Anonymous
Post 02/06/2021 01:48     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:"Do your own research" and "Google is your best friend" posters. Absolute di*kheads.


...but their point is well made. Usually it would be much faster for the poster to do a Google search. I will say "Google is your friend" if I think a query is too dumb for words and the person would be better served to ... wait for it ... use Google.

"Do your own research" is a Qanon, anti vax, conspiracy theorist motto. If someone says that, I assume they are dumb or crazy.


Yes. That’s usually only said by people who don’t understand research.


No. That literally means, look up the information yourself and don’t expect others to do your research for you. It’s pretty straightforward.
DP
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2021 01:14     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:
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Why are you condemning and shaming people you do not know, and whose situation you very clearly have not been?

But humor the hell out of me, and tell us all how good parents manafe this situation?


Uh, their daughter was involved in an abusive relationship that lasted for years? They witnessed some of the abuse? Employees of Warner witnessed some of the abuse and they knew about it? I mean, would YOU really stand by and let your daughter continue to be abused for years? Really? Just so you could have the cache of her association with that jerk? Wow. That says way more about you than me.




You, fortunately, do not understand abusive relationships. I do and I can assure you there is nothing anyone -outside of the two people in the relationship- can do to stop it.



Notice not one of them has specified what they would do.

People think they can just barge in drag their child home, threaten the abuser into acting right, threaten to kick their child off, kick them out, talk them out of it, they're clueless


This. So what do you, as a parent DO in this situation? While young, we are talking about a legal ADULT here who also has millions of dollars. You can try to convince her to leave the guy, but she can also cut you off and stop taking your calls. Hell, she could probably get a lawyer to get an order of protection against you barring you from contact if she felt really harassed. Not one person blaming parents or employers has offered some feasible suggestion of how they would handle this situation.


Wood began her relationship with Warner when she was young. Her parents were her primary influence up to that point. They clearly weren't monitoring her well enough in her teens and Wood began making bad choices.

When Wood hooked up with Warner, her parents had several opportunities to exert their influence to keep Wood away from Warner. They didn't do that. They liked the reflected fame. When they saw Wood abused by Warner they could have tried to talk to Wood about it, they could have sought help for Wood, they could have GONE TO THE PRESS to out Warner. They did not do any of those things.

It astounds me that anyone is defending those people. Whatever your problem is I sincerely hope you are in therapy for it and that you have a better safety net than Wood did and does.


Citation? Or are you a personal friend of the family? Besides not bringing personal drama to the press, something that could be even further traumatizing, I want to know how you are so sure her parents did nothing.


The citation is that there is nothing in the press from them about the abuse. You're crazy for defending them.


I'm not "defending them." What many, many posters have said is that we are not ready to indict them based on the actions of their adult child who they have zero legal control over.


You two. ^^ You are the most annoying DCUM posters. Always having to be the one to get the last word is a very annoying behavioral trait.


So...slinging sh*t but no response? Take it up with Jeff.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2021 00:57     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Why are you condemning and shaming people you do not know, and whose situation you very clearly have not been?

But humor the hell out of me, and tell us all how good parents manafe this situation?


Uh, their daughter was involved in an abusive relationship that lasted for years? They witnessed some of the abuse? Employees of Warner witnessed some of the abuse and they knew about it? I mean, would YOU really stand by and let your daughter continue to be abused for years? Really? Just so you could have the cache of her association with that jerk? Wow. That says way more about you than me.




You, fortunately, do not understand abusive relationships. I do and I can assure you there is nothing anyone -outside of the two people in the relationship- can do to stop it.



Notice not one of them has specified what they would do.

People think they can just barge in drag their child home, threaten the abuser into acting right, threaten to kick their child off, kick them out, talk them out of it, they're clueless


This. So what do you, as a parent DO in this situation? While young, we are talking about a legal ADULT here who also has millions of dollars. You can try to convince her to leave the guy, but she can also cut you off and stop taking your calls. Hell, she could probably get a lawyer to get an order of protection against you barring you from contact if she felt really harassed. Not one person blaming parents or employers has offered some feasible suggestion of how they would handle this situation.


