Anonymous wrote:My wife refuses to have sex with me. At first it was my job didn't pay enough and she couldn't respect me. Eventually I got promotions and make good money. Next I don't do enough to help around the house, now I do almost everything. Than it was she didn't like my weight gain, so I have been very into fitness the last two years and by far am in the best shape of my life. Now she's saying she wants me to get a vasectomy because she worries about having more children (we have two). I told her no way since we don't have sex it doesn't matter. Now she is pissed at me. Sad thing is I notice how female coworkers and some women at the gym look at me since I've been in shaping. I've been making small talk and will probably end up divorcing at some point so I can find someone else.

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Anonymous wrote:Lame. I’m a lesbian, and should probably tell my husband.

Well do you ever plan to come out and why did you marry a man if you’re a lesbian ?

How are you OK with not getting any p***?

Who says she's not?

I wanna hear from her directly.
I wanna hear her confirm one way or another

So, lesbian in hiding are you getting any p****?

I’m a bicurious female and am married in a heterosexual relationship
I fantasize about women a lot lol

It’s me.

Unfortunately I am not getting any p****. I am not OK with it.
But!
I want to do something about it.
I knew something was up when I was younger, but repressed it for many reasons. It was easy to get married to a man and my parents were happy with that.
My husband knows and our marriage is probably on its last leg, but there are kids in the picture so it is not simple. I have never had an orgasm with a man and fantasize exclusively about women. My husband and I have separate bedrooms and he travels a lot, so there’s hope...

In the short term, why not open the marriage. I assume your DH would be thrilled to have sex with someone who wanted him and you could stay together for the kids for now

That’s what we recently agreed to. I don’t know what will happen or how long it will last :-/

Hi thanks for answering some intriguing questions
I was the asker

My hubby knows I’m not fully straight and I’ve messed with women,
Although I’ve never gone downtown

I hope you live life the best way that works for your whole family and you find your peace and hell eat a lot of pu#%^

Personally, I’m not interested in an open marriage and my husband would never allow this
I have some fantasies about a women that I’m sure also crushed on me. She moved away but I still get moist just thinking about her
I secretly wish she thinks of me lol. She too was married so basically it never would have worked out l, but the non verbal cues were there.

This sounds like my ex-DW. One day another woman will be in the picture and you won’t be able to stop yourself. I really don’t understand why people screwup their kids and hetero partners life by not living authentically and being with who you want to be with. I really did not appreciate bad sex and being a sperm donor.

Honestly I never realized I was into women until my 20s and I thought it was just a phase. But I was wrong. I love my husband and I never would
Hurt him. I don’t plan on leaving. He’s my best friend and I’m not a lesbian as mich as I have experienced sexual fluidity.

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Anonymous wrote:Lame. I’m a lesbian, and should probably tell my husband.

Well do you ever plan to come out and why did you marry a man if you’re a lesbian ?

How are you OK with not getting any p***?

Who says she's not?

I wanna hear from her directly.
I wanna hear her confirm one way or another

So, lesbian in hiding are you getting any p****?

I’m a bicurious female and am married in a heterosexual relationship
I fantasize about women a lot lol

It’s me.

Unfortunately I am not getting any p****. I am not OK with it.
But!
I want to do something about it.
I knew something was up when I was younger, but repressed it for many reasons. It was easy to get married to a man and my parents were happy with that.
My husband knows and our marriage is probably on its last leg, but there are kids in the picture so it is not simple. I have never had an orgasm with a man and fantasize exclusively about women. My husband and I have separate bedrooms and he travels a lot, so there’s hope...

In the short term, why not open the marriage. I assume your DH would be thrilled to have sex with someone who wanted him and you could stay together for the kids for now

That’s what we recently agreed to. I don’t know what will happen or how long it will last :-/

Hi thanks for answering some intriguing questions
I was the asker

My hubby knows I’m not fully straight and I’ve messed with women,
Although I’ve never gone downtown

I hope you live life the best way that works for your whole family and you find your peace and hell eat a lot of pu#%^

Personally, I’m not interested in an open marriage and my husband would never allow this
I have some fantasies about a women that I’m sure also crushed on me. She moved away but I still get moist just thinking about her
I secretly wish she thinks of me lol. She too was married so basically it never would have worked out l, but the non verbal cues were there.

