Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“No kids” means no one under 18, including the best-mannered 13 and 16 year olds. Asking anyone involved with the wedding for clarification will make you seem pushy and classless, even if you ultimately get permission to bring your kids along.

Usually except in this case it means no one under 21 since they specifically mentioned a brewery. Don’t bring them.

Fair enough. I forgot the brewery detail — no under 21 makes more sense. Either way, 13 and 16 year olds should not attend under either interpretation.

OP, you should not attend this wedding because there is resentment in your soul about the exclusion of your kids.

I’d ask. Nicely. No judgment or complaints.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask. We had a weird situation where we weren't going to attend a family wedding because it was "no kids" but when the parents of the bride heard this, we were informed that kids within the close family could come. The couple was later among their friend group to marry so if everyone brought kids it would have been like a toddler daycare. We triple checked with the couple because we didn't want to appear presumptuous, and made it clear that we were fine either way, just wanted to clarify.

+1

+2

One of DH’s cousins was getting married and the invitation specified no kids at the reception. So, we went to the ceremony with our then 6, 4, and 2 year olds, and then started walking out to leave (they were at the same place, thankfully). The mother of the bride came running after us, asking where we were going and when we explained she laughed and said, “oh no, that was because we didn’t want the teenage cousins here getting drunk. Your kids are fine.” So we stayed and had fun.

Note: if it’s not family, I just wouldn’t go, period. But I think you have a little more leeway.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

Being so entitled as to think of a ceremony between two people as a “family event” is a dick move. Want a family reunion? Plan, organize and PAY FOR ONE, cheapskate.

+1,000

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would skip the wedding on principal. I get that the couple has the “right” to ban kids … but then I also have the right not to go.

^ Just ask what it means! You don't know if the bride and groom meant for no kids to mean no little kids or no older kids, or no one under 21 or no one under 18, or what.

You do know! You know because you got an invitation with names on it! Wtf I feel like I’m taking crazy pills. THE. NAMES. ARE. ON. THE. INVITATION.

Anonymous wrote:I would skip the wedding on principal. I get that the couple has the “right” to ban kids … but then I also have the right not to go.

Yeah! This is fine! With everyone! No prob.

Anonymous wrote:Ask. We had a weird situation where we weren't going to attend a family wedding because it was "no kids" but when the parents of the bride heard this, we were informed that kids within the close family could come. The couple was later among their friend group to marry so if everyone brought kids it would have been like a toddler daycare. We triple checked with the couple because we didn't want to appear presumptuous, and made it clear that we were fine either way, just wanted to clarify.

+1

Anonymous wrote:I would skip the wedding on principal. I get that the couple has the “right” to ban kids … but then I also have the right not to go.

^ Just ask what it means! You don't know if the bride and groom meant for no kids to mean no little kids or no older kids, or no one under 21 or no one under 18, or what.

I would skip the wedding on principal. I get that the couple has the “right” to ban kids … but then I also have the right not to go.

An evening reception is no place for children anyway.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

Being so entitled as to think of a ceremony between two people as a “family event” is a dick move. Want a family reunion? Plan, organize and PAY FOR ONE, cheapskate.

it’s a wedding …

Yes. All that is required for a wedding:
Two people getting married
An officiant
A witness

End of list.

I’ve never seen “The Smith Family” on a wedding invitation. All the children who are invited should be named. Even if there’s no inner envelope. At a minimum, “Mr. and Mrs. Smith and children” or something.

Brewery means no one under 21.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

Being so entitled as to think of a ceremony between two people as a “family event” is a dick move. Want a family reunion? Plan, organize and PAY FOR ONE, cheapskate.

it’s a wedding …