Anonymous wrote:OP I will date you. I'm 39, never married. Own a defense business (been featured in WaPo a few times). Easily clear $750k+ in total compensation. I'm 5'10". Only condition is you never mention your kids or ex. I'm pretty busy but we can splurge on fancy hotels, day trips, or overseas vacations. If you're into videogames then that's cool. I also own a sailboat in Annapolis and like to host outings for friends and business associates.

Anonymous wrote:OP I will date you. I'm 39, never married. Own a defense business (been featured in WaPo a few times). Easily clear $750k+ in total compensation. I'm 5'10". Only condition is you never mention your kids or ex. I'm pretty busy but we can splurge on fancy hotels, day trips, or overseas vacations. If you're into videogames then that's cool. I also own a sailboat in Annapolis and like to host outings for friends and business associates.

Anonymous wrote:

All the replies so far seem to be from women. Man in DC here. OP's criteria sound understandable to me. How realistic they are, I don't know. I'm 45, divorced, have two kids (one in ES, one in MS), 50% custody, make $500k, don't pay any alimony or child support but do cover half the kids' expenses, and am trim and fit and well dressed. I will not have more kids and really don't even want more kids in my life. The kids thing is kind of the barrier to dating in general for me because most women I meet who are interested in me either have kids at home or want to have kids.

For what it's worth, I hate "the outdoors." I am not going camping or mountain climbing or whatever. It's really annoying how being outdoorsy has become such an expectation, at least in DC.

Great, if you think you and OP may be a fit, share your info with her, and perhaps there will be a DCUM love connection.

All the replies so far seem to be from women. Man in DC here. OP's criteria sound understandable to me. How realistic they are, I don't know. I'm 45, divorced, have two kids (one in ES, one in MS), 50% custody, make $500k, don't pay any alimony or child support but do cover half the kids' expenses, and am trim and fit and well dressed. I will not have more kids and really don't even want more kids in my life. The kids thing is kind of the barrier to dating in general for me because most women I meet who are interested in me either have kids at home or want to have kids.

For what it's worth, I hate "the outdoors." I am not going camping or mountain climbing or whatever. It's really annoying how being outdoorsy has become such an expectation, at least in DC.

Anonymous wrote:All the replies so far seem to be from women. Man in DC here. OP's criteria sound understandable to me. How realistic they are, I don't know. I'm 45, divorced, have two kids (one in ES, one in MS), 50% custody, make $500k, don't pay any alimony or child support but do cover half the kids' expenses, and am trim and fit and well dressed. I will not have more kids and really don't even want more kids in my life. The kids thing is kind of the barrier to dating in general for me because most women I meet who are interested in me either have kids at home or want to have kids.

For what it's worth, I hate "the outdoors." I am not going camping or mountain climbing or whatever. It's really annoying how being outdoorsy has become such an expectation, at least in DC.

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Anonymous wrote:Gosh what happened to finding a guy who

has a great sense of humor
loves the outdoors
is great with kids
can cook

all this income bracket crap and height business makes me think you're completely unrealistic and highly superficial.

I can see why you're divorced, honestly.

What’s so great about a guy who “loves the outdoors” when you live in DC?!

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Anonymous wrote:When my husband and I divorced and I hit the dating scene again, I was worried that it would be hard to meet men. I had never done online dating before and wow, a while new world. Even during covid, it’s not hard at all!

The problem is that it’s too hard to meet men I’d realistically be into.

I am in my mid 30s, attractive, two kids, financially independent and professionally successful. Here is what I’m finding:

1. The guys who want to have kids of their own like, yesterday, because they realize the clock is ticking. This is totally understandable but I really, really do not want any more kids.

2. The guys who are not in a great financial place because they are paying out tons of alimony and child support. I am not necessarily looking to be supported, but I am also not looking to support someone else. Realistically I think the lowest I could go from an income perspective would be about $250k for a single guy or that equivalent after alimony and child support has been deducted. Anything short of that and there’s going to be a pretty substantial income gap that will make me feel uncomfortable. Even that would present a large gap.

3. The overgrown lax bros who can’t believe I have kids. “Is that your nephew in the picture?”

4, The guys who are five foot seven and under- I really feel bad for them but I just can’t do that.

I’m sure there’s more... is it too much to ask to find a professionally successful guy ages 38-50 who either (a) has kids od his own or (b) doesn’t wNt kids is his own, but also doesn’t mind dealing with mine 50% of the time.

Where do these men exist?????

-The vast majority of American don’t make more than 250k so that is very limiting.

-You should not have pictures of your kids in your online dating profiles! You could attract predators, my god.

-you need to state clearly on your profile that you do not want to have any more biological kids of your own

-You already have kids so there’s no rush. These standards are limiting, but hey, if it’s what you want, just keep looking. That’s fine and I am not being snarky when I say that. But you are limiting yourself to a small pool of men.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This isn't real, right?



I mean...this isn't real, guys, right???

DP - at least one person said her circumstances are similar to OP’s. So yeah, I believe it’s real.

This is DC. Tons of women make $250k/ year + around here. Some of them divorce and want to date.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my husband and I divorced and I hit the dating scene again, I was worried that it would be hard to meet men. I had never done online dating before and wow, a while new world. Even during covid, it’s not hard at all!

The problem is that it’s too hard to meet men I’d realistically be into.

I am in my mid 30s, attractive, two kids, financially independent and professionally successful. Here is what I’m finding:

1. The guys who want to have kids of their own like, yesterday, because they realize the clock is ticking. This is totally understandable but I really, really do not want any more kids.

2. The guys who are not in a great financial place because they are paying out tons of alimony and child support. I am not necessarily looking to be supported, but I am also not looking to support someone else. Realistically I think the lowest I could go from an income perspective would be about $250k for a single guy or that equivalent after alimony and child support has been deducted. Anything short of that and there’s going to be a pretty substantial income gap that will make me feel uncomfortable. Even that would present a large gap.

3. The overgrown lax bros who can’t believe I have kids. “Is that your nephew in the picture?”

4, The guys who are five foot seven and under- I really feel bad for them but I just can’t do that.

I’m sure there’s more... is it too much to ask to find a professionally successful guy ages 38-50 who either (a) has kids od his own or (b) doesn’t wNt kids is his own, but also doesn’t mind dealing with mine 50% of the time.

Where do these men exist?????

-The vast majority of American don’t make more than 250k so that is very limiting.

-You should not have pictures of your kids in your online dating profiles! You could attract predators, my god.

-you need to state clearly on your profile that you do not want to have any more biological kids of your own

-You already have kids so there’s no rush. These standards are limiting, but hey, if it’s what you want, just keep looking. That’s fine and I am not being snarky when I say that. But you are limiting yourself to a small pool of men.