Wood began her relationship with Warner when she was young. Her parents were her primary influence up to that point. They clearly weren't monitoring her well enough in her teens and Wood began making bad choices.

When Wood hooked up with Warner, her parents had several opportunities to exert their influence to keep Wood away from Warner. They didn't do that. They liked the reflected fame. When they saw Wood abused by Warner they could have tried to talk to Wood about it, they could have sought help for Wood, they could have GONE TO THE PRESS to out Warner. They did not do any of those things.

It astounds me that anyone is defending those people. Whatever your problem is I sincerely hope you are in therapy for it and that you have a better safety net than Wood did and does.


Citation? Or are you a personal friend of the family? Besides not bringing personal drama to the press, something that could be even further traumatizing, I want to know how you are so sure her parents did nothing.


The citation is that there is nothing in the press from them about the abuse. You're crazy for defending them.


I'm not "defending them." What many, many posters have said is that we are not ready to indict them based on the actions of their adult child who they have zero legal control over.


You two. ^^ You are the most annoying DCUM posters. Always having to be the one to get the last word is a very annoying behavioral trait.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2021 00:53     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Do your own research" and "Google is your best friend" posters. Absolute di*kheads.


...but their point is well made. Usually it would be much faster for the poster to do a Google search. I will say "Google is your friend" if I think a query is too dumb for words and the person would be better served to ... wait for it ... use Google.

"Do your own research" is a Qanon, anti vax, conspiracy theorist motto. If someone says that, I assume they are dumb or crazy.


Yes. That’s usually only said by people who don’t understand research.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2021 00:53     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The poster who starts every post with "eh . ." or "meh . . .". If you care so little, why post at all? I just scroll past those.[/quote


+1 I don’t know why I find this so irritating, but the “meh” poster annoys me so much. It sounds so childish and dim-witted.


+1. Don’t waste my time if you are going to start out with an “...eh”.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2021 00:50     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Why are you condemning and shaming people you do not know, and whose situation you very clearly have not been?

But humor the hell out of me, and tell us all how good parents manafe this situation?


Uh, their daughter was involved in an abusive relationship that lasted for years? They witnessed some of the abuse? Employees of Warner witnessed some of the abuse and they knew about it? I mean, would YOU really stand by and let your daughter continue to be abused for years? Really? Just so you could have the cache of her association with that jerk? Wow. That says way more about you than me.




You, fortunately, do not understand abusive relationships. I do and I can assure you there is nothing anyone -outside of the two people in the relationship- can do to stop it.



Notice not one of them has specified what they would do.

People think they can just barge in drag their child home, threaten the abuser into acting right, threaten to kick their child off, kick them out, talk them out of it, they're clueless


This. So what do you, as a parent DO in this situation? While young, we are talking about a legal ADULT here who also has millions of dollars. You can try to convince her to leave the guy, but she can also cut you off and stop taking your calls. Hell, she could probably get a lawyer to get an order of protection against you barring you from contact if she felt really harassed. Not one person blaming parents or employers has offered some feasible suggestion of how they would handle this situation.


Wood began her relationship with Warner when she was young. Her parents were her primary influence up to that point. They clearly weren't monitoring her well enough in her teens and Wood began making bad choices.

When Wood hooked up with Warner, her parents had several opportunities to exert their influence to keep Wood away from Warner. They didn't do that. They liked the reflected fame. When they saw Wood abused by Warner they could have tried to talk to Wood about it, they could have sought help for Wood, they could have GONE TO THE PRESS to out Warner. They did not do any of those things.

It astounds me that anyone is defending those people. Whatever your problem is I sincerely hope you are in therapy for it and that you have a better safety net than Wood did and does.


Citation? Or are you a personal friend of the family? Besides not bringing personal drama to the press, something that could be even further traumatizing, I want to know how you are so sure her parents did nothing.


The citation is that there is nothing in the press from them about the abuse. You're crazy for defending them.


I'm not "defending them." What many, many posters have said is that we are not ready to indict them based on the actions of their adult child who they have zero legal control over.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2021 00:45     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Among the most annoying: thread highjackers ^^ Please go talk about Marilyn Manson somewhere else
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2021 22:47     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Okay, both of you who keep going on about Evan Wood's parents are now on the annoying list. Find another thread.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2021 22:27     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Why are you condemning and shaming people you do not know, and whose situation you very clearly have not been?

