Anonymous wrote:In a way it’s endearing that they feel so comfortable at the sister’s home to make themselves feel at home enough to seek out couches for napping. It sounds like they relish these naps. It’s their routine for some reason. I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing this, but they have been doing it for years according to the Op. Why is this now becoming an issue for you, Op?

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I can easily nap at my parents, ILs, siblings home. I also come from a culture where siesta time is valued and respected. My visit to my sister's home is usually lunch, a small nap and then visiting over tea with her.

Also, growing up, when we visited our close female relatives, we visited them in their bedrooms which had sitting area and daybeds in them. No one sat in the living room. That area was for outsiders. Men of the family, visited in the family library/study.

My DH naps after lunch most days. He would do this if we were visiting a sibling or very close friend and we were staying overnight or spending the entire day. But I have no interest in napping and will socialize while he does. I agree it’s a little odd, but it’s what he does. 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous wrote:In a way it’s endearing that they feel so comfortable at the sister’s home to make themselves feel at home enough to seek out couches for napping. It sounds like they relish these naps. It’s their routine for some reason. I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing this, but they have been doing it for years according to the Op. Why is this now becoming an issue for you, Op?

Exactly this. I find this culture so weird that they’d find napping inconsiderate and unnatural. These people aren’t strangers. Let them be. I wouldnt mind it one bit if my sister or BIL napped at my house. I want them to feel at home. But that’s my culture.

I think it’s rude. You go to someone’s home to enjoy their company, to catch up - not to fall unconscious and make that person feel like they need to be quiet in their own home to make sure you can sleep soundly.

It’s her SISTER. Why are you all so freaking formal with each other even with blood relatives? I don’t get it

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Anonymous wrote:This is pretty wild. I probably wouldn’t say anything but it is completely weird behavior. I am also curious to know how long the visits are and how long they nap. If they are only there for 2-3hrs it seems so strange that a nap would be required at every visit.

I’ve never encountered a healthy adult with a strict nap schedule.

+1.

You've obviously never travelled to other countries. Napping is very common in MANY countries. In fact, many curtail all business activities (stores, offices, etc.) for a couple of hours every afternoon to accommodate the cultural habit of mid-day napping.

Yes, but that's because it's too hot in these places to do anything during that time of day. And it's balanced by early starts and/or late work and dinner schedule.

Or only in Sunday’s when you overeat at late lunch all the curries or stews and then pass out in a food coma. Every good Ethiopian does that.

Anonymous wrote:If it bugs you, don’t invite them. Meet them at a restaurant or something.

There ya go, solved your problem in 20 seconds.

They have a truly weird habit. I’d do more half day outings with them if you want to catch up with them, talk and be adults.

This nap at someone’s house thing is gross. I hope they bring their own protected washable pillow case pillows.

Maybe they like to have sex in a different place.

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Anonymous wrote:In a way it’s endearing that they feel so comfortable at the sister’s home to make themselves feel at home enough to seek out couches for napping. It sounds like they relish these naps. It’s their routine for some reason. I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing this, but they have been doing it for years according to the Op. Why is this now becoming an issue for you, Op?

Exactly this. I find this culture so weird that they’d find napping inconsiderate and unnatural. These people aren’t strangers. Let them be. I wouldnt mind it one bit if my sister or BIL napped at my house. I want them to feel at home. But that’s my culture.

I think it’s rude. You go to someone’s home to enjoy their company, to catch up - not to fall unconscious and make that person feel like they need to be quiet in their own home to make sure you can sleep soundly.

Anonymous wrote:In a way it’s endearing that they feel so comfortable at the sister’s home to make themselves feel at home enough to seek out couches for napping. It sounds like they relish these naps. It’s their routine for some reason. I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing this, but they have been doing it for years according to the Op. Why is this now becoming an issue for you, Op?

Exactly this. I find this culture so weird that they’d find napping inconsiderate and unnatural. These people aren’t strangers. Let them be. I wouldnt mind it one bit if my sister or BIL napped at my house. I want them to feel at home. But that’s my culture.

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Anonymous wrote:What do they do when you go their house?

OP here. I do not nap, ever. I have never/ would never nap at their house. That's very weird to me.

Right but do they nap when they’re hosting you?

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Anonymous wrote:What do they do when you go their house?

OP here. I do not nap, ever. I have never/ would never nap at their house. That's very weird to me.

Sorry, I misunderstood the question. They still doze off at their own house.

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Anonymous wrote:This is pretty wild. I probably wouldn’t say anything but it is completely weird behavior. I am also curious to know how long the visits are and how long they nap. If they are only there for 2-3hrs it seems so strange that a nap would be required at every visit.

I’ve never encountered a healthy adult with a strict nap schedule.

+1.

My sibling naps daily - always was a sleeper but also from years of night shifts even though career has transitioned and that’s in the past now. But would never nap at another person’s home!!

Anonymous wrote:What do they do when you go their house?

OP here. I do not nap, ever. I have never/ would never nap at their house. That's very weird to me.

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Anonymous wrote:This is pretty wild. I probably wouldn’t say anything but it is completely weird behavior. I am also curious to know how long the visits are and how long they nap. If they are only there for 2-3hrs it seems so strange that a nap would be required at every visit.

I’ve never encountered a healthy adult with a strict nap schedule.

+1.

You've obviously never travelled to other countries. Napping is very common in MANY countries. In fact, many curtail all business activities (stores, offices, etc.) for a couple of hours every afternoon to accommodate the cultural habit of mid-day napping.

Yes, but that's because it's too hot in these places to do anything during that time of day. And it's balanced by early starts and/or late work and dinner schedule.

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Anonymous wrote:This is pretty wild. I probably wouldn’t say anything but it is completely weird behavior. I am also curious to know how long the visits are and how long they nap. If they are only there for 2-3hrs it seems so strange that a nap would be required at every visit.

I’ve never encountered a healthy adult with a strict nap schedule.

+1.

You've obviously never travelled to other countries. Napping is very common in MANY countries. In fact, many curtail all business activities (stores, offices, etc.) for a couple of hours every afternoon to accommodate the cultural habit of mid-day napping.

I guess it depends on how you define napping. My BIL and SIL “nap” all the time. It just means alone time. But for your guests to just put feet up on your sofa and doze off is just very weird. Sleep apnea undiagnosed?