Whatever happened to Ben? Last i remember he went off to college (locally) and was home with laundry (or something?) later the very same day(week?). Haven’t heard her mention him in ages and she repeatedly mentions having only one at home. Most college kids still have a bedroom and much of their stuff at home. And come home semi-regularly if they are local, no?

Is Remy a senior next year or does she still have 2 more years at home?

Have Jen and Tina still not met? Blows my mind. There is zero chance I would let anyone help parent my children and spend that much time with my kids if I didn’t know them personally. It’s not like she’s the one he cheated on Jen with, so why wouldn’t Jen just suck it up and at least get along with the new wife? Brandon seems like he’d be friendly if hanging around Tyler…Tina seems like she’d be friendly too. Jen always seems to be the common denominator when there is dysfunction or drama.

I keep going back to Jen’s statement in the I own all the bedrooms so I took yours away video that Remy lives there . . . “technically” in a snarky voice. Anyone know what she meant by that? Is Remy spending more time at Brandon’s? If so, is that by choice? I can totally see Jen not wanting the responsibility of having Remy but jealous if Remy prefers Brandon and Tina.

Anonymous wrote:Jen reads these threads compulsively.

How does anyone know that?

Unrelated: has Jen ever made nice with all of Tyler’s inner circle of close girlfriends in Nashville? That’s another very telling detail about how her public version and private reality are not aligning. When you aren’t getting along with the significant other’s family and friends…If she were really a great person, they would all be happy to embrace her. Especially after more than a year of dating.

Anonymous wrote:If Jen does her own laundry, and they have that many towels in the house, she must have noticed that she had not had towels in a load lately…that’s not on Remy. It’s not difficult to notice when your bathroom towel supply is depleting and/or that you haven’t washed/dried/folded any towels in a week…

Agreed. She’s holding all the towels to go wash them. If she hasn’t done that sooner, that’s on her, not Remy (unless it’s Remy’s chore to do, but a parent can still keep an eye on it). Laundry and dishes have to stay in rotation, even with just a couple people in the house. Other chores can wait, but laundry and dishes are constants. Maybe she just doesn’t know how? Wasn’t it Brandon who created their family laundry basket system back when? At some point, there were 7 of them living in that same house, and no angry towel posts. But left alone, Jen’s housekeeping solutions seem to be dumpsters-for-hire and bitter rants about everyday common and minor issues. While also walking us through an almost immaculate living and dining space. So the problem seems to be that Remy’s presence in general disrupts what Jen has otherwise curated to be her ideal divorced life, schedule, and space. Also not Remy’s fault.

Jen reads these threads compulsively.

Has anyone looked into the actual ethics/laws/certifications/business ties of the therapist?

I know some of you have said you think Jen reads these forum threads, but I’m not convinced she does. I can’t believe she would remotely continue her level of online pretend and self-absorption and relationship-abuse if she was aware she was being this pointedly called out on it?? Is she that prideful!? Everyone here has held up a mirror for her. Is the assumption that she just refuses to see? If so, I guess that’s where Remy gets the constantly destructive, no-care, materialistic (birthday wish lists) personality traits that Jen loves to publicly loathe about her. That might be why they are driving each other crazy living together without any buffers in the house. Maybe they’re the same. Except the one-up Jen keeps pointing out is that she’s paid for everything.

If Remy doesn’t do well post-high school, with whatever she does/wherever she goes, Jen probably won’t take any personal responsibility for the things she didn’t do to prepare Remy for adulthood, nor for the many things she DID do to make Remy’s journey harder.

Anonymous wrote:

Does anyone in her inner circle advocate for Remy?

