Anonymous
10/20/2021 16:08
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
What I trying to say is that not all teens want or will party, drink, do drugs. Most people seem to think that all it takes is a ton of sports/activities and homework and magically their kid will behave. If a kid wants to do any of the above they will regardless of anything.
Anonymous
10/20/2021 16:04
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:On TV shows the parents of teenagers look so relaxed in the mornings. Drinking coffee, eating breakfast and reading the newspaper. Their teen comes in, they chat for a few minutes, the teen grabs backpack and a bagel and off they go to school.
Compare that with my mornings trying to get a 4yo ready for preschool dropoff while not completely ignoring the baby. It’s a whirlwind!
Yeah I know, teens come with a host of other issues, but I’m looking forward to having independent kids!
You had me at "tv shows" you do know tv shows are not real life? I wish you luck trying to get teens to go to bed at a reasonable hour so they can get up at an unreasonable hour!
You don’t know any self-motivated teens who want to get to school on time and do well in their classes? Sure they might stay up late studying, so you have to enforce bedtime sometimes, but certainly not sneaking in past curfew and drinking/doing pot on weekdays.
Oh my God! The cluelessness here is just astounding! The two are not excluding of each other! Kids can be self motivated and want to do school great and be sneaking and drinking! In fact, most teens want and do both!
How do you know what most teens want? And this poster only made this comment because so many say, keep them busy and they some how magically will turn out great. Ppl seem to believe kids who have free time abd are overscheduled will never do any wrong.
I know bcs I worked with them, I had them, I know all their friends, I have one in sports now in college doing his sport... I know dozens and dozens of their friends, I have nieces and nephews who were and are teens. You know, bcs DD wanted to be a great stupid and still wanted to drink and party. And well, she didn't part by herself!
Bcs I sat next to parents like you, who told me how lucky they are that their teens are so studious and not into the party and drinking scene... and I saw those teens skipping class, smoking pot and making out behind the school!
Anonymous
10/20/2021 15:51
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:On TV shows the parents of teenagers look so relaxed in the mornings. Drinking coffee, eating breakfast and reading the newspaper. Their teen comes in, they chat for a few minutes, the teen grabs backpack and a bagel and off they go to school.
Compare that with my mornings trying to get a 4yo ready for preschool dropoff while not completely ignoring the baby. It’s a whirlwind!
Yeah I know, teens come with a host of other issues, but I’m looking forward to having independent kids!
You had me at "tv shows" you do know tv shows are not real life? I wish you luck trying to get teens to go to bed at a reasonable hour so they can get up at an unreasonable hour!
You don’t know any self-motivated teens who want to get to school on time and do well in their classes? Sure they might stay up late studying, so you have to enforce bedtime sometimes, but certainly not sneaking in past curfew and drinking/doing pot on weekdays.
Oh my God! The cluelessness here is just astounding! The two are not excluding of each other! Kids can be self motivated and want to do school great and be sneaking and drinking! In fact, most teens want and do both!
How do you know what most teens want? And this poster only made this comment because so many say, keep them busy and they some how magically will turn out great. Ppl seem to believe kids who have free time abd are overscheduled will never do any wrong.
Anonymous
10/20/2021 15:47
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. You may have seriously just set some karma in motion…. bc toddlers are a cakewalk to teens.
Some teens maybe. But I was just talking to a mom of 3 this week whose kids are all college+ aged (except one HS senior) and she was telling me all about how it gets so much better and more fun when the kids are teens. She could travel and do fun stuff with them. Plus make her own plans to go out with her DH because the kids were independent. Vs. being in the midst of the young elementary/toddler/baby stage.
Another coworker with two HS aged kids has said similar things to me (her kids are pretty into advanced classes/band so probably not partners).
I know some teens are rough. I imagine dealing with a teen with mental illness, addiction issues, poor grades, etc. is harder than a toddler. But I also think there’s a decent chance to have some good ones who are fun to be around. I have all boys who are pretty sporty/laid back so I hope they stay that way!
Yeah, the sporty kids never are any trouble.
