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Anonymous wrote:I think the replies here are a self-selecting group. Everyone I know gives their kids spending $$, both when I was in college and now. And I grew up middle class (real middle class, not DCUM middle class). We had summer jobs, but it was not intended to cover all of our spending money at school.

It is amusing to see all of the “I’ll pay $80k a year for school, but I’m not going to give my kid $100 a month for pizza” types on here.

You and your friends and most of DCUM (including me) are significantly wealthier than the average family.

My mom was a single mom making ~35,000 a year. I went to college on 100% financial aid but she still gave me 100/month spending money back in 2000 (and everyone else in my peer group got significantly more than that). I definitely think the posters here are a bunch of self righteous cheap skates.

Ooooh-kay. Different people have different values than you do. Go get a drink if you can afford one.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the replies here are a self-selecting group. Everyone I know gives their kids spending $$, both when I was in college and now. And I grew up middle class (real middle class, not DCUM middle class). We had summer jobs, but it was not intended to cover all of our spending money at school.

It is amusing to see all of the “I’ll pay $80k a year for school, but I’m not going to give my kid $100 a month for pizza” types on here.

You and your friends and most of DCUM (including me) are significantly wealthier than the average family.

My mom was a single mom making ~35,000 a year. I went to college on 100% financial aid but she still gave me 100/month spending money back in 2000 (and everyone else in my peer group got significantly more than that). I definitely think the posters here are a bunch of self righteous cheap skates.

It's pretty incredible that your mom was able to send you 3-4% of her annual income for spending money. You must have been so grateful, especially since so much of work-study in college goes straight to college costs. What a great mom.

Hilarious. 3-4%? Not 75-80%? Obviously pp's mom was a "self righteous cheap skate!" Was she getting more than 3 hours of sleep a night? Those were hours where she could have been working more!
More than 2 meals a day? What a glutton! That could have been sent to pp!
Obvously PP's mom didn't give a damn about her, which is why pp feels the need to attack other parents now.

Anonymous wrote:None--for everyday spending, he uses his earnings from his summer job. He'll be working over xmas break to boost his bank account.

This was my sibs and me too. My kids aren’t that age yet.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the replies here are a self-selecting group. Everyone I know gives their kids spending $$, both when I was in college and now. And I grew up middle class (real middle class, not DCUM middle class). We had summer jobs, but it was not intended to cover all of our spending money at school.

It is amusing to see all of the “I’ll pay $80k a year for school, but I’m not going to give my kid $100 a month for pizza” types on here.

You and your friends and most of DCUM (including me) are significantly wealthier than the average family.

My mom was a single mom making ~35,000 a year. I went to college on 100% financial aid but she still gave me 100/month spending money back in 2000 (and everyone else in my peer group got significantly more than that). I definitely think the posters here are a bunch of self righteous cheap skates.

It's pretty incredible that your mom was able to send you 3-4% of her annual income for spending money. You must have been so grateful, especially since so much of work-study in college goes straight to college costs. What a great mom.

I wish I were as good at managing money as that. But I'm a single mom, too, and it's just my income + savings. I have two more kids still at home that I need to put through school, and my eldest is well-aware of our finances. When I have anything extra at the end of the month, it goes into retirement / college funds. I would love to spoil him with spending money, but I just can't swing it on a regular basis -- and like others, he wouldn't hear of it.

Though of course it's hard to read this and not be envious that others are able to to support their kids so much better than I can -- financially, anyway. I know that we still have it good enough, in the scheme of things, but he works so hard, I do wish he didn't carry so much.

I'll say that one of the nice things about going to a public school is that all of his friends work, too. And he is definitely proud of how self-sufficient he is. So that's nice.

But I hardly think it's "better." Obviously if I could send him hundreds of dollars a month, that would be awesome!

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Anonymous wrote:I think the replies here are a self-selecting group. Everyone I know gives their kids spending $$, both when I was in college and now. And I grew up middle class (real middle class, not DCUM middle class). We had summer jobs, but it was not intended to cover all of our spending money at school.

