Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:21
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a woman who stays home and yet focuses hyper-vigilantly on her daughter's school placement/academics is a hypocrite.
interesting. i've never thought of this.
I've done all 3 - SAHM, WOHM, WFHM. I don't see this as hypocrisy. When I was a SAHM, I had already had a good career. I decided to devote some time to my kids, both for my sanity sake and the well being of my family. Regardless of the parent's work status, a good parent helps their kids do well in school.
Do you have this same opinion of SAHD? I guess your opinion of SAHD is that they are losers.
Yeah, you're a professional SAHM. Yuck.
What is a professional SAHM?
Someone who runs the elementary school PTA like it's a paid job.
In many cases they earn more for the PTA than working people do for their companies. The PTA for one Arlington elementary earned $300,000 last year. Not bad for someone you vilify. I say take female brainpower and harness it or the public good. Yes, I have always worked
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:18
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think that, except in very limited examples, white people should not adopt transracially. However well meaning, they usually are not doing a very good job in helping the kids form a cultural identity. Going to culture camp once a year, and putting some artwork in the kid's room just aren't enough.
So the kids would be better off wherever they were before adoption?
I know a number of white families that have adopted kids of other races, and the kids are absolutely thriving.
In some cases, yes they would. Also, in many places, there are local families willing and able to adopt the children, but Americans (agencies and adoptive parents) are more lucrative avenues for orphanages and corrupt local officials. and there are many ways to thrive. Lots of transracial adoptees get great grades and are polite, high achievers. It doesn't mean they feel happy, safe or whole.
I would surmise that a lot of adopted children do not feel happy, safe, or whole, irrespective of whether the adoption was cross-racial. Are you also opposed to interracial marriage that results in children?
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:16
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think that, except in very limited examples, white people should not adopt transracially. However well meaning, they usually are not doing a very good job in helping the kids form a cultural identity. Going to culture camp once a year, and putting some artwork in the kid's room just aren't enough.
So the kids would be better off wherever they were before adoption?
I know a number of white families that have adopted kids of other races, and the kids are absolutely thriving.
In some cases, yes they would. Also, in many places, there are local families willing and able to adopt the children, but Americans (agencies and adoptive parents) are more lucrative avenues for orphanages and corrupt local officials. and there are many ways to thrive. Lots of transracial adoptees get great grades and are polite, high achievers. It doesn't mean they feel happy, safe or whole.
Read Sundays NYT magazine about Korean orphans who are returning to Korea to live as adults and in many cases reunite with their birth mothers. On one hand it is great that they can do this. On the other hand, how sad for the parents who raised them only to be told thanks for the great life and education. We no longer need you
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:16
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a woman who stays home and yet focuses hyper-vigilantly on her daughter's school placement/academics is a hypocrite.
Totally agree. Why encourage your DD to excel academically if her highest goal should be simply to reproduce? Focus on the boys. They have to get jobs someday.
You help all of your kids do their best so that they have choices. Just because I stay at home and it was the right decision for me doesn't mean that I will choose that decision for my daughter. My daughter will make her own decision about work/children when the time comes someday.
And the goal of education is to become learned, to gain knowledge. I think it is dumb that people think the goal of education is just to get a job. People should gain knowledge to widen their fields of opportunity and choice, not just to make you feel like they are worthy. How stupid. I WOH and have been a SAHM, my education taught me that I can do whatever the hell I want.
Take a Seat Now!
You certainly don't sound educated, but whatever.
The goal of education is not only to gain knowledge, but to use that knowledge as a productive member of society. If I were a high school aged daughter of a SAHM who pushed me academically, I'd tell her to look in the mirror.
You sound lovely. Luckily, most SAHMs aren't raising hateful children. That cannot be said about you.
Seriously. God forbid her husband or child gets sick one day and she has to take time off of work. Then she'd be a useless nothing, because apparently her only value is earning money.
this makes no sense.
Different poster. Sure it does.
I posted about particular SAHMs, of daughters, who push their daughters overly hard to excel academically.
Not sure how that translates into a woman being a useless nothing because she doesn't work. But way to project your own insecurities.
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:15
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Cheesecake is gross.
Kids songs are catchy... I didn't actually mind playing them all the time when I had young kids and I will even voluntarily listen to a few on occasion now if one is stuck in my head.
Reverse dinners on occasion are not a sign I'm a terrible parent. I loved these as a kid the once or twice per year we got them.
