Anonymous wrote:I've had an AP for 9 years. No one knows.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m currently living a double life. I’m single and live alone, but I tell people at work I have a partner and young step kids. Works great when people try to slide work onto me (especially during pandemic!!) because you know I have a family of my own. Right??

This is brilliant! I couldn’t pull that off in the small communities where I’ve worked high intensity jobs in the past, but in my new community I would be able to easily - thanks so much for the plan!

Nothing sucks like being single and expected to pick up the slack for all the marrieds/parents in a workplace.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol, two words...Jason Collier...crazy story

https://knewz.com/texas-chief-double-life/

I only have one family, 2 kids, work full time, and have no time to myself. I cannot can't even remotely fathom having another family on the side, or a freaking third! Are these people somehow able to manipulate time or something??

Yes. Some of them may be literal time travelers.
It’s work. I suppose if you have a support team the work is more manageable. Remember True Lies with Arnold Schwarzenegger and Jamie Lee Curtis? He had support.

I haven’t seen that, but I do recall that Schwarzenegger was found to have been living a bit of a double life.

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Anonymous wrote:Like something criminal?

Or like my dad who secretly started a second family while still married to my mom?

Wait, what?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol, two words...Jason Collier...crazy story

https://knewz.com/texas-chief-double-life/

I only have one family, 2 kids, work full time, and have no time to myself. I cannot can't even remotely fathom having another family on the side, or a freaking third! Are these people somehow able to manipulate time or something??

Yes. Some of them may be literal time travelers.
It’s work. I suppose if you have a support team the work is more manageable. Remember True Lies with Arnold Schwarzenegger and Jamie Lee Curtis? He had support.

Anonymous wrote:Like something criminal?

Or like my dad who secretly started a second family while still married to my mom?

Anonymous wrote:Lol, two words...Jason Collier...crazy story

https://knewz.com/texas-chief-double-life/

I only have one family, 2 kids, work full time, and have no time to myself. I cannot can't even remotely fathom having another family on the side, or a freaking third! Are these people somehow able to manipulate time or something??

Anonymous wrote:John O'Neill (the FBI agent in NY who had almost cracked the 9/11 plot before it happened, see Frontline "The Man Who Knew) also had a triple life. Really remarkable to think someone with such an intense job also maintained three separate marital/romantic relationships. His character is also featured in The Looming Tower on Hulu, which is based on his FBI partner/protogee, Ali Soufan's, book about it.

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Anonymous wrote:I lived a double life growing up. At home, life was ruled by a tyrannical, abusive alcoholic father who made our lives miserable. We were always on eggshells, waiting for the next rage to start. Outside the home, I was completely different. No one knew how horrific my home life was. I was well liked, funny, smart, involved in school - a real wholesome girl. I was very careful to keep my two lives separate and when they did come into contact with each other, I lied like the devil to preserve the facade. It all came to an end when my father killed himself. I suffered from PTSD for years and even now, in my 50s, someone walking into my bedroom unannounced will put me in fight/flight mode.

Is that the double life you're talking about?

No it’s not, because it’s not all about you.

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Anonymous wrote:Can be as simple as wanting to have your your cake and eat it, too. (Chump Lady talks about this a lot in terms of cheaters). Some things benefit the cheater from the first life, while other things benefit the cheater from the "double" life. If the benefits outweigh the negatives, it's working well, from the cheater's perspective.

+1

Wonder what trauma someone must have to think lying, cheating, stealing, etc. is "normal" or "acceptable". Is their entire life a lie? Is their entire life about appearances? How sad for all involved. Do these kinds of people ever get healthy? Do the spouses sometimes go along with the dishonest behavior? Seems beyond exhausting, especially if they think that no one knows - but in reality, everyone knows. Do they care if everyone knows? Or do they think they are above everything (ie: no soul, no conscience, nothing in their life is really real)? Fascinating.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can be as simple as wanting to have your your cake and eat it, too. (Chump Lady talks about this a lot in terms of cheaters). Some things benefit the cheater from the first life, while other things benefit the cheater from the "double" life. If the benefits outweigh the negatives, it's working well, from the cheater's perspective.

+1

Wonder what trauma someone must have to think lying, cheating, stealing, etc. is "normal" or "acceptable". Is their entire life a lie? Is their entire life about appearances? How sad for all involved. Do these kinds of people ever get healthy? Do the spouses sometimes go along with the dishonest behavior? Seems beyond exhausting, especially if they think that no one knows - but in reality, everyone knows. Do they care if everyone knows? Or do they think they are above everything (ie: no soul, no conscience, nothing in their life is really real)? Fascinating.