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Anonymous wrote:What is a work spouse and emotional affair? I had a guy I worked with who I was able to talk about a lot of things with since we lived similar lives, relied on for completing work projects, and flirted in a fun way about office work and nothing else. He basically became a good friend that I was also attracted to but did nothing with. Isn't that kind of typical of men and women who work together and just naturally smile at an opposite sex who they enjoy and think is attractive? I don't know how you get around that if you are around attractive nice people.

I think the issue is if you keep your friendship with this person a secret from your spouse and if it escalates to something physical; even if it's barely physical like passing out in a hotel room.

I would never do that. So flirting about office stuff like you would with a good friend of the same sex with a person of the opposite sex that is nice and attractive isn't an emotional affair or a work spouse? Good. In the clear.

I knew my work spouse and I were spending too much time together when he accidentally called me his wife's name at a dinner. The thing about work is sometimes it's very intense and emotional, you spend more time with each other than you do with your family if there's a big project on, and it all becomes a bit entangled. It can happen with any other human being really in the right circumstances.

Yes this siutation reminds me of my own except in my case my work spouse and I were very close, too close to be so close in some ways, but still close enough. So then the confusion started when it started to become a possibility that either (possible neither) one of us was actually employed there. Time for a reality check. (as in You say "reality", I say "check.) Not great, not so-so either.

Then "work" "spouse" shows back up disguised as themself, like I said earlier, but I could still tell it was them. LOL. Can you say "Excuse me? I don't believe we've met"? Yeah right.

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Anonymous wrote:What is a work spouse and emotional affair? I had a guy I worked with who I was able to talk about a lot of things with since we lived similar lives, relied on for completing work projects, and flirted in a fun way about office work and nothing else. He basically became a good friend that I was also attracted to but did nothing with. Isn't that kind of typical of men and women who work together and just naturally smile at an opposite sex who they enjoy and think is attractive? I don't know how you get around that if you are around attractive nice people.

I think the issue is if you keep your friendship with this person a secret from your spouse and if it escalates to something physical; even if it's barely physical like passing out in a hotel room.

I would never do that. So flirting about office stuff like you would with a good friend of the same sex with a person of the opposite sex that is nice and attractive isn't an emotional affair or a work spouse? Good. In the clear.

I knew my work spouse and I were spending too much time together when he accidentally called me his wife's name at a dinner. The thing about work is sometimes it's very intense and emotional, you spend more time with each other than you do with your family if there's a big project on, and it all becomes a bit entangled. It can happen with any other human being really in the right circumstances.

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Anonymous wrote:What is a work spouse and emotional affair? I had a guy I worked with who I was able to talk about a lot of things with since we lived similar lives, relied on for completing work projects, and flirted in a fun way about office work and nothing else. He basically became a good friend that I was also attracted to but did nothing with. Isn't that kind of typical of men and women who work together and just naturally smile at an opposite sex who they enjoy and think is attractive? I don't know how you get around that if you are around attractive nice people.

I think the issue is if you keep your friendship with this person a secret from your spouse and if it escalates to something physical; even if it's barely physical like passing out in a hotel room.

I would never do that. So flirting about office stuff like you would with a good friend of the same sex with a person of the opposite sex that is nice and attractive isn't an emotional affair or a work spouse? Good. In the clear.

Anonymous wrote:What is a work spouse and emotional affair? I had a guy I worked with who I was able to talk about a lot of things with since we lived similar lives, relied on for completing work projects, and flirted in a fun way about office work and nothing else. He basically became a good friend that I was also attracted to but did nothing with. Isn't that kind of typical of men and women who work together and just naturally smile at an opposite sex who they enjoy and think is attractive? I don't know how you get around that if you are around attractive nice people.

I think the issue is if you keep your friendship with this person a secret from your spouse and if it escalates to something physical; even if it's barely physical like passing out in a hotel room.

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Spouse, not House!

Work-Spouse in question was disguised as themself but it didn't work. "I'm sorry I don't know who you are. Do we know each other??" BTDT

I want you to continue to try to explain this because every time you do, you manage to somehow make less sense and I want to see what you’ll say next.

OMG, agree. This thread has the ability to go down in history. Tell us more, please!

I think she needs her own thread. I cannot follow what she's trying to say, but also want to know more. I will need background information so that I can make my full DCUM armchair analysis.

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Spouse, not House!

Work-Spouse in question was disguised as themself but it didn't work. "I'm sorry I don't know who you are. Do we know each other??" BTDT

I want you to continue to try to explain this because every time you do, you manage to somehow make less sense and I want to see what you’ll say next.

OMG, agree. This thread has the ability to go down in history. Tell us more, please!

What is a work spouse and emotional affair? I had a guy I worked with who I was able to talk about a lot of things with since we lived similar lives, relied on for completing work projects, and flirted in a fun way about office work and nothing else. He basically became a good friend that I was also attracted to but did nothing with. Isn't that kind of typical of men and women who work together and just naturally smile at an opposite sex who they enjoy and think is attractive? I don't know how you get around that if you are around attractive nice people.

