"Angry" is not at all an appropriate emotion, Op. "Angry" is, frankly, a little scary.

It makes sense to be pretty angry if someone steals something you own, or that is owed you. Something you have control over but are denied.

This was, what, the second date in a month?

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Anonymous wrote:Either you're mad that she cancelled, or you're mad about how she did it.

If she is allowed to cancel once she knows things will not go well, how was she supposed to do it and not make you mad?

If she's not allowed to cancel -- whoa, buddy. That's some serious messed up perspective.

The reason why I’m angry is because we had our first date over a month ago. Why didn’t she tell me this sooner?

There was probably nothing to say. Ex could have been no contacting her then.

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Anonymous wrote:She is quite literally not wasting your time by being honest and canceling your date. Your frame of thinking for this is entirely wrong.

THIS

+1. She was respectful. She is not wasting your time. She is doing the opposite.

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Anonymous wrote:"Semantics," PP. "Semantics."

*sigh

You know you've lost an argument when you start critiquing spelling and grammar.. Call a therapist tonight. I hear Better Help is good.

No, PP. I'm a new poster and not arguing with you at all.

It's just painful to see you keep using a word that you can't spell or, it seems, use correctly. I can help with the spelling part. For understanding the words you want to use, you're on your own.

OP you sound like a weirdo.

It’s fine to feel disappointed that your date cancelled but feeling angry seems off. This sounds like a you problem

I think OP is a typical man and the only feeling he’s allowed himself to have (due to socialization) is rage. So he actually feels hurt or disappointed, but he has transformed this into anger because that’s an acceptable emotion for a man. I think he should get therapy, not because he’s a bad person, but because being able to identify and feel a range of emotions is healthy.

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Anonymous wrote:She is quite literally not wasting your time by being honest and canceling your date. Your frame of thinking for this is entirely wrong.

+1 this is being respectful

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Anonymous wrote:We were supposed to be going out tonight at 8 and she confirmed early this morning. She just sent me this text:

“ Hey want be honest with you. My ex keeps contacting me and asked to work on things this morning and honestly it’s screwing with my head. It wouldn’t feel right going out. So sorry but I wanted to be honest.”

I’m pretty angry. Why would she waste my time?

I think you need to reassess your attitude and self interest. I am a man and would have appreciated her directness and sent a text back saying I am disappointed as I was looking forward to the time together but I understand and am here if you want to get together another time.

Anonymous wrote:"Semantics," PP. "Semantics."

*sigh

You know you've lost an argument when you start critiquing spelling and grammar.. Call a therapist tonight. I hear Better Help is good.

A text was rude, she should have called.

She's immature and flighty.

In the long run she has done you a favor. I know it sucks , it never feels good to be rejected, but at least it's only been a month. She could have kept stringing you along for 6 + months. Or worse you could be like someone else I know who got dumped at the altar for an ex.

Now you know. I hope you decided to go out anyway, and I hope you met someone great. This happened to a friend of mine who was blown off by a date, went out that night anyway, and met their spouse.

Sometimes even things that hurt are a blessing in disguise. You are now free to find your person.

IF you didn't go ou tonight that's okay too. Be hurt for tonight and maybe tomorrow, but get back out there and have a date planned for next weekend.

Good luck to you1

"Semantics," PP. "Semantics."

*sigh

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Anonymous wrote:OP you sound scary. Take yourself off the market and get some therapy

Enough already with the man-hating, he must be violent BS! OP is entitled to feel angry and hurt he was seeing this woman for a month she made it seem like things were going somewhere. She made it seem she was interested. She agreed to tonight's date and canceled just a few hours before because she's still in love with her ex. That sucks. That hurts. That feels like you have wasted your time.

This just happened today, he's mad. He's venting. It's allowed.

The idea that being rejected would make you “mad” is a huge red flag. Sad, sure! Annoyed even! But “mad?” Over this? She should RUN.

Stop playing symantics. OP is not wrong for being upset. Youhowever are wrong for painting him as an abusive man because he dare have feelings..

The appropriate feeling would be disappointment not anger. She didn’t wrong him. She was honest so she didn’t drag him along without regard for his feelings. Thank God she got out now.

Guess what you don't get to detrmne the feelings have. It's also pretty sick that you hate men so much that you need to play symantics just to spew your hatred of them. Seek help.

Anonymous wrote:Shudder OP sounds sleazy and scary, that “women” dodged a huge bullet

And you sound stupid.

Shudder OP sounds sleazy and scary, that “women” dodged a huge bullet