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Anonymous wrote:Put your headphones on and mind your own business. You’re there to workout, not socialize.

Yeah, no. Literally some of my best friends I've met at the gym.

How bout we modify your rule:

'if headphones are in, don't talk to that person'

But if no headphones are in, its fine to start a convo

We will agree to disagree…

But sometimes I like to workout without headphones? What then?

That’s on you to figure it out…

Anonymous wrote:I don't go to the gym anymore as I made a home gym, but here are mine to add:

Please don't make videos for your insta when other people are around. I don't want to be in your video. Also, stop slowly sauntering in the hallway, filming yourself and talking about how you're at the gym again. You're in everyone's way and everyone else is trying to work out for real instead of pretend to work out for likes.

If you are in a weight room with closed doors and the only other patron is female, wave and then stay away.

Or you leave if you're such a ninny. Nobody needs to revolve their workouts around your anxiety.

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Anonymous wrote:It's OK to use the hot tub in the nude, as it is within the confines of the locker room. It is also OK to wear a swimsuit. Less desirable is wearing your underwear in which you just finished working out, even if you "rinsed it off" while wearing it in the showers.

No it is not ok to use the hot tub naked OR in your dirty underwear. Vomit

Shower first, and naked is fine. What's the problem with naked in the hot tub?

I don't get this, either. What would be wrong with it? That's why they're in the locker room, not in the pool area.

My gym has signage that swimsuits are required in the hot tubs. I used to think this was unnecessary but reading your posts makes me realize that common sense is not common.

Can you articulate why it is important for you? What are your concerns if people don't wear swimsuits?

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Anonymous wrote:It's OK to use the hot tub in the nude, as it is within the confines of the locker room. It is also OK to wear a swimsuit. Less desirable is wearing your underwear in which you just finished working out, even if you "rinsed it off" while wearing it in the showers.

No it is not ok to use the hot tub naked OR in your dirty underwear. Vomit

Shower first, and naked is fine. What's the problem with naked in the hot tub?

I don't get this, either. What would be wrong with it? That's why they're in the locker room, not in the pool area.

My gym has signage that swimsuits are required in the hot tubs. I used to think this was unnecessary but reading your posts makes me realize that common sense is not common.

Is there also a sauna / steam room? are swim suits required in there as well? that all seems very weird to me

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Anonymous wrote:It's OK to use the hot tub in the nude, as it is within the confines of the locker room. It is also OK to wear a swimsuit. Less desirable is wearing your underwear in which you just finished working out, even if you "rinsed it off" while wearing it in the showers.

No it is not ok to use the hot tub naked OR in your dirty underwear. Vomit

Shower first, and naked is fine. What's the problem with naked in the hot tub?

I don't get this, either. What would be wrong with it? That's why they're in the locker room, not in the pool area.

My gym has signage that swimsuits are required in the hot tubs. I used to think this was unnecessary but reading your posts makes me realize that common sense is not common.

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Anonymous wrote:Put your headphones on and mind your own business. You’re there to workout, not socialize.

Yeah, no. Literally some of my best friends I've met at the gym.

How bout we modify your rule:

'if headphones are in, don't talk to that person'

But if no headphones are in, its fine to start a convo

We will agree to disagree…

But sometimes I like to workout without headphones? What then?

Put your best RBF on and avoid eye contact if you do not want to have a conversation. I actually do not mind having a conversation if I have the time. If I don't have it I tell people just that. So that would be another option. You dont have to have a conversation even if you get approached.

Oh, me too. I was the PP saying its ok to have a socialize at the gym.

I was more poking fun at how ridiculous it is for someone to think everyone should wear headphones and nobody should talk

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Anonymous wrote:Put your headphones on and mind your own business. You’re there to workout, not socialize.

Yeah, no. Literally some of my best friends I've met at the gym.

How bout we modify your rule:

'if headphones are in, don't talk to that person'

But if no headphones are in, its fine to start a convo

We will agree to disagree…

But sometimes I like to workout without headphones? What then?

Put your best RBF on and avoid eye contact if you do not want to have a conversation. I actually do not mind having a conversation if I have the time. If I don't have it I tell people just that. So that would be another option. You dont have to have a conversation even if you get approached.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put your headphones on and mind your own business. You’re there to workout, not socialize.

Yeah, no. Literally some of my best friends I've met at the gym.

How bout we modify your rule:

'if headphones are in, don't talk to that person'

But if no headphones are in, its fine to start a convo

We will agree to disagree…

But sometimes I like to workout without headphones? What then?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put your headphones on and mind your own business. You’re there to workout, not socialize.

