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Interesting. Curious out the perception of bi men from homosexual men. Is it similar?

The perception is that bi men are actually gay.

So a woman can be bi but not a man? Sad.

It’s biphobia. Bi women are said to be trying to get attention from men and bi men are said to be actually just be gay men. Basically, everyone’s default sexuality is supposed to be attracted to men.

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Anonymous wrote:
Interesting. Curious out the perception of bi men from homosexual men. Is it similar?

The perception is that bi men are actually gay.

So a woman can be bi but not a man? Sad.

Anonymous wrote:
Interesting. Curious out the perception of bi men from homosexual men. Is it similar?

The perception is that bi men are actually gay.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by public perception??

She means that she likes the status that comes with having a man that you don't get when you're with a woman. She sees a relationship with man as being more legitimate and valuable than one with a woman. Many bi women I've encountered seem to think this way and it's why most lesbians want nothing to do with them. These women see lesbians as nothing more than human vibrators who are to be used and then discarded.

Interesting. Curious out the perception of bi men from homosexual men. Is it similar?

Don’t you have gay friends you can ask?

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you mean by public perception??[/quote]

She means that she likes the status that comes with having a man that you don't get when you're with a woman. She sees a relationship with man as being more legitimate and valuable than one with a woman. Many bi women I've encountered seem to think this way and it's why most lesbians want nothing to do with them. These women see lesbians as nothing more than human vibrators who are to be used and then discarded.[/quote]

Interesting. Curious out the perception of bi men from homosexual men. Is it similar?

[quote=Anonymous]What do you mean by public perception??[/quote]

She means that she likes the status that comes with having a man that you don't get when you're with a woman. She sees a relationship with man as being more legitimate and valuable than one with a woman. Many bi women I've encountered seem to think this way and it's why most lesbians want nothing to do with them. These women see lesbians as nothing more than human vibrators who are to be used and then discarded.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, and I'm disappointed this deteriorated so quickly. Can we set aside the gender identity issue for now?

New question: do you have children (assuming you do since you're on this site)? Have you discussed your bi identity with them? How "out" are you among friends?

Me: yes I have kids (young tweens) and no, I haven't talked with them about it yet. I do plan to, though I wonder how DH will feel about it. He's generally very open, but I know it will make him feel weird. Deep down (or not so much), I think he likes to pretend my previous life as a lesbian is a thing of the distant past). Yes, I am out to friends, but I literally know NO ONE else who is out and bi. Our community (NW DC) is very very cis and hetero, with a handful of queer families.

Bi woman married to a man here. I haven’t discussed my sexuality with my kids nor do I plan to unless one is LGB. My DH, too, isn’t quite comfortable with my sexuality. I’m out to old friends, but not to anyone I’ve met since marriage.

You chose to marry someone, but admit he isn't comfortable with that. I assume he only wants a one on one relationship then? Sorry it's confusing, but you should have decided all that before you married him. And why do you have to be "out"? It sounds like you and your DH have some serious problems.

I agree. If you are happily married to a man, does it matter that you are out? bi? I get why he would be uncomfortable.

Different pp here. I don’t get why he would be uncomfortable.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, and I'm disappointed this deteriorated so quickly. Can we set aside the gender identity issue for now?

New question: do you have children (assuming you do since you're on this site)? Have you discussed your bi identity with them? How "out" are you among friends?

Me: yes I have kids (young tweens) and no, I haven't talked with them about it yet. I do plan to, though I wonder how DH will feel about it. He's generally very open, but I know it will make him feel weird. Deep down (or not so much), I think he likes to pretend my previous life as a lesbian is a thing of the distant past). Yes, I am out to friends, but I literally know NO ONE else who is out and bi. Our community (NW DC) is very very cis and hetero, with a handful of queer families.

Bi woman married to a man here. I haven’t discussed my sexuality with my kids nor do I plan to unless one is LGB. My DH, too, isn’t quite comfortable with my sexuality. I’m out to old friends, but not to anyone I’ve met since marriage.

You chose to marry someone, but admit he isn't comfortable with that. I assume he only wants a one on one relationship then? Sorry it's confusing, but you should have decided all that before you married him. And why do you have to be "out"? It sounds like you and your DH have some serious problems.