It is amusing to see all of the “I’ll pay $80k a year for school, but I’m not going to give my kid $100 a month for pizza” types on here.

You and your friends and most of DCUM (including me) are significantly wealthier than the average family.

My mom was a single mom making ~35,000 a year. I went to college on 100% financial aid but she still gave me 100/month spending money back in 2000 (and everyone else in my peer group got significantly more than that). I definitely think the posters here are a bunch of self righteous cheap skates.

Why does anything that someone disagrees with (or didn’t experience themself) always turn into either name calling, judgement, or both?? Can’t we respectfully State out opinions without either?

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Anonymous wrote:I think the replies here are a self-selecting group. Everyone I know gives their kids spending $$, both when I was in college and now. And I grew up middle class (real middle class, not DCUM middle class). We had summer jobs, but it was not intended to cover all of our spending money at school.

It is amusing to see all of the “I’ll pay $80k a year for school, but I’m not going to give my kid $100 a month for pizza” types on here.

You and your friends and most of DCUM (including me) are significantly wealthier than the average family.

My mom was a single mom making ~35,000 a year. I went to college on 100% financial aid but she still gave me 100/month spending money back in 2000 (and everyone else in my peer group got significantly more than that). I definitely think the posters here are a bunch of self righteous cheap skates.

It's easy to give $100/month when you're not paying a dime in tution and other expenses. If your mom wasn't such a self righteous cheap skate she would have got a second job so she could sent you more than $100 like all your friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the replies here are a self-selecting group. Everyone I know gives their kids spending $$, both when I was in college and now. And I grew up middle class (real middle class, not DCUM middle class). We had summer jobs, but it was not intended to cover all of our spending money at school.

It is amusing to see all of the “I’ll pay $80k a year for school, but I’m not going to give my kid $100 a month for pizza” types on here.

You and your friends and most of DCUM (including me) are significantly wealthier than the average family.

My mom was a single mom making ~35,000 a year. I went to college on 100% financial aid but she still gave me 100/month spending money back in 2000 (and everyone else in my peer group got significantly more than that). I definitely think the posters here are a bunch of self righteous cheap skates.

Anonymous wrote:I think the replies here are a self-selecting group. Everyone I know gives their kids spending $$, both when I was in college and now. And I grew up middle class (real middle class, not DCUM middle class). We had summer jobs, but it was not intended to cover all of our spending money at school.

It is amusing to see all of the “I’ll pay $80k a year for school, but I’m not going to give my kid $100 a month for pizza” types on here.

Not everyone here is paying $80k a year for their kids school. Plenty of schools are cheaper than that, plus there are scholarships.
I'm one of the posters that doesn't give my college student money beyond basic expenses. I certainly don't drive a Range Rover (I drive a second hand 2012 economy car) and not only is my college kid not ordering "bottle service" at clubs, I never have myself either!

We cover tuition, books, & fees, reasonable rent & utilities (no more than the lowest university housing prices), and a flat food allowance (based on the equivalent semester price set by the school for the dining halls - a decent cushion, I know) for each semester for our 21-year old son. We still also loan him a car, cover auto insurance, auto maintenance & provide for any medical expenses including insurance. Son uses our paid streaming & cellular plans. Whenever he returns home for breaks, we don’t charge rent & pay for stocked fridge. We gift some money at holidays and birthdays, if he chooses in place of some gifts. Do not pay for clothing, gas, entertainment, toiletries, concerts / sporting events, beer, etc., or anything else, as he works summers to cover and budget for that. Pretty good deal, and far better than the no-deal I had with my parents at that age. But, the bumpers come off upon the 4th year of undergraduate studies (age 22). The agreement is if he graduates later, it’s all on him. If his GPA ever slipped and he lost the academic scholarship, the difference too would have been on him. Afterwards, though since he is in no jeopardy of losing the scholarship now, and we have excess 529 dollars as a result, we will cover 2 years of grad school tuition, books & fees also, but nothing more, except healthcare until 26 (as that’s covered at no additional cost to us until that time). We are very fortunate, he is very appreciative, and he learned how to budget and take responsibility for his educational success along the way. Praying for a smooth launch in the year to come.

