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Anonymous wrote:Fine with my kids entering the master while I’m there but not playing there alone. They are 2 and 4 and there are no toys so they’d just get into things they are not supposed to and likely make a mess.

During play dates I tell the kids the upstairs (where all the bedrooms are located) is off limits. All the toys are on the first floor in the playroom and I can better keep an eye on things.

Waiting for the responder to ask what on earth is in the master bedroom that your toddler is not supposed to get into, and why isn’t it locked up then, since you have to assume everyone who comes into your home sees no problem socializing in your master bedroom and looking through your things, what’s the difference between that and sitting in your kitchen or living room?

Anonymous wrote:Fine with my kids entering the master while I’m there but not playing there alone. They are 2 and 4 and there are no toys so they’d just get into things they are not supposed to and likely make a mess.

During play dates I tell the kids the upstairs (where all the bedrooms are located) is off limits. All the toys are on the first floor in the playroom and I can better keep an eye on things.

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Anonymous wrote:Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?

Couldn’t you say that about a living room or a den?

I don’t have sex nightly in my den and I don’t keep my personal medical supplies in my den. If you can’t tell the difference between walking into someone’s den and walking into the closed master bedroom when you’re visiting someone’s home, I can’t help you.

But you do have breakables in the den, your reason for not letting someone in there

Why not say I have cum stains on my bed and I don’t want people to see them if that’s the reason… why say you have breakables.

Also medication you are afraid kids will condume sure should be locked up.

It’s in the medicine cabinet IN THE MASTER BEDROOM, so no, I don’t expect my 3rd graders friends to be playing in there and discussing my vitamin regimen. If you think this is somehow appropriate and not rude beyond all belief, again, I can’t help you. A den or a family room is normal to enter while visiting a home. The master bedroom, and the medicine cabinet in this example, are not.

OMG! Are you crazy. You have not taught your children to stay out of peoples dens? That is where they keep important papers! I’m appalled you have not taught your children that.

P.S. vitamins? We know you meant Xanax

You really are having a hard time with the concept of “Public” and “private” areas of a home when you visit. I don’t know anyone in real life this boundary challenged.

And since when is taking certain medications something to be used as an insult? It’s 2021. Do you also still describe things as “gay”?

Anonymous wrote:I came into this thread thinking it was about parents who didn't want their kids ever coming into the bedroom (which I thought was a little weird but hey, whatever works for your family), and I find it's about guest kids coming into the bedroom -- and some people are defending that! What.

My parents never explicitly told me not to go into adult bedrooms when I was a guest, but yet I still knew. Bedrooms are private and you don't go in unless invited. If was I over for a playdate then yes, I'd go into my friend's bedroom because she invited me there. I didn't go into a sibling's bedroom unless invited because that is a sibling's private space. Same for adult bedrooms.

People shouldn't even have to justify it with stating what's in there that's inappropriate or not. It could be pin straight out of better homes & gardens with no personal items whatsoever, it's still my private space.

Can't believe it's a question.

Anonymous wrote:My kids ask before entering my room because it is not a common area of the home. They have to knock and ask to enter a sibling’s room as well. Privacy and boundaries are important lessons to learn.

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Anonymous wrote:Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?

Couldn’t you say that about a living room or a den?

I don’t have sex nightly in my den and I don’t keep my personal medical supplies in my den. If you can’t tell the difference between walking into someone’s den and walking into the closed master bedroom when you’re visiting someone’s home, I can’t help you.

But you do have breakables in the den, your reason for not letting someone in there

Why not say I have cum stains on my bed and I don’t want people to see them if that’s the reason… why say you have breakables.

Also medication you are afraid kids will condume sure should be locked up.

My kids obey me. So medications in my master bathroom medicine cabinet are, indeed, “locked up” by the rules of my home.

I’m sorry that you’re suddenly feeling exposed and inadequate that our kids mind us and have good manners and respect the rules of the house they are visiting, and your kids are ill-behaved brats who require constant supervision. But you’re the outlier, not us.

You kids will be popping your Xanax by the time they are 14.

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Anonymous wrote:Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?

Couldn’t you say that about a living room or a den?

I don’t have sex nightly in my den and I don’t keep my personal medical supplies in my den. If you can’t tell the difference between walking into someone’s den and walking into the closed master bedroom when you’re visiting someone’s home, I can’t help you.

But you do have breakables in the den, your reason for not letting someone in there

Why not say I have cum stains on my bed and I don’t want people to see them if that’s the reason… why say you have breakables.

Also medication you are afraid kids will condume sure should be locked up.

It’s in the medicine cabinet IN THE MASTER BEDROOM, so no, I don’t expect my 3rd graders friends to be playing in there and discussing my vitamin regimen. If you think this is somehow appropriate and not rude beyond all belief, again, I can’t help you. A den or a family room is normal to enter while visiting a home. The master bedroom, and the medicine cabinet in this example, are not.

OMG! Are you crazy. You have not taught your children to stay out of peoples dens? That is where they keep important papers! I’m appalled you have not taught your children that.

P.S. vitamins? We know you meant Xanax

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Anonymous wrote:Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?

Couldn’t you say that about a living room or a den?

I don’t have sex nightly in my den and I don’t keep my personal medical supplies in my den. If you can’t tell the difference between walking into someone’s den and walking into the closed master bedroom when you’re visiting someone’s home, I can’t help you.

But you do have breakables in the den, your reason for not letting someone in there

Why not say I have cum stains on my bed and I don’t want people to see them if that’s the reason… why say you have breakables.

Also medication you are afraid kids will condume sure should be locked up.

My kids obey me. So medications in my master bathroom medicine cabinet are, indeed, “locked up” by the rules of my home.

I’m sorry that you’re suddenly feeling exposed and inadequate that our kids mind us and have good manners and respect the rules of the house they are visiting, and your kids are ill-behaved brats who require constant supervision. But you’re the outlier, not us.

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Anonymous wrote:Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?

Couldn’t you say that about a living room or a den?

I don’t have sex nightly in my den and I don’t keep my personal medical supplies in my den. If you can’t tell the difference between walking into someone’s den and walking into the closed master bedroom when you’re visiting someone’s home, I can’t help you.

But you do have breakables in the den, your reason for not letting someone in there

Why not say I have cum stains on my bed and I don’t want people to see them if that’s the reason… why say you have breakables.

Also medication you are afraid kids will condume sure should be locked up.

It’s in the medicine cabinet IN THE MASTER BEDROOM, so no, I don’t expect my 3rd graders friends to be playing in there and discussing my vitamin regimen. If you think this is somehow appropriate and not rude beyond all belief, again, I can’t help you. A den or a family room is normal to enter while visiting a home. The master bedroom, and the medicine cabinet in this example, are not.

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Anonymous wrote:Because my jewelry is in there, and some expensive handbags and shoes, and my more precious breakable items, such as a small lamp that has been in my family for generations.

I don’t want kids who are not my own in my room. My kids definitely know not to touch the lamp, for example. They’ve been given the rules not to touch my jewelry without asking me first, whereas another kid might be allowed to get in her mother’s jewelry.

My house, my rules. Why do you care about my preferences for my home?

Couldn’t you say that about a living room or a den?

I don’t have sex nightly in my den and I don’t keep my personal medical supplies in my den. If you can’t tell the difference between walking into someone’s den and walking into the closed master bedroom when you’re visiting someone’s home, I can’t help you.

But you do have breakables in the den, your reason for not letting someone in there

Why not say I have cum stains on my bed and I don’t want people to see them if that’s the reason… why say you have breakables.

Also medication you are afraid kids will condume sure should be locked up.