Anonymous wrote:Not my circus, not my monkeys, but just something I noticed. A good friend was cheated on by DH with a young OW for almost a year, nearly killed her but they patched things up after a very hard struggle. OW kept sending DW sordid details of their affair to try to get her to dump him. We all kept thinking the OW would get some karma, but nope, she married a rich (single) guy, bought a 3m home and just had her first kid. Bet the new husband knows nothing about her role in the affair. Just doesn’t seem fair.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

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Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Get a life, lady. You're obviously posting this "warm hole" and "open legs" stuff repeatedly and it is pathetic.

Every time one of these threads comes up about some AP/OW there are these psycho losers crawling out of the woodwork to call her easy, slutty, whatever. So what? Your husband went for it. He's easy. He's a slut. It may feel easier to focus (obsess) on the woman involved, but it takes two to tango and your greasy husband is the one who betrayed your marriage and promises HE made to you, not the woman.

Actually you're right about the husband. He's no good and imo used up goods at that point. Still many DWs have to stay for finances, kids, etc. Maybe health reasons, I've seen it all. The AP is a co-cheater, and also responsible for interjecting herself into a couples marriage. They are also responsible for the wrath of the DW, and the kids. Don't blame that pp for correctly calling the AP what she is. I call a bank robber/thief exactly what they are. Do you call them a over zealous withdrawer???
Sadly people are trying to deflect away from correct labeling. Maybe it's a harsh term, but nevertheless it's accurate. Calling other posters psycho because you don't agree isn't winning your case fyi.

You have a single data point on OW's sex life - you know that she had sex with one person, who was married. That does not make her a slut, literally by its definition. You don't know how long she 'dated' the guy for before hooking up with him, so calling her easy seems to be a stretch, too. If he wined and dined her for months, is she still easy? I don't agree with OW's behavior but using gendered terms for promiscuity for the woman while glossing over the person who broke their vows and was sleeping with two people at the same time is sexist and absurd.

And I do think looking up your friend's husband's AP's house address and price is psycho. As is the level of obsession with the OWs from other women talking about her 'hole' with a large degree of fixation.

Anonymous wrote:What karma are you hoping for your friend's husband, who actually had the affair?

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

Unfortunately, her affair will be a major theme in her affair partner's wife and children's life. Glad she came out smelling like roses while another person was destroyed. And, yes, she had a moral responsibility/fault for knowingly participating. She completely lacks empathy if she feels zero remorse for that.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

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Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Get a life, lady. You're obviously posting this "warm hole" and "open legs" stuff repeatedly and it is pathetic.

Every time one of these threads comes up about some AP/OW there are these psycho losers crawling out of the woodwork to call her easy, slutty, whatever. So what? Your husband went for it. He's easy. He's a slut. It may feel easier to focus (obsess) on the woman involved, but it takes two to tango and your greasy husband is the one who betrayed your marriage and promises HE made to you, not the woman.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Get a life, lady. You're obviously posting this "warm hole" and "open legs" stuff repeatedly and it is pathetic.

Every time one of these threads comes up about some AP/OW there are these psycho losers crawling out of the woodwork to call her easy, slutty, whatever. So what? Your husband went for it. He's easy. He's a slut. It may feel easier to focus (obsess) on the woman involved, but it takes two to tango and your greasy husband is the one who betrayed your marriage and promises HE made to you, not the woman.

Actually you're right about the husband. He's no good and imo used up goods at that point. Still many DWs have to stay for finances, kids, etc. Maybe health reasons, I've seen it all. The AP is a co-cheater, and also responsible for interjecting herself into a couples marriage. They are also responsible for the wrath of the DW, and the kids. Don't blame that pp for correctly calling the AP what she is. I call a bank robber/thief exactly what they are. Do you call them a over zealous withdrawer???
Sadly people are trying to deflect away from correct labeling. Maybe it's a harsh term, but nevertheless it's accurate. Calling other posters psycho because you don't agree isn't winning your case fyi.

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

Unfortunately, her affair will be a major theme in her affair partner's wife and children's life. Glad she came out smelling like roses while another person was destroyed. And, yes, she had a moral responsibility/fault for knowingly participating. She completely lacks empathy if she feels zero remorse for that.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

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His karma would be the DW cheated on him.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Get a life, lady. You're obviously posting this "warm hole" and "open legs" stuff repeatedly and it is pathetic.

Every time one of these threads comes up about some AP/OW there are these psycho losers crawling out of the woodwork to call her easy, slutty, whatever. So what? Your husband went for it. He's easy. He's a slut. It may feel easier to focus (obsess) on the woman involved, but it takes two to tango and your greasy husband is the one who betrayed your marriage and promises HE made to you, not the woman.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

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Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

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These OW that repeat this mantra: if it wasn't me, it would have been someone else.

Do they realize how cheap that makes them seem? Do they say this to relieve themselves from any moral decency?

It is weird to categorize yourself this lowly. I didn't matter, it would have just been another woman opening her legs for your husband.

Also, it was YOU. It's like getting hit by a drunk driver and the drunk saying 'well, if it wasn't me that hit you, it would have been another drunk driver'.

People that choose to sleep with married people aren't that self-reflective or aware. They are blameless and will create any narrative that makes them feel like they are decent. It's a complete and total lack of empathy. A real character defect. If you can't acknowledge you participated in something that ultimately harmed another person/children, you are really self delusional. At the very least, you would expect some guilt or remorse for the innocent party.

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying rich is just that. It's some money. Ok. But you know nothing about what her husband is like, how she feels about him, whether she is depressed and longing for her old affair partner, having a new affair, who knows. I view it like your friend was the winner - she kept her man. OW was the loser. Bye Felicia.

Oh, wow. OP’s friend “kept her (cheater) man.” What a win!

They both desperately wanted him, it was a competition, and the wife won.

Wife - 1

OW - 0

And the wife wasn't even aware she was in a competition for him .

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying rich is just that. It's some money. Ok. But you know nothing about what her husband is like, how she feels about him, whether she is depressed and longing for her old affair partner, having a new affair, who knows. I view it like your friend was the winner - she kept her man. OW was the loser. Bye Felicia.

Oh, wow. OP’s friend “kept her (cheater) man.” What a win!

They both desperately wanted him, it was a competition, and the wife won.

Wife - 1

OW - 0