Jen's "me camp" sounds more like an opportunity to replenish her narcissistic supply in a new location, with fresh sources of input, rather than an opportunity for her to connect with her own self, and to refresh/recharge. Her need to consume other people's attention and adoration is exhausting and gross.

I bet the rest of her orbit is delighted for the month long break, where others can shore up Jen's fragile sense of self for a while.

Her me-camp post made me crazy. For several years, I’ve taken a few days to a week or more off by myself. A lodge, a cool city, artsy-craftsy town. Sometimes just a local hotel to read and take long baths and go to different restaurants. The whole point was ME time, to chill and be refreshed.

Nope, Jen is evidently under the impression that me time is about everyone being excited to meet HER. Petting peoples’ dogs (leave their dogs alone), chatting up shop owners (let them do their jobs), giving out her cell number, taking pictures with strangers. Probably hugging them too. She sounds exhausting.

Ugh imagine having to actually film your mom discuss how you were fragile and needed her to be nearby when you went to camp. You can see Remy filming Jen in the reflection until she moves over (prob realizing it). She handles a podcast without a camera crew--why couldn't she film this that way?
https://www.instagram.com/p/Ct7sbkJAQxD/?hl=en

I think it was on stories

Can someone direct me to the latest video about Remy? I couldn't watch it at the time and now I can't find it.

Dr Phil can be a jerk, but he used to say this: the world is a cold hard place, but home should always be a kid’s ‘safe place to fall’.

Is Remy’s home her safe place to fall?

Jen’s insta is like Remy’s own “Joan Is Awful” in real life.

(If you haven’t seen that new Black Mirror, you should - it’s so good.)

Anonymous wrote:Who needs school bullies when your mom is Jen hatmaker?

And it’s her 5th kid too. We all know the first baby is the Guinea pig kid. Mistakes will be made. But by teen#5, you should have learned a little about what and what not to post online about your kid.

The answer: only good things. Only. Good. Things.

I’d be so upset if my kids went online and posted the details every time I had a mom fail. Or if my husband did. Sheesh. I’m cringing at the thought, and I’m not a fragile adolescent.

Who needs school bullies when your mom is Jen hatmaker?

I mean the fact that countless studies have shown that the main cause of teenage girls’ current depression and suicidal ideation is from social media. As a mom, I feel like half my job is navigating the effects of social media with my girls. So Jen’s response is to make Remy’s life even harder by what? By constantly shaming her on social media! You could even say Jen cyber bullies her OWN DAUGHTER! Like, WITAF Jen??

I’ll preface this by saying that my stepmother and I very close today, 20+ years later and after a lot of therapy and healing and unpacking some heavy shit.

When I was a teen, I moved in with my dad and stepmom. I got a job at 14 and had to pay for all of my necessities. I’m not talking about movie or concert tickets….deodorant, toothpaste, soap, etc. At one point, my own snacks (anything outside of family meals). Everything else was my stepmom or days. Their drinks. Their muffins. Their chips. MINE. MINE. MINE. Watching both the parking lot and the latest story on Remi selling Jen’s drinks, Jen’s snacks, Jen’s water brought me to absolute tears. Nothing makes you feel more unwelcome in what is supposed to be your home, your safe place than the silliest items being “not yours”, much less being referred to as a roommate than a daughter and member of the home. Just utterly awful.

So, Jen, if you are reading - please pause and really reflect on the words you use and the way in which you say them. Because they really do mean things and they can be incredibly harmful and traumatic.

Poor Remy.

I have four teenage daughters. This is the hardest time to be a teenage girl. My girls can all wipe their own butts, sure, but emotionally, spiritually and psychologically they need me now more than ever. Jen has just totally quit parenting. She’s clearly and repeatedly told us herself. She’s neglectful and narcissistic. Then she has the gall to post sycophantic single mom posts on Father’s Day and pretend to be this wise mother goose figure to young moms. She makes me sick.

A vulnerable adopted teen on the spectrum isn’t “content”, Jen.

She is such an incredible piece of shit. An absolutely horrible person.

Can’t some grandparents or Brandon step in?

Anonymous wrote:And what kind of absolute narcissistic scum bag mother do you have to be, to continuously refer to your children as your “roommates”?

Right. It could be defensible to describe Ben and any other in between kids (those who are 18-22) who come and go bc they aren’t full time independent adults.

But a kid who can’t even legally live on her own yet, still needs parental permission on legal things etc. They are fully on your watch and your pocketbook UNTIL they graduate high school. That’s not a roommate.