Yeah, no. Literally some of my best friends I've met at the gym.

How bout we modify your rule:

'if headphones are in, don't talk to that person'

But if no headphones are in, its fine to start a convo

We will agree to disagree…

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put your headphones on and mind your own business. You’re there to workout, not socialize.

Yeah, no. Literally some of my best friends I've met at the gym.

How bout we modify your rule:

'if headphones are in, don't talk to that person'

But if no headphones are in, its fine to start a convo

I've never understood that 'Don't talk to me' attitude about the gym.

you can clearly tell who does not want to socialize, so leave them alone.

But many people there have a shared hobby or interest. It's only natural to want to discuss your shared hobby

Anonymous wrote:Put your headphones on and mind your own business. You’re there to workout, not socialize.

Yeah, no. Literally some of my best friends I've met at the gym.

How bout we modify your rule:

'if headphones are in, don't talk to that person'

But if no headphones are in, its fine to start a convo

Put your headphones on and mind your own business. You’re there to workout, not socialize.

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I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

I’m amazed that you haven’t shamed him into getting into shape. It’s sad and embarrassing when a wife is in better shape than her husband - though I see it all the time. You shouldn’t worry about being unattractive to him… I think he is worried about being unattractive to you, but instead of making himself more attractive he is trying to drag you down to his level. What a loser!

He is not out of shape, though he is the cardio bunny and I am the lifter in my household. But he often complains about the lack of muscle on him and I think there is some element of truth on what you said about him worrying about him becoming unattractive to me, because I think he convinced himself is that all I care about is muscle. I also dont think he would ever join me at the gym because he would be worried about all the huge guys he imagines there and about me outlifting him.

First of all, I'm a guy, and I don't think I've ever been at a gym where there weren't other guys who could outlift me. If you are strongest man in the gym, you probably need to go to a new gym instead of Planet Fitness or some other "woman friendly" place. Heck, at my current gym, pretty much all the guys can outlift me. I find this inspirational not intimidating. They are stronger because they are mostly in their 20s and I am in my 40s. I'm certainly not ever going to be the strongest guy in my gym. But I don't care. The only guy I am competing with is me, the last time I was at the gym. I want to be stronger than previous me! That's why I keep a fitness log, so I do more every time. If your DH can't get over being outlifted, that's pretty sad. Lose the ego, dude.

There are also some women at my current gym who can outlift me. I'm not weak, either. But they are 25 and are training for powerlifting meets, and I'm not young or a competitor. Again, I don't care. I say, good for them, I hope they keep it up as they get older. If you can outlift your DH, that should only be a temporary embarrassment. With consistent effort, he would quickly become stronger than you. The only thing standing in his way is his ego. He could just go at a different time from you for a while, until he got stronger than you, if that's his problem.

I can't even understand the mentality of a man who would allow himself to be weaker than his wife.

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I just ignore and keep doing my thing, but it is incredibly annoying and of course it sucks feeling unattractive to my spouse while being really in shape at the same time.

I’m amazed that you haven’t shamed him into getting into shape. It’s sad and embarrassing when a wife is in better shape than her husband - though I see it all the time. You shouldn’t worry about being unattractive to him… I think he is worried about being unattractive to you, but instead of making himself more attractive he is trying to drag you down to his level. What a loser!

He is not out of shape, though he is the cardio bunny and I am the lifter in my household. But he often complains about the lack of muscle on him and I think there is some element of truth on what you said about him worrying about him becoming unattractive to me, because I think he convinced himself is that all I care about is muscle. I also dont think he would ever join me at the gym because he would be worried about all the huge guys he imagines there and about me outlifting him.

Ugh, just my personal opinion, but runner's bodies are not even remotely attractive. He's right to be worried

He is a rower, so it is not so bad. I would very much agree with the runner body assessment. I would still not be an a**hole to him though if running would be something he genuinely enjoys. I wish he looked that way at my lifting. I am not doing it for the muscle, though I do not mind it either, but because it makes me feel good.

You guys are such great role models for your kid. Grow up.

What is your advice?

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Anonymous wrote:It's OK to use the hot tub in the nude, as it is within the confines of the locker room. It is also OK to wear a swimsuit. Less desirable is wearing your underwear in which you just finished working out, even if you "rinsed it off" while wearing it in the showers.

No it is not ok to use the hot tub naked OR in your dirty underwear. Vomit

Shower first, and naked is fine. What's the problem with naked in the hot tub?

I don't get this, either. What would be wrong with it? That's why they're in the locker room, not in the pool area.