But humor the hell out of me, and tell us all how good parents manafe this situation?


Uh, their daughter was involved in an abusive relationship that lasted for years? They witnessed some of the abuse? Employees of Warner witnessed some of the abuse and they knew about it? I mean, would YOU really stand by and let your daughter continue to be abused for years? Really? Just so you could have the cache of her association with that jerk? Wow. That says way more about you than me.




You, fortunately, do not understand abusive relationships. I do and I can assure you there is nothing anyone -outside of the two people in the relationship- can do to stop it.



Notice not one of them has specified what they would do.

People think they can just barge in drag their child home, threaten the abuser into acting right, threaten to kick their child off, kick them out, talk them out of it, they're clueless


This. So what do you, as a parent DO in this situation? While young, we are talking about a legal ADULT here who also has millions of dollars. You can try to convince her to leave the guy, but she can also cut you off and stop taking your calls. Hell, she could probably get a lawyer to get an order of protection against you barring you from contact if she felt really harassed. Not one person blaming parents or employers has offered some feasible suggestion of how they would handle this situation.


Wood began her relationship with Warner when she was young. Her parents were her primary influence up to that point. They clearly weren't monitoring her well enough in her teens and Wood began making bad choices.

When Wood hooked up with Warner, her parents had several opportunities to exert their influence to keep Wood away from Warner. They didn't do that. They liked the reflected fame. When they saw Wood abused by Warner they could have tried to talk to Wood about it, they could have sought help for Wood, they could have GONE TO THE PRESS to out Warner. They did not do any of those things.

It astounds me that anyone is defending those people. Whatever your problem is I sincerely hope you are in therapy for it and that you have a better safety net than Wood did and does.


Citation? Or are you a personal friend of the family? Besides not bringing personal drama to the press, something that could be even further traumatizing, I want to know how you are so sure her parents did nothing.


The citation is that there is nothing in the press from them about the abuse. You're crazy for defending them.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2021 19:13     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:People who had kids 40+ years ago chiming in on parenting topics without a disclaimer.

Or worse, people without any kids at all chiming in.


I’ll give you the second one but the first is just a form of ageism. And is annoying.


I kind of agree with PP. I actually appreciate hearing from people who are at a very different parenting stage, which is something nice about DCUM. When you are stressed about certain parenting things, it's actually useful to hear someone who can say whether or not that issue actually impacted their kids in the long run. But that doesn't work if people don't explain "I raised my kids in the 70s and here is my experience." Sometimes you get posters who have these very militant beliefs about parenting and post repeatedly about it and then it turns out that they raised their kids, say, before the Internet. It's relevant.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2021 19:10     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Why are you condemning and shaming people you do not know, and whose situation you very clearly have not been?

But humor the hell out of me, and tell us all how good parents manafe this situation?


Uh, their daughter was involved in an abusive relationship that lasted for years? They witnessed some of the abuse? Employees of Warner witnessed some of the abuse and they knew about it? I mean, would YOU really stand by and let your daughter continue to be abused for years? Really? Just so you could have the cache of her association with that jerk? Wow. That says way more about you than me.




You, fortunately, do not understand abusive relationships. I do and I can assure you there is nothing anyone -outside of the two people in the relationship- can do to stop it.



Notice not one of them has specified what they would do.

People think they can just barge in drag their child home, threaten the abuser into acting right, threaten to kick their child off, kick them out, talk them out of it, they're clueless


This. So what do you, as a parent DO in this situation? While young, we are talking about a legal ADULT here who also has millions of dollars. You can try to convince her to leave the guy, but she can also cut you off and stop taking your calls. Hell, she could probably get a lawyer to get an order of protection against you barring you from contact if she felt really harassed. Not one person blaming parents or employers has offered some feasible suggestion of how they would handle this situation.


Wood began her relationship with Warner when she was young. Her parents were her primary influence up to that point. They clearly weren't monitoring her well enough in her teens and Wood began making bad choices.

