While some folks here are saying they are appalled by the responses that are so anti-therapy, almost all of the posts have said that therapy and meds are a very good sign. I am in my 40s and I am in therapy and I am starting to date after my divorce, and of the guys I've been on dates with the guys who've told me they see a therapist are the most promising bc these men implicitly are saying they can manage better than they have been managing, and they want to improve, and this is key: they will carve out time and money for it. All of us could manage better than we are managing. OP seems ridiculous to me if they aren't a troll, and I agree prob needs to examine why control over her brother's love life matters so much, and why they don't even consider that there would be consequences if they interfere.

First, the person in this example may have experienced a traumatic event and is being responsible by receiving treatment for it. Another option is that she may have areas to fine tune, such as temper or irritability, and is being responsible in addressing the issue. Self awareness and personal accountability are very mature concepts and not red flag situations. I would Be concerned in your brother dating her identical twin not receiving support. She is being responsible and aware of her areas to fine tune. Is your brother working on his areas to fine tune to be a better person, actively ? She is.


I am a 44 years old male taking meds and attending therapy for depresión. It has worked so well that I now resolve complex issues by seeking the most elegant solution within the right choices, the correct timing, and tactful communication (including active listening) approach.

Therapy is a real good thing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I probably shouldn’t have worded the post for my brother. I should have worded it as if I were dating someone new. Guess too late now.

What good would that have done? Then you could go up to your brother with a bunch of comments responding to you-who-pretended-to-be-him and tell him to dump his girlfriend?

I am in therapy so I say this sincerely: you should get therapy.

+1 agree after reading OP’s posts she seems very controlling, which is a sign of anxiety.

Do you know how many people are in therapy, or should be, while we are still navigating a global pandemic? Please make some effort to be more open minded, and frankly, realistic.