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Spouse, not House!

Work-Spouse in question was disguised as themself but it didn't work. "I'm sorry I don't know who you are. Do we know each other??" BTDT

I want you to continue to try to explain this because every time you do, you manage to somehow make less sense and I want to see what you’ll say next.

Easy to cross the line

^ Seriously, are you on drugs? Your posts make zero sense.

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Spouse, not House!

Work-Spouse in question was disguised as themself but it didn't work. "I'm sorry I don't know who you are. Do we know each other??" BTDT

??? closed to giving up then LOL. I went to the appointed place of work and was told that was actually not my place of employment. Next thing I know along comes my house who is pretending to be themself again, which totally cracked me up. But that's ok since we were formerly spouses at least we had that. So right now its a question of does work + job = spouse - employment + marriage (work marriage) = work? spouse? if yes/no, I'm not so sure.

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Anonymous wrote:Had a situation with someone that I thought of as a beloved work spouse. We were very close and could finish each other's and other people's sentences. So much fun. But then I released the person in question did not actually work with me or work anywhere. It was quite the shock. When I told them, they got very flustered, pretending to be confused and asking me who I was and did we know each other. "Im sorry, I think you have mistaken me for someone else" and all this Who Struck John. BTDT.

WTF are you talking about?

Than k you. My same reaction. Is he/she talking about an imaginary person?

Well not so much imaginary as involuntary. This person who shall remain selfless pretended not to be someone else right up until the moment they became employed (but not yet a spouse.) Anyhoo, we're still figuring out, but it would help a lot of they were able to admit we've talked before and were even work-type spouses. Fingers crossed.

Hello schizophrenia

Excuse me? The problem was stemming from the reality that had we worked together, let alone in the same job, or been spouses (work spouses) we would've known each other at least a little bit but one I discovered I was not employed there this same person also denied they worked there. So there went the marriage or spouse situation. But anyhoo next thong I know I do work there and so do they. As to whether we are spouses is not clear yet. But its only Monday LOL.

Girl take your meds.

Whose meds. What you/I can't seem to understand is this could be a simple case of mistaken identities. Its now seeming like my work spouse DOES work there but is not employed if you take my meaning, which tells you the spousal relationship is now thrown in to questions. But we are intending to talk more about whether and when we first started talking. Because right now it is a case of having a job but no work, or a spouse, or having a work spouse who claims not to know who you are. Anyways we will see what the New Years brings. LOL

we do not

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Anonymous wrote:Had a situation with someone that I thought of as a beloved work spouse. We were very close and could finish each other's and other people's sentences. So much fun. But then I released the person in question did not actually work with me or work anywhere. It was quite the shock. When I told them, they got very flustered, pretending to be confused and asking me who I was and did we know each other. "Im sorry, I think you have mistaken me for someone else" and all this Who Struck John. BTDT.

WTF are you talking about?

Than k you. My same reaction. Is he/she talking about an imaginary person?

Well not so much imaginary as involuntary. This person who shall remain selfless pretended not to be someone else right up until the moment they became employed (but not yet a spouse.) Anyhoo, we're still figuring out, but it would help a lot of they were able to admit we've talked before and were even work-type spouses. Fingers crossed.

Hello schizophrenia

Excuse me? The problem was stemming from the reality that had we worked together, let alone in the same job, or been spouses (work spouses) we would've known each other at least a little bit but one I discovered I was not employed there this same person also denied they worked there. So there went the marriage or spouse situation. But anyhoo next thong I know I do work there and so do they. As to whether we are spouses is not clear yet. But its only Monday LOL.

Girl take your meds.

Whose meds. What you/I can't seem to understand is this could be a simple case of mistaken identities. Its now seeming like my work spouse DOES work there but is not employed if you take my meaning, which tells you the spousal relationship is now thrown in to questions. But we are intending to talk more about whether and when we first started talking. Because right now it is a case of having a job but no work, or a spouse, or having a work spouse who claims not to know who you are. Anyways we will see what the New Years brings. LOL

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Anonymous wrote:I have never crossed the line with my work husband but came close last week.After our office afternoon party we both had too much to drink so he and I passed out for a few hours in my hotel room. I live an hour away and didn’t want to drive. It was innocent but was close to crossing the line.

Maybe it's just me but if you're both married then I think you did cross the line.

I agree. I think being in a hotel room is crossing the line even if nothing happened.

+3.

I can’t imagine my spouse telling me about this “innocent” encounter without me getting very upset.

+1.

I find it hard to believe that two drunk people who are “work spouses” could be alone in a hotel room and not hook up in any small way.

Forget about crossing the line. I would be irritated if I found out my DH has a work spouse. Is this something people usually tell their real spouse?

Yep. My DH and WS have become friends also. DH jokes about it and introduces him as my WS.