Kids songs are catchy... I didn't actually mind playing them all the time when I had young kids and I will even voluntarily listen to a few on occasion now if one is stuck in my head.
Reverse dinners on occasion are not a sign I'm a terrible parent. I loved these as a kid the once or twice per year we got them.
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:14
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a woman who stays home and yet focuses hyper-vigilantly on her daughter's school placement/academics is a hypocrite.
Totally agree. Why encourage your DD to excel academically if her highest goal should be simply to reproduce? Focus on the boys. They have to get jobs someday.
You help all of your kids do their best so that they have choices. Just because I stay at home and it was the right decision for me doesn't mean that I will choose that decision for my daughter. My daughter will make her own decision about work/children when the time comes someday.
And the goal of education is to become learned, to gain knowledge. I think it is dumb that people think the goal of education is just to get a job. People should gain knowledge to widen their fields of opportunity and choice, not just to make you feel like they are worthy. How stupid. I WOH and have been a SAHM, my education taught me that I can do whatever the hell I want.
Take a Seat Now!
You certainly don't sound educated, but whatever.
The goal of education is not only to gain knowledge, but to use that knowledge as a productive member of society. If I were a high school aged daughter of a SAHM who pushed me academically, I'd tell her to look in the mirror.
You sound lovely. Luckily, most SAHMs aren't raising hateful children. That cannot be said about you.
Seriously. God forbid her husband or child gets sick one day and she has to take time off of work. Then she'd be a useless nothing, because apparently her only value is earning money.
this makes no sense.
Different poster. Sure it does.
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:13
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:
Someone who runs the elementary school PTA like it's a paid job.
I'm about ready to take ours over even though I DON'T have the damn time because they are truly clueless and are getting nothing done. To be fair though, they are all brand new and apparently last year's people left them nothing and did no transition.
So, instead, I'm currently doing what I can to help out.
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:10
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
It's easy to make sweeping generalizations on this anonymous board. Such vitriolic comments made by women about other women.
So easy to make statements without considering all the variables. Utter crap we sling at each other. I think HL Mencken was right about defining misogyny as men who hate women more than women hate other women
So easy to make statements without considering all the variables. Utter crap we sling at each other. I think HL Mencken was right about defining misogyny as men who hate women more than women hate other women
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:08
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a woman who stays home and yet focuses hyper-vigilantly on her daughter's school placement/academics is a hypocrite.
interesting. i've never thought of this.
I've done all 3 - SAHM, WOHM, WFHM. I don't see this as hypocrisy. When I was a SAHM, I had already had a good career. I decided to devote some time to my kids, both for my sanity sake and the well being of my family. Regardless of the parent's work status, a good parent helps their kids do well in school.
Do you have this same opinion of SAHD? I guess your opinion of SAHD is that they are losers.
Yeah, you're a professional SAHM. Yuck.
What is a professional SAHM?
Someone who runs the elementary school PTA like it's a paid job.
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:07
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a woman who stays home and yet focuses hyper-vigilantly on her daughter's school placement/academics is a hypocrite.
Totally agree. Why encourage your DD to excel academically if her highest goal should be simply to reproduce? Focus on the boys. They have to get jobs someday.
You help all of your kids do their best so that they have choices. Just because I stay at home and it was the right decision for me doesn't mean that I will choose that decision for my daughter. My daughter will make her own decision about work/children when the time comes someday.
And the goal of education is to become learned, to gain knowledge. I think it is dumb that people think the goal of education is just to get a job. People should gain knowledge to widen their fields of opportunity and choice, not just to make you feel like they are worthy. How stupid. I WOH and have been a SAHM, my education taught me that I can do whatever the hell I want.
Take a Seat Now!
You certainly don't sound educated, but whatever.
The goal of education is not only to gain knowledge, but to use that knowledge as a productive member of society. If I were a high school aged daughter of a SAHM who pushed me academically, I'd tell her to look in the mirror.
You sound lovely. Luckily, most SAHMs aren't raising hateful children. That cannot be said about you.
Seriously. God forbid her husband or child gets sick one day and she has to take time off of work. Then she'd be a useless nothing, because apparently her only value is earning money.
this makes no sense.
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:06
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a woman who stays home and yet focuses hyper-vigilantly on her daughter's school placement/academics is a hypocrite.
Totally agree. Why encourage your DD to excel academically if her highest goal should be simply to reproduce? Focus on the boys. They have to get jobs someday.
You help all of your kids do their best so that they have choices. Just because I stay at home and it was the right decision for me doesn't mean that I will choose that decision for my daughter. My daughter will make her own decision about work/children when the time comes someday.
