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Anonymous wrote:When people become so deeply distraught about a 90+ year old's death. Yes it is sad. Yes, we will all miss them. But to call the death "tragic" and ask "how will I go on?" as I have heard on many occasions angers me greatly.

When anyone reaches their 90s and then dies it is not "tragic". They are the lucky ones among us and essentially won the long life lottery.
The privilege of living that long is an achievement and while their life should be celebrated, what other outcome was expected?????

This.

Anyone who made it to 80 had a good run.

And I’m stunned by grown adults who openly grieve years following the death of an elderly parent or grandparent. It’s normal to miss a loved one and periodically tear up; it’s not normal to need therapy, medication, and weeks of short term disability to navigate the death of an 80+ year old.

Anonymous wrote:Well, this thread is about irrational anger, so:

I get really annoyed with people who want me to express endless empathy towards them when they lose their loving, close parent at an elderly age. Like I have friends who lost a parent 4-5 years ago, at the age of 75+, who still expect me to ask how they are doing with it.

It makes me mad because they don't understand that their grief is a GIFT. I wish my parent's death was a source of loss, grief instead of a relief, but my parents were neglectful, abusive, and unkind my entire life. I had very complex feelings when my dad passed. I had to go to therapy to work through it because I knew my feelings were too much for most people to deal with and that it wasn't as simple as "I'm sad my dad died."

So I do get irrationally angry at the grief of people who are just sad their dad died. I cannot related to them and if I've already expressed empathy and condolences in the year their parent died, I'm all done and need to move on.

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Anonymous wrote:When people become so deeply distraught about a 90+ year old's death. Yes it is sad. Yes, we will all miss them. But to call the death "tragic" and ask "how will I go on?" as I have heard on many occasions angers me greatly.

When anyone reaches their 90s and then dies it is not "tragic". They are the lucky ones among us and essentially won the long life lottery.
The privilege of living that long is an achievement and while their life should be celebrated, what other outcome was expected?????

Definitely agree with this. I had a coworker who lost her 95 year old mother to covid in 2021. She saw on Facebook (due to my mother posting unauthorized photos) that I had an outdoor birthday party for my son and she lost it at me. "THIS VIRUS IS NO JOKE. I LOST MY MOTHER" Well, she was slowly fading from Alzheimers and then had a quick death. I don't think that's a bad outcome.

Anonymous wrote:People blocking all traffic waiting for a parking spot when there are a gazillion parking options just a 100 yards further.

And they... just sit there. Forever. And all the cars behind her are piling up waiting for this person. Invariably, this person will choose to back up into this parking spot. Or she sucks at parallel parking. And there are a 1000 people behind her who are at WWIII levels of rage because of this persons complete indifference to the world around her.

Anonymous wrote:Mother's Day

It just seems so forced every year. Not genuine at all and from my family I desire things that are real and not just scheduled on a calendar for this one day in mid-May.
So in early May all of a sudden all I see in stores, online and on social media are "show your mom you love her" things to do or buy. It is simply an opportunity for profit.

I am happily married with two adult children (one still in college) and we are very close. I cherish when one of my kids does some random, out-of-the-blue gesture throughout the year to show they are thinking of me and that they appreciate me. That feels genuine. But to not do that all year and then on Mother's Day go all out - no thank you. It annoys me how fake the holiday is but it also annoying how mothers settle for such a forced offering from their loved ones.

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Anonymous wrote:LOL, when alone, I do sometimes "study" the pasta sauce aisle, comparing sales, $/oz, glass versus plastic jars, sugar content etc, when I could just grab and move on. When with my teen kids, we talk and laugh and negotiate splurges or treats, and probably annoy OP in both scenarios.
I get annoyed at adult couples buying groceries together looking very serious and strategizing how to split the aisles as if this were a timed game show with big stakes or a very serious difficult two-person task. I'm probably just envious, right?

Agree on the adult couple grocery shopping together. Big production. Clog the aisle. Lots of drama. I am not envious of their togetherness.

Meanwhile, shopping with my husband makes me irrationally angry and I try to avoid it. We have totally different approaches to grocery shopping and his approach is wrong. My goal is to efficiently get everything on my list so that I can go do something I enjoy more than grocery shopping. His approach is to spend 20 minutes examining heads of lettuce to select the right one while also wondering if maybe the should make something that doesn't involve lettuce at all, maybe we should do spinach, but if we do that maybe we should do a different protein? It's too much for me, I want to be at home on the couch watching Great British Bakeoff and eating olives.

Anonymous wrote:When people become so deeply distraught about a 90+ year old's death. Yes it is sad. Yes, we will all miss them. But to call the death "tragic" and ask "how will I go on?" as I have heard on many occasions angers me greatly.

When anyone reaches their 90s and then dies it is not "tragic". They are the lucky ones among us and essentially won the long life lottery.
The privilege of living that long is an achievement and while their life should be celebrated, what other outcome was expected?????

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Anonymous wrote:Rn I am irrationally angry after scanning my kid’s phone (yes I keep an eye on his online activity to try to keep him out of trouble) and discovering that some girl thought he was gay. He is lean and swanky but I never got the vibes, and he told her he wasn’t fwiw. I don’t care either way, I just thought it was kinda bold of her to make assumptions?

Would you have minded if she assumed he was heterosexual?

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Anonymous wrote:When I go on Goodreads trying to find out if I should start some book and a bunch of the reviews are like, “I hated this, there were no good characters, everyone was so unlikeable!!!!!” What do you want?!?! Everyone in real life is unlikeable! These appear to be grown adult women writing this. Do they want the protagonists to all be perfect Pollyannas? It strikes me as immature.

Yes, or people who can’t read between the lines and want everything spelled out for them in the plot.

Low inference skills I call it. It’s weird how many people like that exist (I’d say that’s a sign of lower intelligence) and are gainfully employed at white collar jobs. Baffles me

I'm so sorry that you are personally offended by people not as smart as you. It's a hard life.

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Anonymous wrote:Rn I am irrationally angry after scanning my kid’s phone (yes I keep an eye on his online activity to try to keep him out of trouble) and discovering that some girl thought he was gay. He is lean and swanky but I never got the vibes, and he told her he wasn’t fwiw. I don’t care either way, I just thought it was kinda bold of her to make assumptions?

Umm, really? Seems like ya do.