If you took out the housewife part and I just had 14 hours a day with my toddler and baby? Absolutely! I would love it.

I don’t think anyone is happy doing anything 14 hours a day every day.

My husband got called up from the reserves for a 15 month deployment when my son was 18 months. I was already a SAHM but I only survived thanks to the 2x a week MDO at the church down the street. No way I could have done it without that.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg no. Pre pandemic during the toddler years The weekends felt like torture and I could not wait to go to work on Monday. Literally the winter days dragged on forever and I would find myself nearly crying why won’t it just be their bedtimes already!? And I had my DH with me all day. He felt the same way!

Why are the toddler years so bad? Did you feel this way when they were younger or older?

Fwiw I def couldn’t do the 14 hours so it’s not like I’m SAHM material and I have loved the toddler years on the weekends, loved. Newborn time was my hardest, toddler can be hard as they start to have opinions but it’s so fun (for me)

Anonymous wrote:Omg no. Pre pandemic during the toddler years The weekends felt like torture and I could not wait to go to work on Monday. Literally the winter days dragged on forever and I would find myself nearly crying why won’t it just be their bedtimes already!? And I had my DH with me all day. He felt the same way!

Why are the toddler years so bad? Did you feel this way when they were younger or older?

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Anonymous wrote:6am-8pm with your children everyday, no childcare, how would you do?

Hasn't this been nearly everyone for the majority of 2020?

Nope, a lot of us sent our children back to daycare. The idea that women's jobs are so unimportant that they should just stop doing them for a year (or neglect them while they care for their children) is pure misogyny.

...Where did I say women's jobs are unimportant? Geez, uptight much?. Many, most couples I know were both WFH and managing teaching from home. There was no way my kid was going to be in daycare or in-person school during April 2020 when we didn't know anything. High risk or not.

No one is talking about April 2020. Summer/fall 2020.

+1 JFC how did we go from "the majority of 2020" to "April 2020"? We went 5 months without child care. We managed, but it wasn't good for then-1 yo DD (whose speech exploded when she started daycare and I don't think it's a coincidence) or us. I was about to have a nervous breakdown. We got advice from a Ph.D. immunologist and a MPH to do what would be best for our child's development, given the lower risk of Covid for children. Guess what, two stressed out parents who don't have energy and are constantly distracted is not what is best for our child's development.

It's hard, but if there is no other way out I guess you can make it work. However, several ppl already asked a very important question: if there are 2 non-working adults in the house, why is 100% of childcare is on you?

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Anonymous wrote:6am-8pm with your children everyday, no childcare, how would you do?

Hasn't this been nearly everyone for the majority of 2020?

Nope, a lot of us sent our children back to daycare. The idea that women's jobs are so unimportant that they should just stop doing them for a year (or neglect them while they care for their children) is pure misogyny.

...Where did I say women's jobs are unimportant? Geez, uptight much?. Many, most couples I know were both WFH and managing teaching from home. There was no way my kid was going to be in daycare or in-person school during April 2020 when we didn't know anything. High risk or not.

No one is talking about April 2020. Summer/fall 2020.

Ha! That’s what I do everyday. Yes, I’m happy with an occasional day every few months where I feel overwhelmed and burned out. Usually all it takes is a break day abd I miss them by the time I’m back.

Yes, I can spend 24/7 with my kids and a reason I am a sahm.

Yes, plus I started a home daycare and added 4 more kids ages 1-4 into the mix Monday - Friday. Certainly helped to create a routine to our day.

Omg no. Pre pandemic during the toddler years The weekends felt like torture and I could not wait to go to work on Monday. Literally the winter days dragged on forever and I would find myself nearly crying why won’t it just be their bedtimes already!? And I had my DH with me all day. He felt the same way!

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Anonymous wrote:6am-8pm with your children everyday, no childcare, how would you do?

Hasn't this been nearly everyone for the majority of 2020?

Nope, a lot of us sent our children back to daycare. The idea that women's jobs are so unimportant that they should just stop doing them for a year (or neglect them while they care for their children) is pure misogyny.

...Where did I say women's jobs are unimportant? Geez, uptight much?. Many, most couples I know were both WFH and managing teaching from home. There was no way my kid was going to be in daycare or in-person school during April 2020 when we didn't know anything. High risk or not.

Single mom trying to work full time with a 3 year old at home and no help during Covid. I was super depressed. Mainly because there was no end in sight and I had to work late at nights to get things done. I think I would be able to do it if I was married and knew there was someone else to give me a break or help out. I sent my child back to preschool in September.

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Anonymous wrote:6am-8pm with your children everyday, no childcare, how would you do?

Hasn't this been nearly everyone for the majority of 2020?

Nope, a lot of us sent our children back to daycare. The idea that women's jobs are so unimportant that they should just stop doing them for a year (or neglect them while they care for their children) is pure misogyny.

Yep. No reason to suffer if you/your family are not at high risk of severe COVID. My child is in daycare and has had either daycare, grandma babysitting or a nanny throughout the pandemic. Healthy toddlers are likely to get mild symptoms with COVID, and no one else in my household is high-risk. If this were polio or flu, I might think differently. But the work-life balance benefits of having full-time childcare outweighed the COVID risk for us.