wrote:OP you honestly just sound like you don't "get" much about living here at all by asking this question, regardless of what age you have your kid. Do you not observe those around you or have friends? We must run in completely different circles to be a 30-something having a kid (early or late 30s) that this would even be a question.
Anonymous wrote:Another woman here who was 30 with the first, 32 with the second, living on Capitol Hill when my kids were born. I was the youngest mom in my mothers group by 7 years. We live in Arlington now and I am definitely mostly 5+ years younger than my 1st grader's friends' moms, though of course there are some others around my age.
Anonymous wrote:Everything is a pissing match on DCUM. There's also selection bias on who responds to what thread. This thread, for example, by asking what age is too old to have a baby, is going to elicit responses by women who had babies when they were older and want to both reassure OP and justify their own decision. So they can't just say "I had a baby at 38 and it was fine"; instead they have to say "I did it when I was 38 and because the whole world revolves around me and the people I associate with that means that everybody does it at my age so we must all be young."
The only poster who offered any actual numbers to back up that 34 isn't on the "young" end for having a baby around here is the one who linked an article where Sibley said its average was 35 and that's why is has so many risky deliveries requiring C-sections. I doubt GW's average maternal age is as high as Sibley's and I doubt any of the suburban hospitals are either.
I don't care if you decide to have a baby at 75. Do whatever you want. But none of your anecdotes and personal experiences makes a DC woman, even a highly educated professional one, who has first baby at 34 a "young" first mother. It makes her a typical one.