People who know Remy in real life have tried, including her teachers. We can all see that she's on the spectrum and Jen refuses to get her diagnosed or get the right treatment for her. She could be doing much better if Jen would actually get her help instead of sending her away. That is Jen's solution to it all. She sent her to a summer-long camp and then sent her to Spain. Remy is a handful that is true but that is because she's never been in a program or had a therapist experienced with autism that would help her with her anxiety and social skills so she just keeps acting the same way with no guidance and Jen just making light of it. The feeling is that Jen is just biding her time before Remy leaves home. People I know who have tried to talk to her about this say it's impossible because she is evasive and just tries to be funny and cute and waves it away as Remy being quirky. Like how she describes the son as just being spirited when he gets a DUI.

Oh and she got Remy a therapist and then started seeing the same therapist for her own therapy and then started a Me Course with her. So even Remy's therapist got stolen by Jen.

I’m surprised more people are focusing on the weight comments than on this.

To the poster I’ve quoted here, I completely believe you. When Rémy was younger, Jen made at least two posts about her potentially being on the spectrum and asking parents of autistic kids for resources. Since then, Jen has posted countless times about spectrum-like behavior (e.g., regular tantrums). Yet not once have we seen Jen post about actually providing Remy with specialized resources.

Jen’s “therapist” Clarissa or whatever is a terribly unethical “professional”. Going into business with a patient is a big NO. And unless Jen and Rémy we’re doing family therapy together, Clarissa should NOT have seen each of them for individual sessions. She cannot be impartial and this should only happen in communities where there are no other options for therapy. There are plenty of general therapists in Austin.

Remy should have her own therapist and she needs someone specialized in autism. Unfortunately though, if you’re not a young White boy, there are very few autism professionals who understand your symptoms. Still, there are better options than Clarissa.

Does Jen think Remy will just be able to move out when she’s 18? She can’t be that naive or cruel. Spain clearly demonstrated that Remy is NOT ready to be fully independent. I’m not sure what dad is doing… is he also that ignorant to Remy’s needs???

I would pray that Sydney takes Remy in but it seems like Sydney has been parentified for a long time already.

I’m so irritated by how she’s treating Remy and I’m sitting here laughing with my colleague now in our office (she and I went to a Jen Hatmaker event together once years ago 🤦🏽‍♀️ and both read these commentaries almost weekly) because I was just ranting in the above post when my friend walked in talking about the delivery she is taking at lunch and I didn’t notice my phone picked up her conversation while I was typing. I just told her she was my guest contributor today. She told me I should ask Jen how to monetize that. 😆

Maybe she should just parent the situation. 🤦🏽‍♀️ It’s hardly interesting content. Parent=first, Social Media Personality=Second. Our kids also have a habit of sometimes collecting too many towels in their bathroom before they send any to be washed. I just remind them, usually when I’m doing laundry…”hey can you go grab me your towels?” that’s it. it works. Pretty anticlimactic. Sometimes I’ll even (!!gasp!!) go retrieve the towels myself when the kids aren’t around. To wash for them so that they don’t run into the no-towel issue. I love them, and I’m capable of it, and I’m not mad about it, and we’re all busy and have to help each other out. and when it happens I don’t I’m coming to take a delivery you know what time it’s lunchtime even have to tell the online world about it or anything. It’s shocking, I know. No bullying videos required. If Jen does her own laundry, and they have that many towels in the house, she must have noticed that she had not had towels in a load lately…that’s not on Remy. It’s not difficult to notice when your bathroom towel supply is depleting and/or that you haven’t washed/dried/folded any towels in a week…

She talks out of both sides of her mouth: we need to love our bodies in one breath and in another she’s going to shame her own child and claims she barely bathes. She sounds bitter and mean. Brandon needs to step in.

Anonymous wrote:I got so angry watching the towels video. At this point, it’s just mean! I wanted so badly to send a message and tell her it’s not a good look on her to constantly belittle her child. And her tone is not cute, it’s snarky in the worst possible way. And the way she keeps mentioning how she pays for the house, the towels, etc. She’s so full of bitterness. Remy needs to get out of that house!

Yes, she seems like she is just seething about the whole thing and about to snap. It would be one thing if it were a lighthearted, funny video about multiple kids (kids and towels, right moms?), but this pointed critique of one child is just weird and unhinged.