This sounds like my ex-DW. One day another woman will be in the picture and you won’t be able to stop yourself. I really don’t understand why people screwup their kids and hetero partners life by not living authentically and being with who you want to be with. I really did not appreciate bad sex and being a sperm donor.

Anonymous wrote:My wife refuses to have sex with me. At first it was my job didn't pay enough and she couldn't respect me. Eventually I got promotions and make good money. Next I don't do enough to help around the house, now I do almost everything. Than it was she didn't like my weight gain, so I have been very into fitness the last two years and by far am in the best shape of my life. Now she's saying she wants me to get a vasectomy because she worries about having more children (we have two). I told her no way since we don't have sex it doesn't matter. Now she is pissed at me. Sad thing is I notice how female coworkers and some women at the gym look at me since I've been in shaping. I've been making small talk and will probably end up divorcing at some point so I can find someone else.

Anonymous wrote:My wife refuses to have sex with me. At first it was my job didn't pay enough and she couldn't respect me. Eventually I got promotions and make good money. Next I don't do enough to help around the house, now I do almost everything. Than it was she didn't like my weight gain, so I have been very into fitness the last two years and by far am in the best shape of my life. Now she's saying she wants me to get a vasectomy because she worries about having more children (we have two). I told her no way since we don't have sex it doesn't matter. Now she is pissed at me. Sad thing is I notice how female coworkers and some women at the gym look at me since I've been in shaping. I've been making small talk and will probably end up divorcing at some point so I can find someone else.

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Anonymous wrote:Lame. I’m a lesbian, and should probably tell my husband.

Well do you ever plan to come out and why did you marry a man if you’re a lesbian ?

How are you OK with not getting any p***?

Who says she's not?

I wanna hear from her directly.
I wanna hear her confirm one way or another

So, lesbian in hiding are you getting any p****?

I’m a bicurious female and am married in a heterosexual relationship
I fantasize about women a lot lol

It’s me.

Unfortunately I am not getting any p****. I am not OK with it.
But!
I want to do something about it.
I knew something was up when I was younger, but repressed it for many reasons. It was easy to get married to a man and my parents were happy with that.
My husband knows and our marriage is probably on its last leg, but there are kids in the picture so it is not simple. I have never had an orgasm with a man and fantasize exclusively about women. My husband and I have separate bedrooms and he travels a lot, so there’s hope...

In the short term, why not open the marriage. I assume your DH would be thrilled to have sex with someone who wanted him and you could stay together for the kids for now

That’s what we recently agreed to. I don’t know what will happen or how long it will last :-/

Hi thanks for answering some intriguing questions
I was the asker

My hubby knows I’m not fully straight and I’ve messed with women,
Although I’ve never gone downtown

I hope you live life the best way that works for your whole family and you find your peace and hell eat a lot of pu#%^

Personally, I’m not interested in an open marriage and my husband would never allow this
I have some fantasies about a women that I’m sure also crushed on me. She moved away but I still get moist just thinking about her
I secretly wish she thinks of me lol. She too was married so basically it never would have worked out l, but the non verbal cues were there.

Anonymous wrote:I miss my AP. She was was so beautiful, smart, and sweet. If I had met her before my wife we would have been together. On paper my DW and I are a great match, but I think my true love may have been my AP. I imagine our life together, and I think I chose the easy, expected route, but if I could do it over again, I would have chosen my AP, and I would have been happier.

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Anonymous wrote:I miss my AP. She was was so beautiful, smart, and sweet. If I had met her before my wife we would have been together. On paper my DW and I are a great match, but I think my true love may have been my AP. I imagine our life together, and I think I chose the easy, expected route, but if I could do it over again, I would have chosen my AP, and I would have been happier.

Not necessarily pal. The illicit nature of the relationship added a spark. Plus you did not live with the AP on a day to day basis and have her yell about things like taking out the garbage or cleaning the bathroom.

