You have so much bigger problems. She’s an alcoholic, for God’s sake.

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Anonymous wrote:How often do nights out turn into girlfriend sleepovers? I guess rarely because you remember it from 5 years ago? I know my DW has never slept over after going out, but she is not a huge drinker.

Wife did a lot. I later found the girlfriends were a cover story/alibi for her meeting the AP. She would sometimes meet the girlfriend early send a photo of them drinking and then head off to the hotel to stay with him. Girlfriend lived closer to bars so it seemed plausible for being safe and not driving home.

She was manipulative as hell and a stone cold liar.

Women cheat just as often as men - sometimes more often than men.

“Girls night out / too much to drink” is not an uncommon cover story for a cheating wife.

Add in the presence of a man who’d bedded her many times before (and her lies to her husband) and it is obvious what really happened that night with Tom.

Yep, girls night out, had too much to drink, had to spend the night somewhere else because, didn't want to drive home drunk of course.

This is a universally shared lie that women tell. Don't ever fall for it.

And all her GFs will cover for her.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How often do nights out turn into girlfriend sleepovers? I guess rarely because you remember it from 5 years ago? I know my DW has never slept over after going out, but she is not a huge drinker.

Wife did a lot. I later found the girlfriends were a cover story/alibi for her meeting the AP. She would sometimes meet the girlfriend early send a photo of them drinking and then head off to the hotel to stay with him. Girlfriend lived closer to bars so it seemed plausible for being safe and not driving home.

She was manipulative as hell and a stone cold liar.

Women cheat just as often as men - sometimes more often than men.

“Girls night out / too much to drink” is not an uncommon cover story for a cheating wife.

Add in the presence of a man who’d bedded her many times before (and her lies to her husband) and it is obvious what really happened that night with Tom.

Yep, girls night out, had too much to drink, had to spend the night somewhere else because, didn't want to drive home drunk of course.

This is a universally shared lie that women tell. Don't ever fall for it.

Anonymous wrote:This is how liars are. She forgot she omitted Tom 5 years ago because she didn't want you to make the connection he was there and she didn't come home. Obviously she was with him.

Now she outed herself by accidentally including him in the list. My cheating ex use to do stuff like that all the time. I have a good memory, and when he changed the story I easily noted it.

So true. Liars have an impossible task of remembering all the details of their lies, so they get tripped up when they re-tell a story some time later. She forgot that she omitted Tom the first time, for good reason.

Anonymous wrote:This is how liars are. She forgot she omitted Tom 5 years ago because she didn't want you to make the connection he was there and she didn't come home. Obviously she was with him.

Now she outed herself by accidentally including him in the list. My cheating ex use to do stuff like that all the time. . .

She tripped herself up and exposed her own lie about “girls night out,” and now we know for a fact she spent the night with Tom (at least the part where she got too drunk to come home).

But, uh, yeah, “nothing happened.”

Anonymous wrote:Obviously you caught her in a lie. A spouse that lies isn't one I would covet too much. Doesn't mean you should divorce, but I wouldn't take her too seriously at this point.

Put yourself, your kids, and pets first and foremost.

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This is how liars are. She forgot she omitted Tom 5 years ago because she didn't want you to make the connection he was there and she didn't come home. Obviously she was with him.

Now she outed herself by accidentally including him in the list. My cheating ex use to do stuff like that all the time. I have a good memory, and when he changed the story I easily noted it.

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing happened, let it go

How can you be so sure? And,

- if nothing happened with Tom that night, why did she lie and also stay out all night long?

I think it's pretty obvious she spent the night with Tom.

Obviously you caught her in a lie. A spouse that lies isn't one I would covet too much. Doesn't mean you should divorce, but I wouldn't take her too seriously at this point.

Put yourself, your kids, and pets first and foremost.

I’ve never understand the “girls nights” or “guys nights”, they just seem like a vehicle for trouble.

Op, you’ll never know what happened
Given that her “girls’ nights” seem to include guys, Id join her.

If she doesn’t want that, Id end the marriage. You don’t want to be married to a woman who literally goes out with other guys, drinks so much she can’t or won’t come home to you, and then wondering what in f**ck happened.

You certainly don’t want to be sitting at home like her father waiting for her to roll in.. or not and lack the authority most parents have over their kids even sometimes adult kids at least morally.

You also don’t want to be married to someone you can’t/dont trust. “truth is stranger than fiction” as they say, and some of us have had some very strange inplusable experiences, experiences where anybody looking at it would say “yeah, right. You don’t want to be the dupe when you find out your wife was out doing something you’d prefer she not be doing.

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Anonymous wrote:How often do nights out turn into girlfriend sleepovers? I guess rarely because you remember it from 5 years ago? I know my DW has never slept over after going out, but she is not a huge drinker.

Wife did a lot. I later found the girlfriends were a cover story/alibi for her meeting the AP. She would sometimes meet the girlfriend early send a photo of them drinking and then head off to the hotel to stay with him. Girlfriend lived closer to bars so it seemed plausible for being safe and not driving home.

She was manipulative as hell and a stone cold liar.

Women cheat just as often as men - sometimes more often than men.

“Girls night out / too much to drink” is not an uncommon cover story for a cheating wife.

Add in the presence of a man who’d bedded her many times before (and her lies to her husband) and it is obvious what really happened that night with Tom.