Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 12:25     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:Bringing food to HS pot luck for the team and sitting away from other moms who are using their hands to whisper to each other while kids eat, while you read a book. Leaving and telling them, "thank you so much for organizing it." Grace in every situation and not of the archaic "take a back seat woman" type. Distant slightly to others, no omg, no screeching like you never left HS.


Reading a book during a social event is RUDE, not classy
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 12:23     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had no idea books were a sign of class in a home.

Signed a middle class person (I guess that makes sense?)

I mean I had books in my house, but they weren’t on display. Probably bc they weren’t of any value.


Books are not a sign of class unless you are over a certain age. Most people have their books on kindle, and donated their books to a better cause, by now.


I always donate my books. I try to keep only a few shelves of books I haven’t read yet. Also, I keep my books in my bedroom, where I am more likely to read them, rather than a common area where guests will see them. If you have books in the common area for the sake of making yourself look good, is that classy?
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 12:23     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:Is the name thing a sign of class? I hail from the Midwest- community was mostly middle with a handful on the fringes of upper middle...and I always just thought it was normal to have a family last name as the middle name...fewer family names as first names, but not unheard of.


Agree. In my southern town, having the family name as a middle name was something that everyone did, it seemed, regardless of class, especially for the first kid.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 12:19     Subject: Re:Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Generally, yes. Books are a definite sign of class as is a tasteful home. Clean and calm and smells fresh (like outside fresh not plug-ins stink).



Rows of mass market paperbacks by Stephen King, Dean Koontz, et al are not signs of class. If anything they signal a limited sphere of knowledge.

Stephen King is actually one of the best writers of his generation. Snobs don’t recognize his skill.


People who dismiss contemporary authors only because they were not part of the canon you remember from college English classes are low class and lack discernment/intellectual curiosity.

It ironic that you name Stephen King here in your ignorant post; his novels often portray and explore ways blue collar (East Coast) people are limited and restricted due to social class. I maintain that someday people will be reading Stephen King as “classics”, kind of the way we read Poe today.


He’s already making it into lists of classics. The Stand was on BBC’s list of the greatest works ever written in the English language.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 12:04     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:I had no idea books were a sign of class in a home.

Signed a middle class person (I guess that makes sense?)

I mean I had books in my house, but they weren’t on display. Probably bc they weren’t of any value.


Books are not a sign of class unless you are over a certain age. Most people have their books on kindle, and donated their books to a better cause, by now.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 12:04     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Outing myself as one of the lauded PPs in the dcum “tell me your DC’s names and I’ll tell you about your life” and I’ll add the importance of names as a class marker. I can and do make assumptions about your background and lifestyle from your name/spelling and DC’s names.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 12:02     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:Class is confidence plus courtesy.


+1

Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 12:01     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:Courteous. Treats everyone with respect. That’s high class. Unfortunately most people with money are not always like this.


+1

I think DCUM is preoccupied with class, instead being good humans - which is the ultimate indicator. Not trying to present as better than you are, because that is always obvious and suspicious - ex: not being friendly or kind or helpful when appropriate.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 12:00     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Wealth whispers, while strivers, new money and the middle class scream.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 11:58     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Speech devoid of a working class accent - so if you are an UMC Pittsburgher or Baltimorean (two distinctive accents that come to mind) you sound distinctly more educated.

DD of Washington, DC and Pittsburgh natives.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 09:28     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Class is confidence plus courtesy.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 07:55     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Uc without trying


...without trying to work for the money they inherited.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 07:49     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For fun, rate my class - DH went to HYS for ugrad and law school I went to Gtown for ugrad and law school. Our parents were lawyers, doctors and politicians for 4 generations. Before that, farmers and merchants.

We make $300k + retirement + investments but no trusts except an interest in a rather large acreage in a family trust but nothing titled to us besides our house and our starter home.

We have 1 DC with a name like Charlotte "last name as middle name". Charlotte X's college and grad school, should she choose to pursue it, are fully funded by another family trust. She currently attends public school, but there is funding available for private. We live in close-in 20816 in an old but renovated single family house.

This is just for fun, so don't say something like your class is ZERO because it's tacky to ask!


MC trying way too hard to be UC


Uc without trying
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 06:06     Subject: Re:Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Generally, yes. Books are a definite sign of class as is a tasteful home. Clean and calm and smells fresh (like outside fresh not plug-ins stink).



Rows of mass market paperbacks by Stephen King, Dean Koontz, et al are not signs of class. If anything they signal a limited sphere of knowledge.

Stephen King is actually one of the best writers of his generation. Snobs don’t recognize his skill.


People who dismiss contemporary authors only because they were not part of the canon you remember from college English classes are low class and lack discernment/intellectual curiosity.

It ironic that you name Stephen King here in your ignorant post; his novels often portray and explore ways blue collar (East Coast) people are limited and restricted due to social class. I maintain that someday people will be reading Stephen King as “classics”, kind of the way we read Poe today.


*obviously I was responding to the poster who mentioned “rows of mass market paperbacks”, not the person responding to her.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2022 06:05     Subject: Re:Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Generally, yes. Books are a definite sign of class as is a tasteful home. Clean and calm and smells fresh (like outside fresh not plug-ins stink).



Rows of mass market paperbacks by Stephen King, Dean Koontz, et al are not signs of class. If anything they signal a limited sphere of knowledge.

Stephen King is actually one of the best writers of his generation. Snobs don’t recognize his skill.


People who dismiss contemporary authors only because they were not part of the canon you remember from college English classes are low class and lack discernment/intellectual curiosity.

It ironic that you name Stephen King here in your ignorant post; his novels often portray and explore ways blue collar (East Coast) people are limited and restricted due to social class. I maintain that someday people will be reading Stephen King as “classics”, kind of the way we read Poe today.