Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you join an established couple ( married) to become a throuple? On the table is a child/children of your own plus becoming a parenting partner to other children, friendship with current wife, and romantic relationship with husband?

There’s a point as a divorced mom of two that this would have appealed to me more than marrying a man because I was so damn tired at the time and would have welcome another woman’s help with child care and housework. But I could have done without the romantic relationship with the H.

It passed. I built a non-polygamist village. I found my footing. Eventually, I entered a non-polygamist relationship and remarried. No desire for a sister wife.

That's the problem though. Each party in the threesome has expectations and needs not shared by the others. I can't think of a better recipe for disaster.

You: Another woman's help with childcare and housework? The other woman isn't joining you to help you with childcare, and especially not housework!

Anonymous wrote:Would you join an established couple ( married) to become a throuple? On the table is a child/children of your own plus becoming a parenting partner to other children, friendship with current wife, and romantic relationship with husband?

There’s a point as a divorced mom of two that this would have appealed to me more than marrying a man because I was so damn tired at the time and would have welcome another woman’s help with child care and housework. But I could have done without the romantic relationship with the H.

It passed. I built a non-polygamist village. I found my footing. Eventually, I entered a non-polygamist relationship and remarried. No desire for a sister wife.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't be in a throuple, but I could see myself in a scenario where I had a kid with a guy who had other wives/women and we lived separate lives.

This is so incredibly unhealthy for the child’s self esteem.