[snort]
Right? They don't "broom" other kids... they don't do dumb things...at all! I am just laughing at some of these clueless parents of not teens!
"My coworker told me....."
Haha right!?? The thing is I kinda thought like the PP before my kids turned into teens (mid-teens) and boy, was I wrong! While I certainly enjoy my teens when things are calm, there are also very gray-hair inducing times as well. From dealing with anxiety issues to eye-rolling to when they first get caught drinking, having sex, etc. It's a roller coaster!
And most teens on school mornings are not that pleasant to be around! A sorda good morning grunt and nod of the head is about all I get. They come to life though with chatting around 11pm, lol.
Anonymous
10/20/2021 15:43
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:On TV shows the parents of teenagers look so relaxed in the mornings. Drinking coffee, eating breakfast and reading the newspaper. Their teen comes in, they chat for a few minutes, the teen grabs backpack and a bagel and off they go to school.
Compare that with my mornings trying to get a 4yo ready for preschool dropoff while not completely ignoring the baby. It’s a whirlwind!
Yeah I know, teens come with a host of other issues, but I’m looking forward to having independent kids!
You had me at "tv shows" you do know tv shows are not real life? I wish you luck trying to get teens to go to bed at a reasonable hour so they can get up at an unreasonable hour!
You don’t know any self-motivated teens who want to get to school on time and do well in their classes? Sure they might stay up late studying, so you have to enforce bedtime sometimes, but certainly not sneaking in past curfew and drinking/doing pot on weekdays.
Oh my God! The cluelessness here is just astounding! The two are not excluding of each other! Kids can be self motivated and want to do school great and be sneaking and drinking! In fact, most teens want and do both!
Anonymous
10/20/2021 15:35
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you want a teen now, I will loan you mine!
When you wake up at 5:45am to pee, you might discover
A. they actually haven’t come home yet and haven’t texted you to say where they are
B. They texted you at 1am to let you know “FYI” that a new girlfriend stayed overnight with them, and presumably is still in their bedroom
C. They texted you at 3am to say the car battery died, can you pick them up? Then lots more “?” texts but no actual update on what happened or where they are
I could go on and on….😭
I can't even imagine the ass-whooping I would have gotten if I had done any of those things.
there is literally a 0% change my kids will ever do A, B, or C. ZERO
Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha. I guarantee you that just bcs you so nastily posted this, there will be payback. Also, having such high opinion of your own parenting skills.... well it is an indication of how clueless you are about what is coming.
let me guess, your kid is .....2?
Nope. Kid is 12.
Also, I know this won't ever happen bc I'm not even going to go to bed before my kid ever gets home for the night. So waking up a text that they brought some rando girl home? That will never happen.
Seriously, my parents would have the beat the snot out of me if I had pulled even anything remotely close to that. And then I wouldn't be allowed to leave the house again.
I don't beat my kids, but I guarantee that they wouldn't have any privileges if they even tried any of those stunts
And heres the thing: I'm not even worried about it. Cause my kids know that. So they wont try it.
That is outright hilarious.
Why? I never tried it. My siblings didn't.
My neices and nephews haven't. It's about the culture in the house.
How old are these nieces and nephews? Are you maybe not in the know of every thing that goes on...Like my sister has no idea what my now young adults did as teens.
Anonymous
10/20/2021 15:31
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you want a teen now, I will loan you mine!
When you wake up at 5:45am to pee, you might discover
A. they actually haven’t come home yet and haven’t texted you to say where they are
B. They texted you at 1am to let you know “FYI” that a new girlfriend stayed overnight with them, and presumably is still in their bedroom
C. They texted you at 3am to say the car battery died, can you pick them up? Then lots more “?” texts but no actual update on what happened or where they are
I could go on and on….😭
I can't even imagine the ass-whooping I would have gotten if I had done any of those things.
there is literally a 0% change my kids will ever do A, B, or C. ZERO
Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha. I guarantee you that just bcs you so nastily posted this, there will be payback. Also, having such high opinion of your own parenting skills.... well it is an indication of how clueless you are about what is coming.
let me guess, your kid is .....2?
Nope. Kid is 12.
