Anonymous wrote:This is a tough one. I've definitely heard of babies being "dismissed" from daycare or nanny shares because they cry too much and clearly need more attention than daycare or a share can give them. They may just be especially fussy babies, or be colicky, or have something more serious going on like a developmental disability. If your nanny is experienced, I'd trust her that the crying is abnormal.

By the way, there actually is a genetic disorder called Cri du Chat that was named after the babies' distinct cry: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYQrzFABQHQ

I think your role here is to support your nanny. Have a talk with her and let her know you hear her. Have a plan to give it a few weeks, and if the crying stays the same, then you need to address it directly with the other family. The share is not going to work if the nanny feels she can't care for both children adequately, and an extremely fussy/irritable baby is one reason for that. It will suck and be SO painful to do, but will be the best for everyone (including baby, who likely needs to be held 24/7 by a dedicated caregiver).