Anonymous wrote:I miss my AP. She was was so beautiful, smart, and sweet. If I had met her before my wife we would have been together. On paper my DW and I are a great match, but I think my true love may have been my AP. I imagine our life together, and I think I chose the easy, expected route, but if I could do it over again, I would have chosen my AP, and I would have been happier.

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Anonymous wrote:Lame. I’m a lesbian, and should probably tell my husband.

Well do you ever plan to come out and why did you marry a man if you’re a lesbian ?

How are you OK with not getting any p***?

Who says she's not?

I wanna hear from her directly.
I wanna hear her confirm one way or another

So, lesbian in hiding are you getting any p****?

I’m a bicurious female and am married in a heterosexual relationship
I fantasize about women a lot lol

It’s me.

Unfortunately I am not getting any p****. I am not OK with it.
But!
I want to do something about it.
I knew something was up when I was younger, but repressed it for many reasons. It was easy to get married to a man and my parents were happy with that.
My husband knows and our marriage is probably on its last leg, but there are kids in the picture so it is not simple. I have never had an orgasm with a man and fantasize exclusively about women. My husband and I have separate bedrooms and he travels a lot, so there’s hope...

In the short term, why not open the marriage. I assume your DH would be thrilled to have sex with someone who wanted him and you could stay together for the kids for now

That’s what we recently agreed to. I don’t know what will happen or how long it will last :-/

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Anonymous wrote:I have spent an inordinate amount of time cyberstalking a previous FWB and his entire family and his new girlfriend's entire family. I am insane.

What makes him worth stalking? Was he really good or something?

Great sex and now unavailable. We want what we can’t have right? He is really nothing special though as a person and would be a horrible husband or partner. Twice divorced,cheated, narcissist, etc. so dumb I know!

If he’s a narcisist he can’t care that much about your needs. What makes him so good in bed?

Ok well that's an interesting question and good point. He is great in bed because he was COMPLETELY uninhibited and VERY experienced. Also easy on the eyes and in good shape so had lasting power and could go for multiple rounds. He knows a woman's body well and isn't afraid of doing things other men might shy away from (because he's done everything!). I still say he's a narcissist (not based on bedroom performance) because his concern for my enjoyment wasn't about me, but about validating his own sexual prowess.

Sounds like someone I dated. He was also LARGE downstairs and the combination of that and his skills was pretty awesome.

Sounds awesome. Interestingly this guy was not super well-endowed (but adequate), but that was almost better because an&* was super easy. Oh man do I miss banging this guy. So pissed his GF gets him full-time (until he tires of her and starts cheating again!).

This was written by a man.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't feel bad when grandparents of adults die.

Same! I only met 1/4 of my grandparents and was still very young when that one passed, so I think I’m a way I feel little pangs or resentment that these 40 and 50 year old adults had the chance to develop those relationships with their grandparents. I can still be understanding of their grief, and I try, but it’s hard to feel truly empathetic esp given the natural course of things.

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Anonymous wrote:I have spent an inordinate amount of time cyberstalking a previous FWB and his entire family and his new girlfriend's entire family. I am insane.

What makes him worth stalking? Was he really good or something?

Great sex and now unavailable. We want what we can’t have right? He is really nothing special though as a person and would be a horrible husband or partner. Twice divorced,cheated, narcissist, etc. so dumb I know!

If he’s a narcisist he can’t care that much about your needs. What makes him so good in bed?

Ok well that's an interesting question and good point. He is great in bed because he was COMPLETELY uninhibited and VERY experienced. Also easy on the eyes and in good shape so had lasting power and could go for multiple rounds. He knows a woman's body well and isn't afraid of doing things other men might shy away from (because he's done everything!). I still say he's a narcissist (not based on bedroom performance) because his concern for my enjoyment wasn't about me, but about validating his own sexual prowess.

Sounds like someone I dated. He was also LARGE downstairs and the combination of that and his skills was pretty awesome.

Sounds awesome. Interestingly this guy was not super well-endowed (but adequate), but that was almost better because an&* was super easy. Oh man do I miss banging this guy. So pissed his GF gets him full-time (until he tires of her and starts cheating again!).