And the goal of education is to become learned, to gain knowledge. I think it is dumb that people think the goal of education is just to get a job. People should gain knowledge to widen their fields of opportunity and choice, not just to make you feel like they are worthy. How stupid. I WOH and have been a SAHM, my education taught me that I can do whatever the hell I want.
Take a Seat Now!
You certainly don't sound educated, but whatever.
The goal of education is not only to gain knowledge, but to use that knowledge as a productive member of society. If I were a high school aged daughter of a SAHM who pushed me academically, I'd tell her to look in the mirror.
You sound lovely. Luckily, most SAHMs aren't raising hateful children. That cannot be said about you.
I'm neither hateful nor a child. I just stated an opinion (and didn't post the comments on the previous pages, fwiw) that I believe certain SAHMs (who Tiger-mom their daughers with regard to academics) are hypocrites.
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:06
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a woman who stays home and yet focuses hyper-vigilantly on her daughter's school placement/academics is a hypocrite.
Totally agree. Why encourage your DD to excel academically if her highest goal should be simply to reproduce? Focus on the boys. They have to get jobs someday.
You help all of your kids do their best so that they have choices. Just because I stay at home and it was the right decision for me doesn't mean that I will choose that decision for my daughter. My daughter will make her own decision about work/children when the time comes someday.
And the goal of education is to become learned, to gain knowledge. I think it is dumb that people think the goal of education is just to get a job. People should gain knowledge to widen their fields of opportunity and choice, not just to make you feel like they are worthy. How stupid. I WOH and have been a SAHM, my education taught me that I can do whatever the hell I want.
Take a Seat Now!
You certainly don't sound educated, but whatever.
The goal of education is not only to gain knowledge, but to use that knowledge as a productive member of society. If I were a high school aged daughter of a SAHM who pushed me academically, I'd tell her to look in the mirror.
You sound lovely. Luckily, most SAHMs aren't raising hateful children. That cannot be said about you.
Seriously. God forbid her husband or child gets sick one day and she has to take time off of work. Then she'd be a useless nothing, because apparently her only value is earning money.
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:03
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a woman who stays home and yet focuses hyper-vigilantly on her daughter's school placement/academics is a hypocrite.
Totally agree. Why encourage your DD to excel academically if her highest goal should be simply to reproduce? Focus on the boys. They have to get jobs someday.
You help all of your kids do their best so that they have choices. Just because I stay at home and it was the right decision for me doesn't mean that I will choose that decision for my daughter. My daughter will make her own decision about work/children when the time comes someday.
And the goal of education is to become learned, to gain knowledge. I think it is dumb that people think the goal of education is just to get a job. People should gain knowledge to widen their fields of opportunity and choice, not just to make you feel like they are worthy. How stupid. I WOH and have been a SAHM, my education taught me that I can do whatever the hell I want.
Take a Seat Now!
You certainly don't sound educated, but whatever.
The goal of education is not only to gain knowledge, but to use that knowledge as a productive member of society. If I were a high school aged daughter of a SAHM who pushed me academically, I'd tell her to look in the mirror.
You sound lovely. Luckily, most SAHMs aren't raising hateful children. That cannot be said about you.
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:01
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:I hate Florida and think most people who grew up there are crazy. I look down on people who move there.
very difficult to lump all of florida into 1 pot. it's basically 2-3 different states w/ completely different cultures, people, etc.
Anonymous
01/21/2015 14:01
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think a woman who stays home and yet focuses hyper-vigilantly on her daughter's school placement/academics is a hypocrite.
Totally agree. Why encourage your DD to excel academically if her highest goal should be simply to reproduce? Focus on the boys. They have to get jobs someday.
You help all of your kids do their best so that they have choices. Just because I stay at home and it was the right decision for me doesn't mean that I will choose that decision for my daughter. My daughter will make her own decision about work/children when the time comes someday.
And the goal of education is to become learned, to gain knowledge. I think it is dumb that people think the goal of education is just to get a job. People should gain knowledge to widen their fields of opportunity and choice, not just to make you feel like they are worthy. How stupid. I WOH and have been a SAHM, my education taught me that I can do whatever the hell I want.
Take a Seat Now!
You certainly don't sound educated, but whatever.
The goal of education is not only to gain knowledge, but to use that knowledge as a productive member of society. If I were a high school aged daughter of a SAHM who pushed me unnecessarily on the academic front, I'd tell her to look in the mirror.