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Anonymous wrote:Also, not all sex is hetero straight sex, so something to keep in mind as you’re thinking through how to have these conversations.

True but at age 5 I'm not explaining sex as sexuality but rather a biological function to procreate.

At age 9, DD met a 10 year old at Girl Scout camp who constantly told everyone she was a lesbian. And our kids have met out married gay male friends many times. So at 11 DD naturally asked about how they “do it.”

I simply told her that gay men use the butt. Or the mouth. And that lesbians can buy a fake p*nis made of rubber.

Whether gay or straight, she has a mostly general understanding of the act now at 13. It’s enough for now.

Omg. Are you serious??

Was that wrong? Did I describe it incorrectly??

Not the PP, who I suspect is clutching her pearls somewhere. The only thing that I’d add is that lesbians use mouths too and that there are rubber penises people (not just lesbians) can buy if they want.

Make sure you tell them about gerbils, too.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, not all sex is hetero straight sex, so something to keep in mind as you’re thinking through how to have these conversations.

True but at age 5 I'm not explaining sex as sexuality but rather a biological function to procreate.

At age 9, DD met a 10 year old at Girl Scout camp who constantly told everyone she was a lesbian. And our kids have met out married gay male friends many times. So at 11 DD naturally asked about how they “do it.”

I simply told her that gay men use the butt. Or the mouth. And that lesbians can buy a fake p*nis made of rubber.

Whether gay or straight, she has a mostly general understanding of the act now at 13. It’s enough for now.

Omg. Are you serious??

Was that wrong? Did I describe it incorrectly??

Np here, but yes you did.

Explain what your response would have been as to how . . .

Sure. gay men don't all have sex involving the butt, many gay men do not engage in anal sex or at all, the same is true for lesbians and dildos, not all sex is penetrative even in hetero couples, try to be a little less sterotypical when teaching your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, not all sex is hetero straight sex, so something to keep in mind as you’re thinking through how to have these conversations.

True but at age 5 I'm not explaining sex as sexuality but rather a biological function to procreate.

At age 9, DD met a 10 year old at Girl Scout camp who constantly told everyone she was a lesbian. And our kids have met out married gay male friends many times. So at 11 DD naturally asked about how they “do it.”

I simply told her that gay men use the butt. Or the mouth. And that lesbians can buy a fake p*nis made of rubber.

Whether gay or straight, she has a mostly general understanding of the act now at 13. It’s enough for now.

Omg. Are you serious??

Was that wrong? Did I describe it incorrectly??

Np here, but yes you did.

Explain what your response would have been as to how . . .

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Anonymous wrote:Also, not all sex is hetero straight sex, so something to keep in mind as you’re thinking through how to have these conversations.

True but at age 5 I'm not explaining sex as sexuality but rather a biological function to procreate.

At age 9, DD met a 10 year old at Girl Scout camp who constantly told everyone she was a lesbian. And our kids have met out married gay male friends many times. So at 11 DD naturally asked about how they “do it.”

I simply told her that gay men use the butt. Or the mouth. And that lesbians can buy a fake p*nis made of rubber.

Whether gay or straight, she has a mostly general understanding of the act now at 13. It’s enough for now.

Omg. Are you serious??

While I dread this someday, I'm impressed that PP's daughter came to her to ask! I definitely remember using the dictionary to google "lesbian" and "fellatio" at around that age (pre-easy access to the internet).

They're going to learn it from somewhere....

I remember when I was 11 my Girl Scout troop leaders had "the talk" with us. All the other kids were embarrassed, but I was asking if 3+ people could have sex....and when they said yes, I demanded to know the details of how. Also spent a ton of time looking at the reproduction pages in the human body books my parents got me, ha.

Anonymous wrote:I guess my biggest worry is her visualizing her dad and I having intercourse. It feels embarrassing to me but will she be embarrassed, I don't know. Maybe I'm not giving her enough credit. Is that stupid?
-OP

I'm pretty sure my ultra-conservative mom told me this stuff when I was about 8 or 9 because she could see that I was headed towards puberty, so 10 is well old enough especially in today's world where it's far easier for your daughter to get the wrong information than it was 30 years ago. I was a pretty imaginative kid and I did not imagine my parents having sex. Perhaps unpack why this is such a huge issue for you, where you brought up very conservatively?

I did have more questions and curiosity though and would look up things in encyclopedias so be prepared for that and provide her with books and resources that she can look at on her own time, and you can discuss with her.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, not all sex is hetero straight sex, so something to keep in mind as you’re thinking through how to have these conversations.

True but at age 5 I'm not explaining sex as sexuality but rather a biological function to procreate.

At age 9, DD met a 10 year old at Girl Scout camp who constantly told everyone she was a lesbian. And our kids have met out married gay male friends many times. So at 11 DD naturally asked about how they “do it.”