I agree. If you are happily married to a man, does it matter that you are out? bi? I get why he would be uncomfortable.

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How are you posting here and not understanding the public perception part?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, and I'm disappointed this deteriorated so quickly. Can we set aside the gender identity issue for now?

New question: do you have children (assuming you do since you're on this site)? Have you discussed your bi identity with them? How "out" are you among friends?

Me: yes I have kids (young tweens) and no, I haven't talked with them about it yet. I do plan to, though I wonder how DH will feel about it. He's generally very open, but I know it will make him feel weird. Deep down (or not so much), I think he likes to pretend my previous life as a lesbian is a thing of the distant past). Yes, I am out to friends, but I literally know NO ONE else who is out and bi. Our community (NW DC) is very very cis and hetero, with a handful of queer families.

Bi woman married to a man here. I haven’t discussed my sexuality with my kids nor do I plan to unless one is LGB. My DH, too, isn’t quite comfortable with my sexuality. I’m out to old friends, but not to anyone I’ve met since marriage.

You chose to marry someone, but admit he isn't comfortable with that. I assume he only wants a one on one relationship then? Sorry it's confusing, but you should have decided all that before you married him. And why do you have to be "out"? It sounds like you and your DH have some serious problems.

[quote=Anonymous]Yes, and yes.

I like having sex with women. But I NEED a man. My H, specifically, is that man. I could never have the kind of relationship with a woman that I have with him. That kind of woman just doesn’t exist. It obviously goes beyond just physical characteristics, end encompasses everything from personality to public perception and everything in between.

Frankly, while I enjoy sex with women, I also find most of women I have sex with annoying, in the times we aren’t having sex. That’s another major factor. [/quote]

What do you mean by public perception??

Yes, and yes.

I like having sex with women. But I NEED a man. My H, specifically, is that man. I could never have the kind of relationship with a woman that I have with him. That kind of woman just doesn’t exist. It obviously goes beyond just physical characteristics, end encompasses everything from personality to public perception and everything in between.

Frankly, while I enjoy sex with women, I also find most of women I have sex with annoying, in the times we aren’t having sex. That’s another major factor.

Anonymous wrote:So, if I create a meet-up group for those of us who are bi- and married to men (so, including, both, women who are totally open about it with spouse, and those who are “less than totally open,” or whatever—etc.), for the DC (DMV) area, would any of you join?

Someone made a Reddit, I think, but I’m not diving into this unless we can make it entirely anonymous for those who prefer to “check it out” that way. I’m guessing there are many others like me who haven’t discussed this beyond from behind their screens partly bc they’re not ready to or interested in doing so. But yea. For sure.

So, if I create a meet-up group for those of us who are bi- and married to men (so, including, both, women who are totally open about it with spouse, and those who are “less than totally open,” or whatever—etc.), for the DC (DMV) area, would any of you join?

Anonymous wrote:I'm bi and married my husband. Husband has been very supportive of my need for 'girl time', and girls trips with my 'friends'.

Just recently DH revealed his curiosity with exploring bisexuality and I'm elated that he's open minded to explore this part of him.

Last weekend we met a couple where both spouses were bisexual, and we enjoyed their company and conversation. We learned a few things about our dynamic from them and look forward to getting together with them again.

Hubby and I look forward to this new stage of our lives together, whereas I had previously enjoyed this 'side' of myself on my own.

Sounds as though you and your husband have found what many couples yearn for - an ethically non-monogamous marriage. Post-COVID we've discovered more couples where each are identifying as bi or bicurious. I know in our marriage, we both identify as bi and have met some really fun, open minded couples like ourselves. Just cause we are bi and are meeting other bi couples doesn't necessarily mean we are having sexual relations with everyone or swapping partners. We find the equal mindset, and open mindedness make our time together more fun. We don't have to worry about censoring our conversations for worry of offending one another. I enjoy having gal pals for 'dates' to the spa or lunch dates. Ive been on a few "girls weekend's" where things have gotten risqué but it was all tasteful. I know my husband enjoys his 'guy time' on the golf course, and fishing. He's gone on a few guys trips too. We have a Florida vacation planned with a few of our 'friends' this month, which will be great fun and is sure to be racy and risqué.

It's time to live and enjoy ourselves. We're at that stage in life where we don't judge others and hopefully no one judges us for our decisions.