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Anonymous wrote:I was interested in this thread and asked OP a bunch of questions earlier that she didn't answer. I'm still not sure she's real, but if she is, I have to say that I no longer care. Clearly there's something "off" about her - drugs, personality disorder, something like that - because of the detached nature of her answers and her sociopathic view of relationships. Probably why the guy likes her - she's emotionally simple.
The only question I'd really like her to answer, which I know she won't because it gets at the heart of the whole issue, is:
If he was with you before the wedding and is so emotionally attached to you, why did he marry his wife and have children with her? Why can't you accept that he prefers her to you, and chose her over you?
I already gave my guess as to why he married her. I don't care that he prefers being married to her instead of me - he wants kids and has them with her and I don't want kids. So he and I being married wouldn't work.
You were like 19 or 20 when he got married to her, weren't you? 30 something men know that no 19/20 (24) year old KNOWS if they want children or not because late teens/early 20's are barely out of childhood themselves. He married this woman because he wanted HER. He sleeps with YOU because you let him.
Plenty of child-free women on this forum have stated they knew at that age they didn't want kids.
Well maybe 30 something child-free women can look back on their lives and say that they knew very early on that they didn't want kids. But, trust me, there are plenty of moms who can look back to a time when they knew that they didn't want kids, too. Minds change. And 30 something men (especially master manipulators like your boyfriend) know that. In fact, I'll bet that if your boyfriend wanted YOU to have a kid, he would find a way to make you want one, too.