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Anonymous wrote:The first time I spanked was after my oldest, then 3, had three times pushed his infant sister back from a seated position so she hit her head on the floor, for his own amusement. Timeouts and talking about being gentle hadn’t worked.

I said “this time you’re going to get spanked for doing that. You’ll be spanked now, and if you do it again. This is what it means to get spanked,” and I pulled his pants down, put him across my lap, and spanked him maybe five times.

It certainly wasn’t the last time I spanked, but it was the last time he committed that offense.

This is exactly why I have an issue with parents who spank. Where were you? Why weren’t you making sure your infant was in a safe place and your 3 year old was engaged elsewhere? Putting the responsibility for a three year old to know what their actions mean in this case doesn’t make sense. You reached the end of your capacity as a parent and that’s why you spanked. I had an infant and three year old and never remotely had to deal with this situation because infant was not left unattended with older child and older child was engaged in an appropriate activity.

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Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

You think hitting your kid with a belt and "joking" to strangers that you're going to beat your children to death is better parenting than planned ignoring ...?

No one is talking about beating their kid with a belt (or at least, these posters were not). They’re talking about a quick smack over pants.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why I would cause physical pain to a child because I wasn’t willing to teach them to behave? At that point I would just not have children? Because things like biting, traffic, grabbing knives are all behaviors parents teach children not to do all the time, all over the world, without hitting them. Hitting them would just mean I was a failure and that hardly seems the fault of a child.

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Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

You think hitting your kid with a belt and "joking" to strangers that you're going to beat your children to death is better parenting than planned ignoring ...?

Who is joking about murdering their children other than you….? What the actual F?

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Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

You think hitting your kid with a belt and "joking" to strangers that you're going to beat your children to death is better parenting than planned ignoring ...?

No one is talking about beating their kid with a belt (or at least, these posters were not). They’re talking about a quick smack over pants.

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Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

You think hitting your kid with a belt and "joking" to strangers that you're going to beat your children to death is better parenting than planned ignoring ...?

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Anonymous wrote:^^oh and for the traffic one my toddler randomly sprinted into the road just yesterday, when he was by my side on the sidewalk, after having been spanked (lightly obviously) for it about 6 months ago and never trying it again. A car slammed on its breaks, I lost maybe 20 years off my life, and I screamed so loud i am sure it traumatized him more than the spank that he clearly forgot about since he tried it again. I have heart palpitations just thinking about it again. Some toddlers just do insane and unpredictable things (like sprinting across the neighborhood, not busy, road when I’m RIGHT THERE speaking with my other child, before I can grab him and when the one car of the hour happened to go by) and if a quick spank means he won’t do it again for a few months, then Jesus, getting a spank is better then getting run over.

Obviously your periodic spanking isn't working ...

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Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

You think hitting your kid with a belt and "joking" to strangers that you're going to beat your children to death is better parenting than planned ignoring ...?

Anonymous wrote:^^oh and for the traffic one my toddler randomly sprinted into the road just yesterday, when he was by my side on the sidewalk, after having been spanked (lightly obviously) for it about 6 months ago and never trying it again. A car slammed on its breaks, I lost maybe 20 years off my life, and I screamed so loud i am sure it traumatized him more than the spank that he clearly forgot about since he tried it again. I have heart palpitations just thinking about it again. Some toddlers just do insane and unpredictable things (like sprinting across the neighborhood, not busy, road when I’m RIGHT THERE speaking with my other child, before I can grab him and when the one car of the hour happened to go by) and if a quick spank means he won’t do it again for a few months, then Jesus, getting a spank is better then getting run over.

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Anonymous wrote:My son just kept darting into the road and wouldn't hold hands. One time too many and he almost got hit by a car. I swatted his butt and it never happened again. He held my hand like an angel forevermore.

This seems like a pretty common refrain. When parents who havent spanked finally do it for something serious, it actually really works. Surprising.

Anonymous wrote:Who are you people? Both DH and I were spanked as children and we didn’t grow up to be violent adults with self worth issues. We’re still close to our parents too.

Such conviction about spanking being physical abuse, but I never hear about the emotional and psychological abuse that children endure, which is likely far more damaging in the long run. Judging by the mean, nasty posts I frequently read on DCUM…

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Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought that. Emotional abuse is insidious


I have spanked my son for running in to road repeatedly after being told no and once when he threw his sippy cup at me in anger and broke one of my eye socket bones

Anonymous wrote:My son just kept darting into the road and wouldn't hold hands. One time too many and he almost got hit by a car. I swatted his butt and it never happened again. He held my hand like an angel forevermore.

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Anonymous wrote:Older child bit the younger child. One hard whack with the belt on the behind sent a strong and clear message to the brain: that is completely wrong. After the spanking, biting never happened again. I would say a spanking is as effective as 500 time outs with whining & pleading to be a good child and behave.

Whack! It works, has worked for thousands of years to correct a child. I have actually had people come up to me and marvel how well behaved my children are. I joke and tell them they are afraid of getting beaten half to death so they know to behave.

When my #1 bit my #2, I picked #2 up and hurried away while saying...WE DO NOT PLAY WITH PEOPLE WHO BITE...and then ignored #1 for a good long time while having lots of fun with #2. Biting never happened again.

Ignoring your little kid while lavishing attention on your other little kid in my mind is more damaging than a simple swipe to the bottom. I’d rather get a swat to the bottom than to have a mother’s love withdrawn and given to my sibling. Jesus.