Anonymous wrote:Ya'll need to get jobs that don't involve sitting at a desk staring at a computer all day.
Anonymous wrote:Our kid has been working from home since well before Covid. When she and her husband decided to have kids they lined up child care first - the grandparents when the kids were babies and a preschool/daycare once they were toddlers. It never occurred to her for a second that she could watch her kids at home herself and work at the same time. It’s not fair to anyone involved.
Time to return to reality, ladies.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Moan, moan, moan.
Oh! the horrors of taking care of your own children.
Find opposite shifts to work. Tons of couples do this.
Every time this very reasonable suggestion (which is already being done by millions of people every day) is made, DCUM clutches its collective pearls in horror. “No! I could never do that and not be on the same schedule as my husband. What about my mental health?!?!”![]()
You had the kids. You need the childcare in order to work. If you really can’t afford it (and just don’t want to pay for it), then share childcare with someone working different shifts or stagger with your spouse. No, it may not be “easy” to do this, or to find jobs with those schedules or to work them, but do it anyway.
Because they don't want the gravy train to end. They aren't working the hours they say they are and with RTO that cheating ends.
Many are. With rto because of the time changes my spouse is now leaving at 7 and often getting home around 10 pm. They work. The job stays the same, so now no flexibility and it costs $20 in gas and tolls not including having to buy a new car. This is not sustainable. Can you work those hours plus an hour commute each way. You were lazy and did not work so you assume others don’t. Companies are going to lose good workers.
So they should pay you less to wfh subtract commuter and child cost
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Another reason why 1950s America was better.
For white mothers.
Black mothers didn’t have that privilege
For white, married, Christian mothers.
Women of color, divorced women, single moms, and Jews didn't have that privilege either.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Moan, moan, moan.
Oh! the horrors of taking care of your own children.
Find opposite shifts to work. Tons of couples do this.
Every time this very reasonable suggestion (which is already being done by millions of people every day) is made, DCUM clutches its collective pearls in horror. “No! I could never do that and not be on the same schedule as my husband. What about my mental health?!?!”![]()
You had the kids. You need the childcare in order to work. If you really can’t afford it (and just don’t want to pay for it), then share childcare with someone working different shifts or stagger with your spouse. No, it may not be “easy” to do this, or to find jobs with those schedules or to work them, but do it anyway.
Because they don't want the gravy train to end. They aren't working the hours they say they are and with RTO that cheating ends.
Many are. With rto because of the time changes my spouse is now leaving at 7 and often getting home around 10 pm. They work. The job stays the same, so now no flexibility and it costs $20 in gas and tolls not including having to buy a new car. This is not sustainable. Can you work those hours plus an hour commute each way. You were lazy and did not work so you assume others don’t. Companies are going to lose good workers.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not a lack of childcare that’s the problem; it’s that these women want to have it both ways. They don’t want to pay anyone else to watch their children, they prefer to fleece their employers.
This! They tried to game the system and save some money. Too bad so sad
Exactly.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3 years ago I did quit my job and I do watch the (feds) neighbors' kid while the parents go to work. I'm home with my own 2 kids, so why not? 8-5. Simple meals, library, park, play in the yard, nap, 2x walk/ wagon around the neighborhood, educational 60 minutes TV time while I make dinner. What's to complain about? I am paid 200/day cash. No pressure, no commuting, no boss, no deadlines, no aholes for coworkers. Parent provides food, snacks, pays daily in cash. It's terrific.
DH (fed) and I do all chores; no outsourcing.DH happy to be in office full-time (has been for last 3 years; his preference; he is very social and hated working from home.).
I hope you are reporting your income on your tax returns so you are earning payroll credits and also contributing to our nation’s finances. Really odd to me that a bunch of federal employees want to flaunt our payroll tax system for under the table childcare.
Tax fraud can result in losing security clearances, hopefully they’re audited.
Very few people get caught for this unless they are consistently writing checks. They can easily lie and say a family member watches their kids. This is assuming they are audited.
Childcare is a huge deal when you have young kids but otherwise you forget about it. Even someone auditing you may not consider it.
You’re right, this is tax fraud and it’s rarely caught even though it’s illegal and contributes to the tax gap. From a policy view what bothers me is the systemic underreporting of primarily women’s income which results in them qualifying for less social security. I guess if you’re comfortable with this because you’re unlikely to be caught, similar to how most people think of shoplifting, you go for it.
Who even gives a $hit. Our incoming president is a tax fraud in chief. Only thing tax fraud did was help him get elected.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Another reason why 1950s America was better.
For white mothers.
Black mothers didn’t have that privilege
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Moan, moan, moan.
Oh! the horrors of taking care of your own children.
Find opposite shifts to work. Tons of couples do this.
Every time this very reasonable suggestion (which is already being done by millions of people every day) is made, DCUM clutches its collective pearls in horror. “No! I could never do that and not be on the same schedule as my husband. What about my mental health?!?!”![]()
You had the kids. You need the childcare in order to work. If you really can’t afford it (and just don’t want to pay for it), then share childcare with someone working different shifts or stagger with your spouse. No, it may not be “easy” to do this, or to find jobs with those schedules or to work them, but do it anyway.
Because they don't want the gravy train to end. They aren't working the hours they say they are and with RTO that cheating ends.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Moan, moan, moan.
Oh! the horrors of taking care of your own children.
Find opposite shifts to work. Tons of couples do this.
Every time this very reasonable suggestion (which is already being done by millions of people every day) is made, DCUM clutches its collective pearls in horror. “No! I could never do that and not be on the same schedule as my husband. What about my mental health?!?!”![]()
You had the kids. You need the childcare in order to work. If you really can’t afford it (and just don’t want to pay for it), then share childcare with someone working different shifts or stagger with your spouse. No, it may not be “easy” to do this, or to find jobs with those schedules or to work them, but do it anyway.
Because they don't want the gravy train to end. They aren't working the hours they say they are and with RTO that cheating ends.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3 years ago I did quit my job and I do watch the (feds) neighbors' kid while the parents go to work. I'm home with my own 2 kids, so why not? 8-5. Simple meals, library, park, play in the yard, nap, 2x walk/ wagon around the neighborhood, educational 60 minutes TV time while I make dinner. What's to complain about? I am paid 200/day cash. No pressure, no commuting, no boss, no deadlines, no aholes for coworkers. Parent provides food, snacks, pays daily in cash. It's terrific.
DH (fed) and I do all chores; no outsourcing.DH happy to be in office full-time (has been for last 3 years; his preference; he is very social and hated working from home.).
I hope you are reporting your income on your tax returns so you are earning payroll credits and also contributing to our nation’s finances. Really odd to me that a bunch of federal employees want to flaunt our payroll tax system for under the table childcare.
Tax fraud can result in losing security clearances, hopefully they’re audited.
Very few people get caught for this unless they are consistently writing checks. They can easily lie and say a family member watches their kids. This is assuming they are audited.
Childcare is a huge deal when you have young kids but otherwise you forget about it. Even someone auditing you may not consider it.
You’re right, this is tax fraud and it’s rarely caught even though it’s illegal and contributes to the tax gap. From a policy view what bothers me is the systemic underreporting of primarily women’s income which results in them qualifying for less social security. I guess if you’re comfortable with this because you’re unlikely to be caught, similar to how most people think of shoplifting, you go for it.