Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 18:17     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:We conceived our first child in August 2013. Her sex drive cratered immediately. Zero sex during that pregnancy. She had some tearing during delivery, developed thyroid issues too. Add in a bad sleeper and return to work, and we had essentially zero sex for almost a year after he was born. So basically 20 months.

Things started to improve a bit, when literally the first time we had full sex in a year, she got pregnant (surprise). Sex drive completely disappeared at that point (2016), parathyroid issues developed, weight gain, financial stress for a time, and then severe job stress (from a job that helped alleviate the financial stress).

Basically, aside from the occasional encounter that I have to insist on (and she ends up enjoying), I haven’t had a real sex life in 7.5 years. We probably average one exhausted, half-hearted encounter every few months. She’s anxious about another pregnancy and can’t stand IUDs, so the plan is for me to get snipped when COVID ends. She says that will help, but who knows.


My wife said the same thing and I got snipped. That was close to three years ago, we've probably had sex 4 times since. I've accepted it. Once our kids are out, I am out.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 16:17     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
We conceived our first child in August 2013. Her sex drive cratered immediately. Zero sex during that pregnancy. She had some tearing during delivery, developed thyroid issues too. Add in a bad sleeper and return to work, and we had essentially zero sex for almost a year after he was born. So basically 20 months.

Things started to improve a bit, when literally the first time we had full sex in a year, she got pregnant (surprise). Sex drive completely disappeared at that point (2016), parathyroid issues developed, weight gain, financial stress for a time, and then severe job stress (from a job that helped alleviate the financial stress).

Basically, aside from the occasional encounter that I have to insist on (and she ends up enjoying), I haven’t had a real sex life in 7.5 years. We probably average one exhausted, half-hearted encounter every few months. She’s anxious about another pregnancy and can’t stand IUDs, so the plan is for me to get snipped when COVID ends. She says that will help, but who knows.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 12:53     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
About six months - last 2 months of pregnancy + 4 months after.

Non-pregnancy related, about 2 months.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 12:06     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You do realize men complaining about infrequency of sex is incel behavior, right?


And you do realize that infrequent sex with a man who does NOT complain means he is quietly getting sex elsewhere?


Wow these are both very bad takes.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 11:49     Subject: Re:Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
6 mos due to a deployment, but when we’ve both been around it’s probably been 3 weeks.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 11:12     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not married, but curious. Longest I’ve gone in relationship was two weeks.


Ha! Once you have kids it's a whole new ballgame. Every time we try, a kid opens the door. So frustrating.


This makes zero sense. Having kids has not negatively impacted our sex life. Stop making excuses. And I'm the wife
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 11:09     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Many years ago we had a DeadBedroom and there was a 9 month period right before my ultimatum. Since then, longest has maybe been a week (due to travel or medical reasons) but usually 3 or 4 days max.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 09:54     Subject: Re:Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
18 hours. We usually do it at least 2X a day.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 09:45     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
8 years and counting.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 09:23     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:You do realize men complaining about infrequency of sex is incel behavior, right?


And you do realize that infrequent sex with a man who does NOT complain means he is quietly getting sex elsewhere?
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 09:19     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not married, but curious. Longest I’ve gone in relationship was two weeks.


Ha! Once you have kids it's a whole new ballgame. Every time we try, a kid opens the door. So frustrating.


Lock it?


We obviously do! But the locks have that hole were you can stick something in it to open and the littlest pries it open.


Invest in a new lock for your sex life. Geez this is sad


I get it, it doesn’t solve the issue though. Once a kid is knocking on the door the sex is over. If you can keep going at it as you child knocks and calls for you at your door, you have much better ability to focus than I do
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 09:02     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:I am DH. It is approaching 8 months for medical reasons. I am probably done with sex -- medical. Too much pain from tumors pressing against nerves.

Would you be ok with your DW having a boyfriend to meet her needs?
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 08:57     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
A few years. It started off with medical issues, then it was him, not me.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 08:57     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
About two years and counting. My husband says he lost his drive but he won’t discuss it further and I don’t really know what else to do. We snuggle and we laugh and we have a wonderful friendship, he’s my best friend, but I am so sad about losing intimacy.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 08:56     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not married, but curious. Longest I’ve gone in relationship was two weeks.


Ha! Once you have kids it's a whole new ballgame. Every time we try, a kid opens the door. So frustrating.


Lock it?


We obviously do! But the locks have that hole were you can stick something in it to open and the littlest pries it open.


Invest in a new lock for your sex life. Geez this is sad


Seriously, what the hell is wrong with people? Are you always an ass of just when trolling anonymous boards jeering at other people’s sex lives? You’re as sad as you sound.