Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 10:03     Subject: Re:Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Weirdest interaction with my MIL who dropped a child in my lap while I'm eating saying my SO needed to eat. I had told SO to put child on the couch so we could both eat and apparently MIL took child instead then got indignant. I'm taking a break.


While I agreed it shouldn’t automatically be mom who gets “the child,” I do have to wonder—how old? How old is “the child” and what did you give “the child” to play with or work on while you and DH were both “taking a break”? Because if you just leave a child unattended, if he or she isn’t old enough to be alone, then you and DH are just making work for other people.


He poster said SO. It could be the DH who got the child dropped in his lap. The problem is the MIL and people who want to tell parents how to parent- ie you.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 09:47     Subject: Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
Get out of my house!
You said you were leaving by 9!
Get.out.
Get out!
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 09:24     Subject: Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I did just have to explain to my teen that being stuck in Telluride waiting 20 minutes for the bus because the Gondola is broken is the very definition of a first world problem. Even if it’s cold and there’s a football game on.

I really don’t know where I went wrong. He’s not spoiled about material things. We did get to have a good talk about the need to develop coping skills (on a serious note, I do think a lot of it was anxiety — it was dark, and it wasn’t clear that a bus would really be coming).


Of course it was because of anxiety—strange place, fear of being stranded in the cold, it was Christmas Day, etc. And he doesn’t have coping skills as a teen why? Where was your parenting to develop those coping skills before now?


Methinks this is not the thread for you.

My petty vent is that I've been telling DH a leak in the bathroom has been getting visibly worse, he didn't call a plumber this week before the holiday (he was off work all week and I wasnt until the end, so I figured he could do it), and...it's still leaking. At this point we're going to have to shut off the water before travel and hope we don't have a mold problem between the floor and ceiling.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 09:11     Subject: Re:Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Weirdest interaction with my MIL who dropped a child in my lap while I'm eating saying my SO needed to eat. I had told SO to put child on the couch so we could both eat and apparently MIL took child instead then got indignant. I'm taking a break.


While I agreed it shouldn’t automatically be mom who gets “the child,” I do have to wonder—how old? How old is “the child” and what did you give “the child” to play with or work on while you and DH were both “taking a break”? Because if you just leave a child unattended, if he or she isn’t old enough to be alone, then you and DH are just making work for other people.


Damn, can’t we assume PP isn’t an idiot and the child is an appropriate age to be on the couch for five minutes? Why do people here always have to play devils advocate? MIL sounds ridiculous.


No, we can’t assume that, the way that DCUM parents don’t actually parent when they are on vacation. They always dump kids on relatives and assume others will take responsibility for their kids, without asking or saying please and thank you.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 09:10     Subject: Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
Anonymous wrote:I did just have to explain to my teen that being stuck in Telluride waiting 20 minutes for the bus because the Gondola is broken is the very definition of a first world problem. Even if it’s cold and there’s a football game on.

I really don’t know where I went wrong. He’s not spoiled about material things. We did get to have a good talk about the need to develop coping skills (on a serious note, I do think a lot of it was anxiety — it was dark, and it wasn’t clear that a bus would really be coming).


Of course it was because of anxiety—strange place, fear of being stranded in the cold, it was Christmas Day, etc. And he doesn’t have coping skills as a teen why? Where was your parenting to develop those coping skills before now?
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 09:06     Subject: Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
Anonymous wrote:I spent 15 hours sewing and cross stitching a stocking for my new SIL and she didn't say thank you. (Everyone in the family has the same style stocking--adults and kids. It's our tradition.)


Maybe she doesn’t like it. I mean, I would still say thank you, but I hate the whole Assimilate: ONE OF US mentality. Maybe it’s not her style, or maybe she’s not that into celebrating Christmas with stuff, stuff, more things, stuff, more things.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 08:56     Subject: Re:Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
I spent 15 hours sewing and cross stitching a stocking for my new SIL and she didn't say thank you. (Everyone in the family has the same style stocking--adults and kids. It's our tradition.)