When Wood hooked up with Warner, her parents had several opportunities to exert their influence to keep Wood away from Warner. They didn't do that. They liked the reflected fame. When they saw Wood abused by Warner they could have tried to talk to Wood about it, they could have sought help for Wood, they could have GONE TO THE PRESS to out Warner. They did not do any of those things.

It astounds me that anyone is defending those people. Whatever your problem is I sincerely hope you are in therapy for it and that you have a better safety net than Wood did and does.


Citation? Or are you a personal friend of the family? Besides not bringing personal drama to the press, something that could be even further traumatizing, I want to know how you are so sure her parents did nothing.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2021 19:00     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Why are you condemning and shaming people you do not know, and whose situation you very clearly have not been?

But humor the hell out of me, and tell us all how good parents manafe this situation?


Uh, their daughter was involved in an abusive relationship that lasted for years? They witnessed some of the abuse? Employees of Warner witnessed some of the abuse and they knew about it? I mean, would YOU really stand by and let your daughter continue to be abused for years? Really? Just so you could have the cache of her association with that jerk? Wow. That says way more about you than me.




You, fortunately, do not understand abusive relationships. I do and I can assure you there is nothing anyone -outside of the two people in the relationship- can do to stop it.



Notice not one of them has specified what they would do.

People think they can just barge in drag their child home, threaten the abuser into acting right, threaten to kick their child off, kick them out, talk them out of it, they're clueless


This. So what do you, as a parent DO in this situation? While young, we are talking about a legal ADULT here who also has millions of dollars. You can try to convince her to leave the guy, but she can also cut you off and stop taking your calls. Hell, she could probably get a lawyer to get an order of protection against you barring you from contact if she felt really harassed. Not one person blaming parents or employers has offered some feasible suggestion of how they would handle this situation.


Wood began her relationship with Warner when she was young. Her parents were her primary influence up to that point. They clearly weren't monitoring her well enough in her teens and Wood began making bad choices.

When Wood hooked up with Warner, her parents had several opportunities to exert their influence to keep Wood away from Warner. They didn't do that. They liked the reflected fame. When they saw Wood abused by Warner they could have tried to talk to Wood about it, they could have sought help for Wood, they could have GONE TO THE PRESS to out Warner. They did not do any of those things.

It astounds me that anyone is defending those people. Whatever your problem is I sincerely hope you are in therapy for it and that you have a better safety net than Wood did and does.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2021 18:48     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:People who had kids 40+ years ago chiming in on parenting topics without a disclaimer.

Or worse, people without any kids at all chiming in.


I’ll give you the second one but the first is just a form of ageism. And is annoying.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2021 13:57     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:The poster who starts every post with "eh . ." or "meh . . .". If you care so little, why post at all? I just scroll past those.[/quote


+1 I don’t know why I find this so irritating, but the “meh” poster annoys me so much. It sounds so childish and dim-witted.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2021 13:41     Subject: Most annoying DCUM posters... name yours.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Why are you condemning and shaming people you do not know, and whose situation you very clearly have not been?

But humor the hell out of me, and tell us all how good parents manafe this situation?


Uh, their daughter was involved in an abusive relationship that lasted for years? They witnessed some of the abuse? Employees of Warner witnessed some of the abuse and they knew about it? I mean, would YOU really stand by and let your daughter continue to be abused for years? Really? Just so you could have the cache of her association with that jerk? Wow. That says way more about you than me.




You, fortunately, do not understand abusive relationships. I do and I can assure you there is nothing anyone -outside of the two people in the relationship- can do to stop it.



Notice not one of them has specified what they would do.

People think they can just barge in drag their child home, threaten the abuser into acting right, threaten to kick their child off, kick them out, talk them out of it, they're clueless


This. So what do you, as a parent DO in this situation? While young, we are talking about a legal ADULT here who also has millions of dollars. You can try to convince her to leave the guy, but she can also cut you off and stop taking your calls. Hell, she could probably get a lawyer to get an order of protection against you barring you from contact if she felt really harassed. Not one person blaming parents or employers has offered some feasible suggestion of how they would handle this situation.





My close friend is in an abusive marriage. All I can do is be her friend. She knows I'm here to help when/if she is ready to change her situation. What sickens me is that her dh "allows" her to be my friend because he believes I understand/am ok with their relationship.