Anonymous wrote:
I can't handle my kids anymore.

They make messes everywhere and won't pick them up. When I throw away their messes (paper, drawings left on the floor, etc.), they cry and scream at me. I ask them to either put their dirty clothes in the hamper or in the hallway, but they stuff them under their beds or in the closet under the doll clothes.

They're in kindergarten and second grade. They refuse to use the bathroom, even when it's really obvious they need to. Second-grader keeps peeing their pants at school, kindergartner keeps peeing on the floor at home.

Every morning, they yell at me about something. Either their hair bow isn't right, I missed up a project they had left on the floor, their breakfast had too many blueberries or the toast was too toasted. Their outfit wasn't what they wanted - second-grader rejects outfit after outfit that I suggest.

I can't take the pee. I can't take the yelling at me every day. I don't want my kids anymore. I'm a terrible mom and I just want to die.

But I'll end up just picking them up at school, listening to them yell at me if I don't have the window open just the right amount, and they'll insist I take them to dinner, since nothing I cook is good enough. I was known for being a great, healthy cook for before these brats were born.

I just can't take it anymore.

Anonymous wrote:You are very fortunate that your children have their Father around to help you.
If you were a single parent, this situation would be much more dire.

However your husband + you have different parenting ideas.
It is imperative that he not undermine or critique your parenting, especially in front of the children.
You both need to get on the same page regarding your parenting techniques.

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Anonymous wrote:The people in this thread that think the husband is the problem based on the limited info provider are blowing my mind.

It sounds to me like the poster is having a mental health crisis and the dad is managing around this. If my husband was yelling that he hates children, and my kids were crying and upset, you can be damn sure that I would be trying to calm them down and ease their burden. I wouldn’t be focused on worrying about who cleaned up some pee in that particular moment.

Yes, maybe these parents getting on the same page would help. But claiming the dad is the big problem here given what we have been told is ridiculous.

+ a million. The dad is not the issue. OP needs to get herself some help and figure out what is going on with the kids- something is up

+1000 mom is having a mental break. Dad is doing damage control.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people in this thread that think the husband is the problem based on the limited info provider are blowing my mind.

It sounds to me like the poster is having a mental health crisis and the dad is managing around this. If my husband was yelling that he hates children, and my kids were crying and upset, you can be damn sure that I would be trying to calm them down and ease their burden. I wouldn’t be focused on worrying about who cleaned up some pee in that particular moment.

Yes, maybe these parents getting on the same page would help. But claiming the dad is the big problem here given what we have been told is ridiculous.

+ a million. The dad is not the issue. OP needs to get herself some help and figure out what is going on with the kids- something is up

Anonymous wrote:The peeing is concerning and atypical. Pediatrician, Therapy for all- both individual and family.

Anonymous wrote:The people in this thread that think the husband is the problem based on the limited info provider are blowing my mind.

It sounds to me like the poster is having a mental health crisis and the dad is managing around this. If my husband was yelling that he hates children, and my kids were crying and upset, you can be damn sure that I would be trying to calm them down and ease their burden. I wouldn’t be focused on worrying about who cleaned up some pee in that particular moment.

Yes, maybe these parents getting on the same page would help. But claiming the dad is the big problem here given what we have been told is ridiculous.