Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my in laws (and extended family) invited my H rapist (incest) to Xmas.

My H was very close to his family up until this day.

We left and told the family we did not want to be invited to things he is invited to, we have not received 1 invite since (5 years later).

We now spend holidays alone, haven’t even been invited to a dinner.

What is the H in this sentence?

Husband

I had trouble with this, too. Should have said H's rapist -- she is referring to the family member who raped her husband.

Sorry! You are right.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Acute pain: some very callous breakups. But I have had chronic, debilitating depression my entire life, which has prevented me from being able to have a career or relationships, or even to function many days. I feel a lot of bitterness and regret all the time.

How do you survive economically?

I do freelance work and am honest with my clients. Luckily I'm good at what I do, when I'm able to do it.
My parents help a lot. They feel very badly for me. My mother suffered from depression for most of her life too.

Anonymous wrote:Acute pain: some very callous breakups. But I have had chronic, debilitating depression my entire life, which has prevented me from being able to have a career or relationships, or even to function many days. I feel a lot of bitterness and regret all the time.

How do you survive economically?

I feel relatively fortunate not to have experienced some of these horrendous losses. I also feel that every day something terrible could happen.


But these are the things that haunt me....

recently: when I hear my child talk about hating himself/killing himself/see how hard he is on himself and I worry so much for his future and the mental health issues he may have inherited.

age 14: the two months in which my dad left my mom for his AP, my mother spiraled and entered in patient while my dad was in south america with his gf. I was 14 and didn't have a way of even getting to the facility (much less getting groceries) until my older brother was able to pass his driving test so we could get there to see her and eventually bring her home. We had no other family close by so we were trying to figure it out.

age 25: when i discovered that my boyfriend was sleeping with my roommate. they are both terrible people and its no great loss, almost laughable now, but damn it hurt at the time.

age 33 when I had a miscarriage and my then boyfriend of 2 years and needed to go to the ER and he called me a taxi instead of coming with me/driving me.

age 37: going to the park with friends whose baby daughter had a terminal/progressive disease and seeing how hard it was for them to look at my same age daughter. My heart ached so so so much for them.

Waking up from a 3 week coma due to bacterial meningitis to find out my boyfriend had fallen in love with a woman online and was making plans to move to be with her. I wanted to be put back in the coma.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my in laws (and extended family) invited my H rapist (incest) to Xmas.

My H was very close to his family up until this day.

We left and told the family we did not want to be invited to things he is invited to, we have not received 1 invite since (5 years later).

We now spend holidays alone, haven’t even been invited to a dinner.

What is the H in this sentence?

Husband

I had trouble with this, too. Should have said H's rapist -- she is referring to the family member who raped her husband.

Acute pain: some very callous breakups. But I have had chronic, debilitating depression my entire life, which has prevented me from being able to have a career or relationships, or even to function many days. I feel a lot of bitterness and regret all the time.

Definitely when we told the kids about the divorce.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my in laws (and extended family) invited my H rapist (incest) to Xmas.

My H was very close to his family up until this day.

We left and told the family we did not want to be invited to things he is invited to, we have not received 1 invite since (5 years later).

We now spend holidays alone, haven’t even been invited to a dinner.

What is the H in this sentence?

Husband

Anonymous wrote:When my in laws (and extended family) invited my H rapist (incest) to Xmas.

My H was very close to his family up until this day.

We left and told the family we did not want to be invited to things he is invited to, we have not received 1 invite since (5 years later).

We now spend holidays alone, haven’t even been invited to a dinner.

What is the H in this sentence?

Anonymous wrote:Oh dear. Why do I click on threads like this?

Guess I will go...

Losing my sweet baby son
Sudden and unexpected deaths of both my (youngish) parents

But I want to add that even in these darkest and most painful moments of my life, I still had joy and love in my heart. I think about my son and my parents a lot. I miss them dearly but I am a very joyful person and I'm going to love life right on up to the day I get to be with them again.

Thank you for sharing this. I hope you do get to see them again.

When my in laws (and extended family) invited my H rapist (incest) to Xmas.

My H was very close to his family up until this day.

We left and told the family we did not want to be invited to things he is invited to, we have not received 1 invite since (5 years later).

We now spend holidays alone, haven’t even been invited to a dinner.

When my brother died in an accident as a teen.

Sexual assault at age 13 and the aftermath.

Anonymous wrote:When my DH told me he would never adjust his priorities to do more parenting and household responsibilities no matter how much I said I needed it, because he is too ambitious.

Hit submit too soon,

When my grandmother died

When same DH pushed to have sex when I begged off because he “paid enough money” for a trip we were on.