Monogamy is very difficult for many people.

I like Will + Jada’s approach to marriage personally,

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Anonymous wrote:I do care but I cheat. I just want to have sex more than once per month so I find other people to have sex with. If she wanted more sex than I was willing to give her I would assume she would cheat as well.

And she has no idea?

No idea. She just says she is who she is and she’s sorry. I don’t want to leave her so I do what it takes to keep my needs satisfied.

I feel so bad for your wife. I hope she finds out. She deserves to know.

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Anonymous wrote:I do care but I cheat. I just want to have sex more than once per month so I find other people to have sex with. If she wanted more sex than I was willing to give her I would assume she would cheat as well.

And she has no idea?

No idea. She just says she is who she is and she’s sorry. I don’t want to leave her so I do what it takes to keep my needs satisfied.

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Anonymous wrote:European here. Affairs happen, it’s not the death sentence.

Not the death sentence for sure but it does do harm to those around the cheater. It isn't easy to dissociate emotions like that.

For all the talk about the harm to children and so on, I wonder how children in other countries were extramarital affairs aren't so moralized deal with it? Are they broken and cynical and distraught and unable to make connections and have meaningful relationships as people here say will happen to children?

For those in the cheap seats, since everyone glommed on to Europe despite Europe not being mentioned in the post about kids.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:European here. Affairs happen, it’s not the death sentence.

Not the death sentence for sure but it does do harm to those around the cheater. It isn't easy to dissociate emotions like that.

For all the talk about the harm to children and so on, I wonder how children in other countries were extramarital affairs aren't so moralized deal with it? Are they broken and cynical and distraught and unable to make connections and have meaningful relationships as people here say will happen to children?

I don’t give a F””k. I only care about my own kids.

My friends in Europe all spent much of their youth away at boarding school, fwiw. And 3 of them are pretty messed up and don’t have a good relationship with either parent.

Yeah this generalization of “europe” being so much more enlightened about sexual mores is a little obnoxious. First of all because Europe is a big place with many different cultures, and also because just because something is European doesn’t make it better. Take, for instance, the Dutch and their common attitude toward race. No thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:European here. Affairs happen, it’s not the death sentence.

Not the death sentence for sure but it does do harm to those around the cheater. It isn't easy to dissociate emotions like that.

For all the talk about the harm to children and so on, I wonder how children in other countries were extramarital affairs aren't so moralized deal with it? Are they broken and cynical and distraught and unable to make connections and have meaningful relationships as people here say will happen to children?

Maybe APs in other countries never not to show up to the house and talk to the kids.

My French neighbor in DC divorced over her husband’s affair and then moved to the US. It’s not true all are free with betrayal.

^ ran off

My best friend in Germany and her 3 brothers were devastated when dad wanted off with another woman. She was 20 at the time. Her mother was incredibly distraught. I lived with them for some time right after this. The kids did not have a relationship with him for some time.

People have this seeking generalization about “Europe”. Europe is so many different countries, culture and religions. I haven’t found cheating in marriage so acceptable in Ireland or Spain or Italy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:European here. Affairs happen, it’s not the death sentence.

Not the death sentence for sure but it does do harm to those around the cheater. It isn't easy to dissociate emotions like that.

For all the talk about the harm to children and so on, I wonder how children in other countries were extramarital affairs aren't so moralized deal with it? Are they broken and cynical and distraught and unable to make connections and have meaningful relationships as people here say will happen to children?

I don’t give a F””k. I only care about my own kids.

My friends in Europe all spent much of their youth away at boarding school, fwiw. And 3 of them are pretty messed up and don’t have a good relationship with either parent.

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Anonymous wrote:European here. Affairs happen, it’s not the death sentence.

Not the death sentence for sure but it does do harm to those around the cheater. It isn't easy to dissociate emotions like that.

For all the talk about the harm to children and so on, I wonder how children in other countries were extramarital affairs aren't so moralized deal with it? Are they broken and cynical and distraught and unable to make connections and have meaningful relationships as people here say will happen to children?

What got me was the lying and uncertainty and the time spent with some ho that should have been invested in our relationship and spending gotdayum money doing that s***. That's why I divorced.

Anonymous wrote:I do care but I cheat. I just want to have sex more than once per month so I find other people to have sex with. If she wanted more sex than I was willing to give her I would assume she would cheat as well.

And she has no idea?

I care about cheating! After 34 years and a still wonderful sex life I’d be really pissed if he needed to find satisfaction elsewhere.

Anonymous wrote:European here. Affairs happen, it’s not the death sentence.

Not the death sentence for sure but it does do harm to those around the cheater. It isn't easy to dissociate emotions like that.