Anonymous
Post 05/04/2021 00:33     Subject: Badly Behaved Coaches

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Anonymous wrote:If my kid were on such a team, I’d complain to the director of the club. If it weren’t corrected, we’d find another club.


How about your kid gives 100% and if its not good enough so be it. Dont lower the standard to make it appear your kid is actually successful if they are truly not.


Are you a child? Or one of these coaches? Or THAT coach??? The OP was commenting on a coach displaying unprofessional behavior with ALL his team, the other team and the referee. Why do you keep trying to make this about one persons kid who isn’t trying or good enough? That’s deflection. This is a thread about coaches who are making the grade, not kids.


The fact is the new normal is to lower the expectation of athletes. Make it seem that its just a game that everyone can play together and the worst kid belongs on the field with the best kid. That everyone did a good job. We all know thats living a lie. We need a thread about parents who raise snowflakes and are are given an award for failure in the particular activity they chose to compete in.


this thread was started about a U10 coach from a middling club. How about we recognize that 9 year olds aren't athletes, they are 9 year olds


Exactly!! +1000.

Yelling & screaming at 9/10 year olds is child abuse. There’s can be NO reason why coaches need to yell/scream at kids especially at this age. Winning a U10 soccer game is not important enough to abuse kids.


And that right there my friends is why the current and future generations are doomed. Please go take your less talented kid who is too soft to be told he did anything wrong and kick rocks. If raising your voice to yell is abuse you have lived the most sheltered life ever. Dont be a part of a competitive athletic environment and expect to change it make your little sissy feel they are always right even when they fail.


You are the problem with kids sports. I've seen so many of you.

My kids are in college now and we've had coaches like you. They drive their kids like maniacs and then you never hear about their kids in sports again once college rolls around. I've seen so much of this testosterone driven bs that amounts to absolutely nothing. You aren't very smart but yelling gets you noticed and makes you feel big. The rest of us know what you are.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 21:50     Subject: Badly Behaved Coaches

Anonymous wrote:Funny thread. 9 out 10 College Soccer coaches are verbally abusive. My advise to you is if you have an elite player, desensitize them early. Kids needs to learn to take criticism otherwise it's going to be that much harder to be succesful.

If your child is playing for fun and does not have aspirations of playing at the college level or higher, move clubs and keep it fun.


It does seem to get worse. My ES kid's coaches are super protective of the kids having a positive experience but my kid was in shock that the coaches from the same club were yelling at the HS players when he watched a game. Poor kid could not believe coaches would be so mean.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 21:30     Subject: Badly Behaved Coaches

No card issued?
No report to NCSL?
No email to club officials?
No constructive action?
Just a disgruntled parent coming on to anonymously disparage another club on a message board
Great just great
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 20:17     Subject: Re:Badly Behaved Coaches

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Anonymous wrote:Remember competitive sports are results driven recreational sports are enjoyment driven. Two very different animals that I think we are trying to crossover to appease the almighty dollar.


treating U10 travel that way is a good way to ensure the kid quits by U13


Usually the ones who should have never been in it to start


Preposterously stupid comment. If you don’t enjoy it first, you won’t ever be good enough to matter. Doesn’t mean you need to enjoy every aspect of it. But you certainly need to enjoy playing the game to remain competitive.


Nah bruh. This coach gets it. Hopefully he beats the kids after the game too if they messed up.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 19:43     Subject: Re:Badly Behaved Coaches

I wish our coach would yell. It would mean he cares.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 19:16     Subject: Re:Badly Behaved Coaches

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Remember competitive sports are results driven recreational sports are enjoyment driven. Two very different animals that I think we are trying to crossover to appease the almighty dollar.


treating U10 travel that way is a good way to ensure the kid quits by U13


Usually the ones who should have never been in it to start


Preposterously stupid comment. If you don’t enjoy it first, you won’t ever be good enough to matter. Doesn’t mean you need to enjoy every aspect of it. But you certainly need to enjoy playing the game to remain competitive.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 19:13     Subject: Re:Badly Behaved Coaches

Anonymous wrote:Every club should have one and only one travel team for each age group all the ones who get cut should play in the clubs rec program comprised of B team thru D team.


Was that sarcasm? Why cant there be different levels of travel with different expectations? Why make the player pool so small? So many reasons why this is far from a good solution.

