Anonymous
06/10/2023 12:36
Subject: Marriage is a horrible deal for women
Anonymous wrote:I have 3 single mothers work for me. All are high school grads or GED making around $31 per hour with us in a rural county in Maryland.
All 3 would have a lot less stress being married and having a reliable second income and support from a spouse. All are working two jobs, one is working three jobs.
Two are in college on top of being Moms and working two jobs. One will be an RN in about a year and the other will be a Mortuary Science grad.
The stress level on all three of them is enormous.
I've had to put $2000 on a company credit card to get one woman's car released from the repo man. Another single Mom had her car repossessed but manage to scrape up enough funds to get her car back from the repo man. In a rural county you need a car to get to work, get to school, and get food.
All three would have a better life with a reliable spouse making an average paycheck who could bare some of the load. Being handy with car repairs would be a plus too.
And all three would have a worse life with an unreliable spouse— which is many— or a spouse making below-average paycheck, which is many.
All three would have an easier life if they were getting more child support from the men whose children they have.
All three would have a better life if they worked for someone who didn’t think the best way to improve their lives was some dude. Imagine paying them better instead.
Anonymous
06/09/2023 19:05
Subject: Re:Marriage is a horrible deal for women
Anonymous wrote:others are just in deep denial about what their relationship really looks like to others looking in
I cared what my marriage looked like to my spouse. Who gives a damn what it looks like to others?
That’s all well and good and I’m sure your marriage is a triumph - but that attitude is the same that is held by millions of spouses who enable addiction, abuse, disrespect, infidelity, etc. and are consequently modeling all that dysfunction to their offspring.
Anonymous
06/09/2023 18:55
Subject: Re:Marriage is a horrible deal for women
I have 3 single mothers work for me. All are high school grads or GED making around $31 per hour with us in a rural county in Maryland.
Why didn't one of them (or all of them) have kids with a reliable man?
Several women I know had children out-of-wedlock with the "bad boys" they loved during their late teens. If you know he is unreliable why have his kid? If you don't know if he is reliable, why not wait until you know to have his kid?
All 3 would have a lot less stress being married and having a reliable second income and support from a spouse. All are working two jobs, one is working three jobs.
Two are in college on top of being Moms and working two jobs. One will be an RN in about a year and the other will be a Mortuary Science grad.
The stress level on all three of them is enormous.
I've had to put $2000 on a company credit card to get one woman's car released from the repo man. Another single Mom had her car repossessed but manage to scrape up enough funds to get her car back from the repo man. In a rural county you need a car to get to work, get to school, and get food.
All three would have a better life with a reliable spouse making an average paycheck who could bare some of the load. Being handy with car repairs would be a plus too.
Why didn't one of them (or all of them) have kids with a reliable man?
Several women I know had children out-of-wedlock with the "bad boys" they loved during their late teens. If you know he is unreliable why have his kid? If you don't know if he is reliable, why not wait until you know to have his kid?
Anonymous
06/09/2023 15:37
Subject: Marriage is a horrible deal for women
I have 3 single mothers work for me. All are high school grads or GED making around $31 per hour with us in a rural county in Maryland.
All 3 would have a lot less stress being married and having a reliable second income and support from a spouse. All are working two jobs, one is working three jobs.
Two are in college on top of being Moms and working two jobs. One will be an RN in about a year and the other will be a Mortuary Science grad.
The stress level on all three of them is enormous.
I've had to put $2000 on a company credit card to get one woman's car released from the repo man. Another single Mom had her car repossessed but manage to scrape up enough funds to get her car back from the repo man. In a rural county you need a car to get to work, get to school, and get food.
All three would have a better life with a reliable spouse making an average paycheck who could bare some of the load. Being handy with car repairs would be a plus too.
All 3 would have a lot less stress being married and having a reliable second income and support from a spouse. All are working two jobs, one is working three jobs.
Two are in college on top of being Moms and working two jobs. One will be an RN in about a year and the other will be a Mortuary Science grad.
The stress level on all three of them is enormous.
I've had to put $2000 on a company credit card to get one woman's car released from the repo man. Another single Mom had her car repossessed but manage to scrape up enough funds to get her car back from the repo man. In a rural county you need a car to get to work, get to school, and get food.
All three would have a better life with a reliable spouse making an average paycheck who could bare some of the load. Being handy with car repairs would be a plus too.
Anonymous
06/09/2023 15:21
Subject: Re:Marriage is a horrible deal for women
others are just in deep denial about what their relationship really looks like to others looking in
I cared what my marriage looked like to my spouse. Who gives a damn what it looks like to others?
Anonymous
06/09/2023 12:16
Subject: Re:Marriage is a horrible deal for women
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:These transactional relationship issues are unbelievable constantly calculating the transactions. Once people wanted to get married and contribute to their family, lineage, and society. Saw it as their duty and enjoyed it because it was also the popular thing to do so you fit in easily.
Ah the business of marriage, it seems it is constantly being destroyed and looked down upon in our society. Makes for a lot of sad lonely old people, just saying.
Marriage sucks. 100% happier alone. I am not lonely. I was lonely in a marriage…that is the worst loneliness there is and it is horribly hopeless. People who don’t want to marry are not lonely. Most divorced people prefer being divorced.
Never married myself, did enough cohabitation to know it was too fraught for me. Have never seen a marriage up close in real life that I envied. At middle age I’m much more content than most of my married friends who are constantly venting to me.
From my experience in that regard, I think a lot of married people put a public smile on an unhappy reality and others are just in deep denial about what their relationship really looks like to others looking in. The denialists will swear to their deaths that their marriage is a triumph - doesn’t make it true.
Anonymous
06/09/2023 01:50
Subject: Marriage is a horrible deal for women
Yeah. I'm not a baby factory. Women needs to respect themselves
Anonymous
06/08/2023 20:29
Subject: Re:Marriage is a horrible deal for women
I love being married to my husband.
Anonymous
06/08/2023 20:09
Subject: Re:Marriage is a horrible deal for women
Anonymous wrote:Next time, you should lead with "Dear Boss."
No one laughs at your posts. Instead, people feel sorry for you. I know I do.
You are so strange. Are you a dominatrix?
I told you to lead with "Dear Boss."
Are you looking for a dominatrix? Your thoughts went there quickly.
Is that what you do for your 20 or 30 hours of well-paid work per week? I am not judging. It would explain a lot of your issues.
It explain ever more about your dishwashing sub of a husband.
Ok, so, yes. Glad to have that sorted.