Also, I know this won't ever happen bc I'm not even going to go to bed before my kid ever gets home for the night. So waking up a text that they brought some rando girl home? That will never happen.
Seriously, my parents would have the beat the snot out of me if I had pulled even anything remotely close to that. And then I wouldn't be allowed to leave the house again.
I don't beat my kids, but I guarantee that they wouldn't have any privileges if they even tried any of those stunts
And heres the thing: I'm not even worried about it. Cause my kids know that. So they wont try it.
That is outright hilarious.
Why? I never tried it. My siblings didn't.
My neices and nephews haven't. It's about the culture in the house.
OMG! You never did this hence it is about the culture in the house???
Do you ever open your eyes to the world around you?
Anonymous
10/20/2021 15:28
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. You may have seriously just set some karma in motion…. bc toddlers are a cakewalk to teens.
Some teens maybe. But I was just talking to a mom of 3 this week whose kids are all college+ aged (except one HS senior) and she was telling me all about how it gets so much better and more fun when the kids are teens. She could travel and do fun stuff with them. Plus make her own plans to go out with her DH because the kids were independent. Vs. being in the midst of the young elementary/toddler/baby stage.
Another coworker with two HS aged kids has said similar things to me (her kids are pretty into advanced classes/band so probably not partners).
I know some teens are rough. I imagine dealing with a teen with mental illness, addiction issues, poor grades, etc. is harder than a toddler. But I also think there’s a decent chance to have some good ones who are fun to be around. I have all boys who are pretty sporty/laid back so I hope they stay that way!
Yeah, the sporty kids never are any trouble.
[snort]
Right? They don't "broom" other kids... they don't do dumb things...at all! I am just laughing at some of these clueless parents of not teens!
"My coworker told me....."
Anonymous
10/20/2021 15:11
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:Don't wish your children's childhood away.
+1. I have three teens. Yes, the physical demands are less when they’re older but some of them (not all) pose much larger concerns when they teens.
But all stages have hard things and wonderful things and I will miss my kids very much when they’ve left the house.
Anonymous
10/20/2021 14:48
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
See I never understood this lin of thinking. I guess sports/activities might help keep some kids out of trouble, but really, some kids just aren't trouble makers, and it's not keeping them busy that keeps them out of trouble, they just don't want to do that stuff. I was that kid, so we're my friends. If a kid wants to get into trouble they will regardless
Anonymous
10/20/2021 14:47
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you want a teen now, I will loan you mine!
When you wake up at 5:45am to pee, you might discover
A. they actually haven’t come home yet and haven’t texted you to say where they are
B. They texted you at 1am to let you know “FYI” that a new girlfriend stayed overnight with them, and presumably is still in their bedroom
C. They texted you at 3am to say the car battery died, can you pick them up? Then lots more “?” texts but no actual update on what happened or where they are
I could go on and on….😭
What?! Does your child have a curfew? Why don’t you install an alarm system? My parents always made me be home by a set time and then the alarm was set so I couldn’t sneak out (or sneak anyone in). Your child feels comfortable just having a random girlfriend sleepover at your house?
I’m hoping there are some major consequences for this. That car battery is the least of their worries b/c no way in hell will they be using the car for the foreseeable future.
Right!?!? PP acts like there is nothing they can, so they just throw their hands up in defeat and let their kid run wild. Gimme a break. That is NOT normal teen behavior
But I suppose, eventually, there will be some major consequences. An unplanned pregnancy, a DUI, an overdose. Some sort of consequence like that
Anonymous
10/20/2021 14:44
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you want a teen now, I will loan you mine!
When you wake up at 5:45am to pee, you might discover
A. they actually haven’t come home yet and haven’t texted you to say where they are
B. They texted you at 1am to let you know “FYI” that a new girlfriend stayed overnight with them, and presumably is still in their bedroom
C. They texted you at 3am to say the car battery died, can you pick them up? Then lots more “?” texts but no actual update on what happened or where they are
I could go on and on….😭
I can't even imagine the ass-whooping I would have gotten if I had done any of those things.
there is literally a 0% change my kids will ever do A, B, or C. ZERO
Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha. I guarantee you that just bcs you so nastily posted this, there will be payback. Also, having such high opinion of your own parenting skills.... well it is an indication of how clueless you are about what is coming.
let me guess, your kid is .....2?
