Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 11:28     Subject: Re:Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
I'd feel uncomfortable sharing my location w a significant other bc it seems kind of controlling/too much. That being said, I do share my location with my brother and two best friends. I feel comfortable w this bc I know they won't "abuse" it and we have no trust issues. It's partly for safety/logistics and sometimes bc it's fun or easier to check than ask the person where they are. My brother also travels a lot so it's easy to check and see where he is.


Why do you need to know where your brother is? Also you share with other people but not the actual person you are in a relationship with? Do you not care about them as much or where they are?
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 11:27     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
My husband and I share location at all times (occasionally he's removed it if he's having a tizzy, and I laugh at that because it pops on the next day). We started doing it when it became a thing several years ago because it's a logistical godsend: you know when to start dinner, you know where to meet someone, you know if someone is still at the store and can get that one additional item, etc...

I have a few friends who "share for 1 hour" when they're on the way or meeting me.

If someone asked or offered to share for the reason you mention I'd be 100% no way about it. That seems like a weird trust issue and an absolute no go.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 11:26     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:Marriage yes, relationship NO.

My husband has an alert on me (I had to approve it). I don't go out much but when I do I go for hours and sometimes don't answer the phone if I cannot hear it ring. So, it says when I leave the house, come home. We have tracking on all the phones. We rarely use it but its nice to have.


What if it's a relationship headed to marriage? Why wouldn't you in a relationship? What difference does it make?
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 11:25     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:She’s not asking if you track your husband’s commute. The answer is, it’s not normal in a dating relationship


I don't think the question is if it's normal to share in a dating relationship it should be framed more as if you live with the person. Whether or not I'm dating or married to the man we still may have places to go or cook dinner for him or have kids together and those are plenty of reasons to share location.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 11:22     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 60s. Two adult children in their 40s, one is divorced and has a long term live-in GF, the other is single. We share our locations with each other via Google Maps. My son and his GF share their locations with each other, he also shares with his adult daughter. Both my kids share locations with their dad (my ex).

None of cares at all who knows where we are at any given time. We've been sharing for years. It's very convenient.
Can't imagine why anybody would object. What exactly are you doing that you don't want people to know?


Why do you need to know where your adult kids who are in their 49s are? Cut the apron strings already. If my man had his mom on his tracking app I would run fast thinking he is too attached.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 11:20     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would never: I am divorced in my 40s. I made my boyfriend at 23 return a cell phone for my birthday. I did not want to be accessible to anyone 24/7. Of course, now we are not where I am going is my privacy. No one is tracking me 24/7. No way in hell.


I’m one of the pp’s above who has device location sharing turned on with my husband. It’s not like we “track” each other 24/7. Honestly I think we both forget that it’s even enabled most of the time. But every once in a while, I’ll see if he’s left the office so I don’t need to bug him / text him about whether he’s left yet. The main use case for us is for travel, especially since we don’t need to be glued at the hip. I might spend an afternoon shopping in a town while he goes snorkeling, but it’s nice to know I could find him in an emergency. We don’t track and zero trust issues.


That is weird. Why do you need to know if he has left the office? People did not used to have cell phones. They were better off.


I can think of lots of reasons that aren't related to trust issues and I'm the not poster who wrote that. One being that she wants to start dinner but wants to wait until her husband is on her way home so the dinner isn't just sitting there or getting cold. Another is that they are going somewhere or have to be someplace and she wants to have an idea of when they are going to be able to leave to go.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 11:15     Subject: Re:Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:Not normal. I share with my family since I travel a lot and want them to be aware of where I'm at if they don't hear from me. It's never been brought up by a man I'm dating and if it was, I'd be really concerned. If your friend is sharing their location, I would be afraid it wouldn't be enough for the other party, soon the other person will need more "security" like passwords to accounts and such - that won't go over well.