Yeah, methinks middle class poster is either pulling sh*t from her ass or isn't as middle class as she thinks. In my MC world, it's not that common to have all of your tuition and housing covered, let alone spending money!!

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Anonymous wrote:I think the replies here are a self-selecting group. Everyone I know gives their kids spending $$, both when I was in college and now. And I grew up middle class (real middle class, not DCUM middle class). We had summer jobs, but it was not intended to cover all of our spending money at school.

It is amusing to see all of the “I’ll pay $80k a year for school, but I’m not going to give my kid $100 a month for pizza” types on here.

I am in college currently and I don't know many people whose parents send them spending money regularly. Maybe some do, but they certainly wouldn't admit it aloud!

Ha ha thanks for that! I am pretty certain if I offered my college student kid “allowance” she would graciously decline which I generally see as a good thing.

Hahaha right? My parents were willing to help if I needed it in college but I was really determined to be independent and made sure my salary (summer job and part time work during the semester) covered food and anything else I needed. My parents were already covering tuition and housing for goodness sakes!

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Anonymous wrote:I think the replies here are a self-selecting group. Everyone I know gives their kids spending $$, both when I was in college and now. And I grew up middle class (real middle class, not DCUM middle class). We had summer jobs, but it was not intended to cover all of our spending money at school.

It is amusing to see all of the “I’ll pay $80k a year for school, but I’m not going to give my kid $100 a month for pizza” types on here.

I am in college currently and I don't know many people whose parents send them spending money regularly. Maybe some do, but they certainly wouldn't admit it aloud!

Ha ha thanks for that! I am pretty certain if I offered my college student kid “allowance” she would graciously decline which I generally see as a good thing.

Anonymous wrote:I think the replies here are a self-selecting group. Everyone I know gives their kids spending $$, both when I was in college and now. And I grew up middle class (real middle class, not DCUM middle class). We had summer jobs, but it was not intended to cover all of our spending money at school.

It is amusing to see all of the “I’ll pay $80k a year for school, but I’m not going to give my kid $100 a month for pizza” types on here.

I am in college currently and I don't know many people whose parents send them spending money regularly. Maybe some do, but they certainly wouldn't admit it aloud!

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Anonymous wrote:NP but if parents are covering tuition, housing, food, phone, other technology, and clothing/shoes, I'm not sure why people think that money earned over the summer and winter breaks wouldn't be enough for other incidentals? What are your kids buying that costs so much money?

Waiting for someone to answer this question.

We were hoping you were smart enough to figure it out. Apparently you aren't, which explains a lot about your responses here.

Anyway, here is a list of expenses our kids have during the school year: books, clothes, food outside of the meal plan, snacks, coffee, sundries, decorations for their rooms/suites/apartments, gas for the car, printer cartridges, beer, fun activities, entrance fees, whatever. I mean, what do you really expect? These are pretty normal expenses. Nothing weird or atypical.

If our kids had jobs during the summer, then we ask them to put that money into savings and keep it there. It is our job to provide for them while they are living under our roof and we are not expecting them to have to pay for things out of their own money. We don't want them to work while at school because their focus should be on their academics and we want their free time to be free.

If you feel differently for your kids then ... whatever. You do you while we do us.

also, this was uncalled for you RAGING BIIIIIIITCH.

Anonymous wrote:I think the replies here are a self-selecting group. Everyone I know gives their kids spending $$, both when I was in college and now. And I grew up middle class (real middle class, not DCUM middle class). We had summer jobs, but it was not intended to cover all of our spending money at school.

It is amusing to see all of the “I’ll pay $80k a year for school, but I’m not going to give my kid $100 a month for pizza” types on here.

You and your friends and most of DCUM (including me) are significantly wealthier than the average family.