Perhaps its time players learned that 90 mins of training 2-3 a week is not sufficient for development and a coach expects you to work on your own and watch games. It’s really mismanaged expectations that causes a lot of these problems. Absolutely carp coaches exist like OPs. Every time i hear about a coach like this, Everyone knows its a gfr coach at the younger ages.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 16:28     Subject: Badly Behaved Coaches

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If my kid were on such a team, I’d complain to the director of the club. If it weren’t corrected, we’d find another club.


How about your kid gives 100% and if its not good enough so be it. Dont lower the standard to make it appear your kid is actually successful if they are truly not.


Are you a child? Or one of these coaches? Or THAT coach??? The OP was commenting on a coach displaying unprofessional behavior with ALL his team, the other team and the referee. Why do you keep trying to make this about one persons kid who isn’t trying or good enough? That’s deflection. This is a thread about coaches who are making the grade, not kids.


The fact is the new normal is to lower the expectation of athletes. Make it seem that its just a game that everyone can play together and the worst kid belongs on the field with the best kid. That everyone did a good job. We all know thats living a lie. We need a thread about parents who raise snowflakes and are are given an award for failure in the particular activity they chose to compete in.


this thread was started about a U10 coach from a middling club. How about we recognize that 9 year olds aren't athletes, they are 9 year olds


Exactly!! +1000.

Yelling & screaming at 9/10 year olds is child abuse. There’s can be NO reason why coaches need to yell/scream at kids especially at this age. Winning a U10 soccer game is not important enough to abuse kids.


And that right there my friends is why the current and future generations are doomed. Please go take your less talented kid who is too soft to be told he did anything wrong and kick rocks. If raising your voice to yell is abuse you have lived the most sheltered life ever. Dont be a part of a competitive athletic environment and expect to change it make your little sissy feel they are always right even when they fail.


Reading comprehension not your thing? OP was pretty clear - this was a coach losing it at his entire team, the other team and the ref. One kid or a couple of kids - sure, maybe they shouldn’t be in travel soccer or he is being tough as a specific strategy in those individual kids. Not good coaching - but maybe all he ever learnt himself. When it is the entire team, the other team and the ref - at that point it isn’t anything to do with the kids - this is a problem with the adult.

It is the stupidity of this that is so
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 14:34     Subject: Re:Badly Behaved Coaches

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Remember competitive sports are results driven recreational sports are enjoyment driven. Two very different animals that I think we are trying to crossover to appease the almighty dollar.


treating U10 travel that way is a good way to ensure the kid quits by U13


Usually the ones who should have never been in it to start


What age group is your DC? Come play for me and I'll yell at and belittle your kid if you would like and see how long their passion for the game lasts.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 14:04     Subject: Re:Badly Behaved Coaches

Anonymous wrote:Every club should have one and only one travel team for each age group all the ones who get cut should play in the clubs rec program comprised of B team thru D team.


so every club should declare bankruptcy?
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 14:03     Subject: Re:Badly Behaved Coaches

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Remember competitive sports are results driven recreational sports are enjoyment driven. Two very different animals that I think we are trying to crossover to appease the almighty dollar.


treating U10 travel that way is a good way to ensure the kid quits by U13


Usually the ones who should have never been in it to start


Coaches of sports that start older love that attitude and are happy to pick up the athletes fed up with soccer because of troglodyte coaches.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 14:01     Subject: Re:Badly Behaved Coaches

Every club should have one and only one travel team for each age group all the ones who get cut should play in the clubs rec program comprised of B team thru D team.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 14:00     Subject: Re:Badly Behaved Coaches

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Remember competitive sports are results driven recreational sports are enjoyment driven. Two very different animals that I think we are trying to crossover to appease the almighty dollar.


treating U10 travel that way is a good way to ensure the kid quits by U13


Usually the ones who should have never been in it to start

And you can tell because you think your omnipotent. Check your ego.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 13:59     Subject: Re:Badly Behaved Coaches

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Remember competitive sports are results driven recreational sports are enjoyment driven. Two very different animals that I think we are trying to crossover to appease the almighty dollar.


treating U10 travel that way is a good way to ensure the kid quits by U13


Usually the ones who should have never been in it to start
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2021 13:37     Subject: Re:Badly Behaved Coaches

Anonymous wrote:Remember competitive sports are results driven recreational sports are enjoyment driven. Two very different animals that I think we are trying to crossover to appease the almighty dollar.


treating U10 travel that way is a good way to ensure the kid quits by U13