You would share with your family but not your partner? Isn't your partner someone that's more involved in your day to day life. I live with my partner so they are more involved in my life and my whereabouts than my family?
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2021 04:19     Subject: Re:Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:I'm married and my husband/I share location. It's not a big deal and often helps to know the location of the spouse without having to ping them.


Same - it's convenient with little kids, coordinating dropoffs, picking someone up, etc.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 23:26     Subject: Re:Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Every dishonest person I know has a real problem with it. Take that for what it’s worth.

Guess if you are hitting up a massage parlor or having a nooner at the Marriott you would vehemently argue your need for privacy.



Maybe some people but perfectly honest people often have a thing about having their privacy invaded. This kind of technology is a complete invasion of privacy. I grew up in a rural area. I did not watch TV. There were no cell phone. There was not even a stop light. I am in my early 40s. I survived. My cell phone is tied to me for work and personal life and that is too much as it is. Having someone being able to find me on their phone. If I am at the gym and taking longer than usual or do a stop at the store on the way home, I am entitled to doing those things without being questioned about my extra minutes on my commute. If something bad happens to me, you will get a phone call. I will NEVER share my location with anyone nor will I track my kids. I trust them to do what they should be doing. People deserve some kind of autonomy without everyone knowing what they are doing and where they are on a minute-by-minute basis. It is not that I am dishonest...it is that I have a huge philisophical problem with this invading my everyday life. It is very similair to people who don't have social media profile. I do, but it is the same line of thinking. My younger brother still will not text. I think that is a step too far but he will absolutely no do it to communicate. If you want to talk to him, you have to call him. He also now lives in a major metro area. We don't want technology invading every aspect of our lives.


This is exactly how I feel as well! I just don’t want to be tracked! I don’t want my husband to always know where I am (trust me, it’s no where exciting). I just like privacy. We can easily text to find out where we are so it seems entirely unnecessary.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 23:13     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 60s. Two adult children in their 40s, one is divorced and has a long term live-in GF, the other is single. We share our locations with each other via Google Maps. My son and his GF share their locations with each other, he also shares with his adult daughter. Both my kids share locations with their dad (my ex).

None of cares at all who knows where we are at any given time. We've been sharing for years. It's very convenient.
Can't imagine why anybody would object. [b] What exactly are you doing that you don't want people to know?[/b]



I couldn't kive with someone who had this level of suspicion.


Huh? Suspicion of what? None of us are suspicious of anything that I know of. Also, none of us are worried that our loved ones (mom, dad, son, daughter, GF, BF, etc.) will know where we are. No reason to be.



You literally write the bold, that's a suspicious attitude, and an unhealthy attitude that you think someone not wanting you to know where they are every moment means they are doing something inappropriate.


There are plenty of people I know, including other loved ones, who don't share locations with me or me with them, although I would if they asked. I have no problem with them whatsoever for not sharing their locations. I am just curious about all the people here who are so adamantly against it, invasion of privacy, etc. Location sharing does not strike me that way at all.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 23:09     Subject: Re:Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
I turned on tracking for my kids but it seems like they track me more than I track them. LOL!
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2021 23:02     Subject: Is "sharing location" on cell phones a thing for those in a relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 60s. Two adult children in their 40s, one is divorced and has a long term live-in GF, the other is single. We share our locations with each other via Google Maps. My son and his GF share their locations with each other, he also shares with his adult daughter. Both my kids share locations with their dad (my ex).

None of cares at all who knows where we are at any given time. We've been sharing for years. It's very convenient.
Can't imagine why anybody would object. [b] What exactly are you doing that you don't want people to know?[/b]



I couldn't kive with someone who had this level of suspicion.


Huh? Suspicion of what? None of us are suspicious of anything that I know of. Also, none of us are worried that our loved ones (mom, dad, son, daughter, GF, BF, etc.) will know where we are. No reason to be.



You literally write the bold, that's a suspicious attitude, and an unhealthy attitude that you think someone not wanting you to know where they are every moment means they are doing something inappropriate.