I simply told her that gay men use the butt. Or the mouth. And that lesbians can buy a fake p*nis made of rubber.

Whether gay or straight, she has a mostly general understanding of the act now at 13. It’s enough for now.

Omg. Are you serious??

Was that wrong? Did I describe it incorrectly??

Np here, but yes you did.

So now I’m thinking I should proactively bring up the subject. All these responses have me feeling more confident to just give it to her straight and not wait any longer. Is there a good way to broach the subject? Should I just say “do you have questions about how babies are made?”
-Op

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Anonymous wrote:Also, not all sex is hetero straight sex, so something to keep in mind as you’re thinking through how to have these conversations.

True but at age 5 I'm not explaining sex as sexuality but rather a biological function to procreate.

At age 9, DD met a 10 year old at Girl Scout camp who constantly told everyone she was a lesbian. And our kids have met out married gay male friends many times. So at 11 DD naturally asked about how they “do it.”

I simply told her that gay men use the butt. Or the mouth. And that lesbians can buy a fake p*nis made of rubber.

Whether gay or straight, she has a mostly general understanding of the act now at 13. It’s enough for now.

Omg. Are you serious??

Was that wrong? Did I describe it incorrectly??

Not the PP, who I suspect is clutching her pearls somewhere. The only thing that I’d add is that lesbians use mouths too and that there are rubber penises people (not just lesbians) can buy if they want.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, not all sex is hetero straight sex, so something to keep in mind as you’re thinking through how to have these conversations.

True but at age 5 I'm not explaining sex as sexuality but rather a biological function to procreate.

At age 9, DD met a 10 year old at Girl Scout camp who constantly told everyone she was a lesbian. And our kids have met out married gay male friends many times. So at 11 DD naturally asked about how they “do it.”

I simply told her that gay men use the butt. Or the mouth. And that lesbians can buy a fake p*nis made of rubber.

Whether gay or straight, she has a mostly general understanding of the act now at 13. It’s enough for now.

Omg. Are you serious??

Was that wrong? Did I describe it incorrectly??

My dad was a gynaecologist. He had a habit of forgetting that he had a toddler running around and would practice his lectures using a slide projector in our living room. So I knew the names and look of various SIDS from my earliest memories. I learnt the full details of the physical heterosexual and homosexual acts from one of his text books at about 10.

Honestly, looking back it’s was an excellent birds and the bees education. No shame, just the blunt clinical facts. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 21.

Anonymous wrote:I have a very mature 10 year old who has been in puberty for over a year. She is very curious about all things puberty, periods, romantic relationships, etc.
We have open and honest convos about all of it, except for the physical intercourse part. Even though I know she can handle the reality of it, she is still 10 and it feels too young for her to have the image in her head.
Maybe I'm being completely irrational but I just haven't been able to go there yet.

In this day and some 10 year olds are trying to have sex! I read someplace that a 10 year old boy tried to rape a girl in his class. She probably already knows.

Anonymous wrote:Interesting that OP asked about what you'd tell a "DD"...does gender matter when it comes to sex ed?

Nope, not a bit

Anonymous wrote:"going in" is just one aspect... how are you going to explain daddy's body part gets big and hard? and mommy makes funny noise?

4th/5th grade health discusses erections. And pleasure as a reason for sex should be discussed from early on, as a way to connect in a long term relationship.

Anonymous wrote:I have a very mature 10 year old who has been in puberty for over a year. She is very curious about all things puberty, periods, romantic relationships, etc.
We have open and honest convos about all of it, except for the physical intercourse part. Even though I know she can handle the reality of it, she is still 10 and it feels too young for her to have the image in her head.
Maybe I'm being completely irrational but I just haven't been able to go there yet.

When the child enters puberty or 9, whichever comes first. However, it's an ongoing discussion of feelings and facts that doesn't culminate until in the teens.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, not all sex is hetero straight sex, so something to keep in mind as you’re thinking through how to have these conversations.

True but at age 5 I'm not explaining sex as sexuality but rather a biological function to procreate.

At age 9, DD met a 10 year old at Girl Scout camp who constantly told everyone she was a lesbian. And our kids have met out married gay male friends many times. So at 11 DD naturally asked about how they “do it.”

I simply told her that gay men use the butt. Or the mouth. And that lesbians can buy a fake p*nis made of rubber.

Whether gay or straight, she has a mostly general understanding of the act now at 13. It’s enough for now.

Omg. Are you serious??

While I dread this someday, I'm impressed that PP's daughter came to her to ask! I definitely remember using the dictionary to google "lesbian" and "fellatio" at around that age (pre-easy access to the internet).

They're going to learn it from somewhere....