My sister has not said 'thank you' for a gift for at least 14 years. I started clocking it longer ago than that, but mentioned it to my brother and now we both wait to see if this will be the year she thanks someone. I alternate between being salty and amused by her behavior.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 08:44     Subject: Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
I spent 15 hours sewing and cross stitching a stocking for my new SIL and she didn't say thank you. (Everyone in the family has the same style stocking--adults and kids. It's our tradition.)
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 05:31     Subject: Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MY DH's adult daughter sent us a joint gift: ONE paperback book of mind game puzzles. I guess we are supposed to take turns using it.


You’re an adult, and you’re whining about gifts?


But isn't this the petty complaints thread?
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 05:30     Subject: Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
Anonymous wrote:My husband just had his sister wrap all the things I had bought for him as to him and from him. I.e. to: Mike from: Mike.


If this was his way of pointing out it was "his" money spent on the gifts this was extremely rude. Yikes.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2021 23:43     Subject: Re:Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Weirdest interaction with my MIL who dropped a child in my lap while I'm eating saying my SO needed to eat. I had told SO to put child on the couch so we could both eat and apparently MIL took child instead then got indignant. I'm taking a break.


While I agreed it shouldn’t automatically be mom who gets “the child,” I do have to wonder—how old? How old is “the child” and what did you give “the child” to play with or work on while you and DH were both “taking a break”? Because if you just leave a child unattended, if he or she isn’t old enough to be alone, then you and DH are just making work for other people.


Damn, can’t we assume PP isn’t an idiot and the child is an appropriate age to be on the couch for five minutes? Why do people here always have to play devils advocate? MIL sounds ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2021 23:40     Subject: Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have my period. I’m sick. One of my kids is being horribly behaved. I wish I could have just a day to myself in bed watching Christmas movies in my pajamas.


Omg the dream


there is a great New Yorker cartoon of Mrs Clause watching Santa flying off overhead in his sleigh and she says to the elves, “okay now no one bother me. this is the one night a year I get the house to myself.”
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2021 23:31     Subject: Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
I did just have to explain to my teen that being stuck in Telluride waiting 20 minutes for the bus because the Gondola is broken is the very definition of a first world problem. Even if it’s cold and there’s a football game on.

I really don’t know where I went wrong. He’s not spoiled about material things. We did get to have a good talk about the need to develop coping skills (on a serious note, I do think a lot of it was anxiety — it was dark, and it wasn’t clear that a bus would really be coming).
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2021 18:16     Subject: Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
Just found out that someone I worked with on TUesday tested COVID positive on Thursday, but my manager didnt tell me because she didn't think that I was close enough to her....we are in a small office of 5 employees....and I was the only one she did not tell....
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2021 16:54     Subject: Official Holiday Petty Complaints Thread
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m in town for the week with my family, staying at my parents’ house. First night here, had a glass of wine and eyes swelled shut within minutes. I AM NOW ALLERGIC TO WINE. I have spent 5 nights with 7 people in a 1400 sf house. Steroids and eye drops and 5 days later I still look like I went 5 rounds with Muhammad Ali, my sister is driving me nuts, and my usual family coping strategy is off limits.

Plus, time change man…it’s brutal on kids and adults alike.


Wait, we can develop adult-onset wine allergies????

You win the thread.


+1
I almost spit out my morning wine reading this terrible news.
Maybe it was some of the tannins or sediments in the particular wine, PP (she says as if she knows anything about magic grape drink)


Allergic poster I’m booking a full scale allergy test as soon as I’m back home. I’ve always sneezed when I drink, but never had a reaction this severe! At least it isn’t chocolate! Could be worse.

Some people are allergic to grapes, but it might be sulfites. It’s naturally occurring, but some vintners add more than others. The good news is that pp may be able to find wine that doesn’t have added sulfites, if that is the problem.