Nope. Kid is 12.
Also, I know this won't ever happen bc I'm not even going to go to bed before my kid ever gets home for the night. So waking up a text that they brought some rando girl home? That will never happen.
Seriously, my parents would have the beat the snot out of me if I had pulled even anything remotely close to that. And then I wouldn't be allowed to leave the house again.
I don't beat my kids, but I guarantee that they wouldn't have any privileges if they even tried any of those stunts
And heres the thing: I'm not even worried about it. Cause my kids know that. So they wont try it.
That is outright hilarious.
Why? I never tried it. My siblings didn't.
My neices and nephews haven't. It's about the culture in the house.
Anonymous
10/20/2021 14:41
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. You may have seriously just set some karma in motion…. bc toddlers are a cakewalk to teens.
Some teens maybe. But I was just talking to a mom of 3 this week whose kids are all college+ aged (except one HS senior) and she was telling me all about how it gets so much better and more fun when the kids are teens. She could travel and do fun stuff with them. Plus make her own plans to go out with her DH because the kids were independent. Vs. being in the midst of the young elementary/toddler/baby stage.
Another coworker with two HS aged kids has said similar things to me (her kids are pretty into advanced classes/band so probably not partners).
I know some teens are rough. I imagine dealing with a teen with mental illness, addiction issues, poor grades, etc. is harder than a toddler. But I also think there’s a decent chance to have some good ones who are fun to be around. I have all boys who are pretty sporty/laid back so I hope they stay that way!
Yeah, the sporty kids never are any trouble.
[snort]
I’m sure some athletic kids are trouble, but I also think sports are a good way to keep kids occupied and out of trouble. We have grown nephews who were really into travel sports as teens and I think it helped them stay out of trouble. Both ended up in serious relationships with nice girlfriends, got sports scholarships to college, seem to have good heads on their shoulders, etc. I’m sure they’ve partied some like all kids, but they seem to take their health seriously because they’re always getting up early for practices or tournaments. Hard to make travel team if you’re out partying until 5 am.
Anonymous
10/20/2021 14:36
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. You may have seriously just set some karma in motion…. bc toddlers are a cakewalk to teens.
Some teens maybe. But I was just talking to a mom of 3 this week whose kids are all college+ aged (except one HS senior) and she was telling me all about how it gets so much better and more fun when the kids are teens. She could travel and do fun stuff with them. Plus make her own plans to go out with her DH because the kids were independent. Vs. being in the midst of the young elementary/toddler/baby stage.
Another coworker with two HS aged kids has said similar things to me (her kids are pretty into advanced classes/band so probably not partners).
I know some teens are rough. I imagine dealing with a teen with mental illness, addiction issues, poor grades, etc. is harder than a toddler. But I also think there’s a decent chance to have some good ones who are fun to be around. I have all boys who are pretty sporty/laid back so I hope they stay that way!
Yeah, the sporty kids never are any trouble.
[snort]
Anonymous
10/20/2021 14:36
Subject: I can’t WAIT to have teens!
Anonymous wrote:If you want a teen now, I will loan you mine!
When you wake up at 5:45am to pee, you might discover
A. they actually haven’t come home yet and haven’t texted you to say where they are
B. They texted you at 1am to let you know “FYI” that a new girlfriend stayed overnight with them, and presumably is still in their bedroom
C. They texted you at 3am to say the car battery died, can you pick them up? Then lots more “?” texts but no actual update on what happened or where they are
I could go on and on….😭
What?! Does your child have a curfew? Why don’t you install an alarm system? My parents always made me be home by a set time and then the alarm was set so I couldn’t sneak out (or sneak anyone in). Your child feels comfortable just having a random girlfriend sleepover at your house?
I’m hoping there are some major consequences for this. That car battery is the least of their worries b/c no way in hell will they be using the car for the foreseeable future.